Freaking out

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:24 AM

Freaking out

Yesterday at work we were told that there will be no raises for at least a year...I really need one but I can't complain about that because at least I still have a job... but then I found out that our jobs are not secure (at all). I know I shouldn't freak out unless I have to but I have too much to lose. I have so much anxiety. We could never afford our condo on FH's salary and we currently have no savings because of this stupid wedding.

Sorry to whine I am sure other ppl are in the same boat, but it all hit me last night and I am so upset.

megsher Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:28 AM

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Do not freak out, there is nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry for the added stress and I am praying for you.
Also, I feel like a lot of companies are saying this, so if you are really concerned, you could ask your boss how it affects you.

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:31 AM

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Posted by megsher

Do not freak out, there is nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry for the added stress and I am praying for you.
Also, I feel like a lot of companies are saying this, so if you are really concerned, you could ask your boss how it affects you.

I did and he said he doesn't know.. they wont tell him whats going on. I dont think his job is secure either... they basically told him he will find out when and if we are all being let go.

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:32 AM

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I know its scary but dont freak out! It will only add more stress to your life. Bring positative energy towards you!

MrsList09 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:33 AM

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I understand how you feel. I had an anxiety inducing conversation with my boss yesterday too (what a way to start the weekend!) and I know the company my dad works for is having a rough time too. Since we're trying to buy our own place AND pay for the wedding right now, I have no idea what we would do if I lost my job and/or if my dad did (not only for wedding-related things but also because I don't want my parents to lose their house!) I just try not to think about it.

xosweetiexo Posted: Jan 17, 2009 12:24 PM

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Omg Im so sorry!!! I totally understand why you would be freaking out. I dont even know how FH and I are going to finish paying off this wedding. I wish you the best and I pray that you and FH will still have your jobs

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Jan 17, 2009 12:28 PM

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Try having a boss who does not pay you on time and gets mad when you ask for your check!! Yet goes around and talks about the new saab convertible he is getting!!!
Any lawyers on here???? lol

FutureMrsG Posted: Jan 17, 2009 12:36 PM

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Try to relax...much easier said than done. Maybe you can start sending out resumes just incase you are laid off. I know that a lot of companies are NOT hiring but you never know. At least you will have a jump start on the job search if the worst happends. I totally understand how you feel about the cost of the wedding-ALthough FH and I are paying for most of the wedding my parents are paying for the photographer and the Dj and my Dad was laid off a week before Christmas. I feel terrible everytime my Mom asks when the next payment for the DJ is due (which is soon)...they are worried about my wedding and I am worried that they have limited income right now.

gina409 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 01:21 PM

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thats def scary but try not to freak out unless u gotta freak out..it will only stress u out more

flairforfashion Posted: Jan 17, 2009 02:30 PM

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Just be very fortunate that you have a job right now. And, just work extra hard that you stand out from the other employees. It really helps to keep your job secure. When an employer is looking to make cuts, they get rid of the employee who doesn't do the job.

mlcvln129 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 03:45 PM

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My FH found out that they're potentially cutting 90 TEACHERS in his district next year. Yeah, we're freaking out like you are. . .because he's 5th from the bottom in his department. It's his tenure year, and he's finishing up his masters in July. . .we're counting on him having a job next year (yet alone a masters degree raise) so that we can buy a house at this time next year.

tonysbride09 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 04:06 PM

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I think everyone is in a similar boat. Some people are in denial and think they wont be laid off but its a sad reality that can happen. Freakn out wont solve the poblem. Maybe just cut back on things you dont need (including the wedding ) so you can put some money in savings. I feel your pain though

Deeglasser Posted: Jan 17, 2009 06:01 PM

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this is def something you have no control over... and truthfull, FH's job, my mother's job, and a friends' corporate job in Melville are not giving raises either... so everyone is hurting... it's not a good time for anyone... if i were you , i would think of a backup plan... do you have any other skills? would you be willing to work in a restaurant if you had to?

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 06:13 PM

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

I know its scary but dont freak out! It will only add more stress to your life. Bring positative energy towards you!

I totally agree. There's nothing you can do to stop whatever is happening so while you do have your job just feel happy and take it day by day.

FutureMrsC614 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 06:17 PM

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don't freak out!! Think positive thoughts...................and think about your future plans. Start sending out resumes, and looking at the paper to see what else is out there, just in case. maybe it's meant to be that you look, because maybe there is something else out there for you. Maybe it's a sign, or maybe it;s not. my point is that, even though you feel like you have no control over this, you do. it depends on how you react. you have to TAKE control of this! Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to get a part time job just incase?? maybe you could find something in the paper that is part-time that is in your field? what do you do for a living? what type of company do you work for?

dutchessev Posted: Jan 18, 2009 01:48 AM

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Jayla127 Posted: Jan 18, 2009 02:19 AM

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We all need raises but because of the financial state of the ecomony it's not happening. Just be thankful that you still have a job. Don't stress yourself out anymore than you have too.

meara Posted: Jan 18, 2009 08:04 AM

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First sorry that you are stressed - I think it's a very common feeling right now. The best thing you can do is try to make some plans for if it happens withouth letting yourself stress. .. I read an article that said the worst thing we can do is just stress b/c we have no control. but uncertaintly is the worst place we can be so to take some form of planning/action - like do a few job searches, you could even apply for a few jobs. . or something that feels like you have some control and HOPEFULLY you won't need it!!!