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Formal Attire: Did you say it on the invite?

Original post by marc_rai

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Okay, my reception starts at 8pm and I really want people to dress up. I'm thinking about wording the invite 'blacktie-optional' (i saw that on the knot), but my FH is saying he doesn't care. Basically, I want the affair to be elegant and I don't want people to show up looking like they are going to work (which I know some people in my family would probably do). Do you think it sounds snotty to say the black tie thing? DO you think people would get it that I want them to dress formal? Does anyone have any other suggestions on wording?

misawa18 Thread views: 1,933

Re: Formal Attire: Did you say it on the invite?

My friend put 'Black Tie Welcome'

BriBri529 Thread views: 1,933

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I have been planning on using formal reception to follow, but wasn't sure people would get it, so I considered black tie optional. I think I am going to use formal reception to follow. I like the idea of formal attire but don't know how to word it so I am skipping that idea.

MegLehner Thread views: 1,933

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I didnt write Black tie Option or Formal reception to follow I would say about 60% of the men wore tuxes anyway and those who did not wore dark suits. 2 of DH's cousins wore cocktail dresses which I thought was inappropriate, but most of the women wore gowns.
I think you know your guests best and if they wouldnt dress formally otherwise you should put 'formal reception ...'

sunflowers74 Thread views: 1,933

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This is something that I've really been worried about. FI's family is all from OOT, so they aren't used to fancy weddings (he said that at the normal wedding where he is from they use disposable utensils and plates, etc) so I want to make sure that they know to wear suits, and gowns, but I don't want to make it black tie.

I like the Formal Reception following idea. I think that's what I may use.

Thanks for another great tip girls!

lilacwine Thread views: 1,933

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...sigh... makes me want to re-order my reception cards...

Crismicka Thread views: 1,933

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We put Black tie optional

Sweetie2004 Thread views: 1,933

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Posted by nferrandi

Fh didn't want to put people out so we skipped the Black Tie thing, but I did want to make it clear that our reception was going to be dressy, so I put 'Formal reception immediately following ceremony' on my invites.

I think this is a great idea!

helen05 Thread views: 1,933

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We're doing ' Formal reception to follow...

michele31 Thread views: 1,933

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From a past bride I will say that you need to consider this: Will a guest NOT attend because they don't own or cannot afford your idea of 'formal' attire? Unless your Dad is a US Senator or something like that I think it is unfair to expect men to rent a tux for your wedding. I mean, you invite people to your wedding beause you love them and want to share a special day with you, not to make them dress a certain way. I think that 90% of people can and will dress perfectly for an affair, and those other 10%...well nothing you write on an invite will change how they show up anyway. I would hate to have someone not attend my wedding because they could not afford to go out and buy a new gown (or they don't already own one) and/or tux. JMO