It's Friday the 13th!! Hopefully everyone has a great day despite that! I hope it doesn't rain the entire weekend.. it stinks that it's beautiful during the work week and gross when we are off!
Anyway... what, if anything, do you feel you need to sacrifice or compromise by being with your FH?
Since FH is a mechanical engineer, he has to live by a major city or urban area. I have always wanted to move either to upstate NY or completely out of state. However, this is not possible bc of FH's job. It is impossible for him to find work in any of the places I would love to live so when it's time to buy a house, I will be compromising for Suffolk County or Westchester area while he will be dealing with a longer commute to NYC.
Also I am not keen about some of FH's friends so that is another thing I 'sacrifice'. Maybe 'sacrifice' is the wrong word. I deal with it and don't give FH a hard time about it.
soon2beMrsHenry92912
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My sacrifice is location. I moved to Maryland about 5 years to find a teaching job to gain experience, and met FH shortly after. I've tried for years to find job back home and FH has been all for it. He even got very close to landing a job in NY, but it didn't work out. Now, FH has an amazing job in DC that I could not ask him to leave. So while we did dream of moving to NY, it seems as though that dream will have to be put on hold. His happiness is more important than living on LI.
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I relocated down to Maryland for FH. He has a job working in congress so he cant really do that job form NY. I love lining down near DC but I do miss my family and close friends a lot.
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FH is an electrician for Local 3 so most of his work is in the city or surrounding boroughs. Because of that, he really wants to move to LI. Most of my family and friends are in Westchester, whereas his are in Queens or LI so I feel like I really won't be seeing my friends as much.
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We both have different religions so I am definitely sacrificing my church wedding--- which is fine, I'm nto too much of a holy roller but he's very anti baptism and I think when we have kids I would like to do that.
Also he has a family member that I want to strangle on the regular so dealing with that family member forever is a big sacrifice.
he has to sacrifice some too because we are definitely living in my family's house and since I own it we wont get to go out and buy a new one and get that whole fun experience. I know he is kinda sad about that.
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I think it will be that I will be making the money for the first few years. FH is in school now and will be be going to law school after we get married so he wont be working that much so i may have to get more hours
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Posted by CaughtMyFish
FH is a NYC teacher so we will always have to live somewhere not too far from Brooklyn. I am in Suffolk now and really like it out there (South Shore area) but we will likely move to busy and overcrowded Nassau. I grew up there but really dont want to move back.
Oh well, gotta compromise!
We are both south shore suffolk girls. I too absolutely HATE the congestion of Nassau.
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Posted by FutureMrsCat050412
FH's work hours :( He leaves the house at 7am and comes home between 10 and 11pm Monday through Friday. I guess that's why I take on so much & keep myself busy. I'm not missing anything at home bc FH isn't there so I try to get home around the same time as him. He also works saturdays in the summer which totally stinks bc we can't plan anything...
Sunday is our day together
Same here! Def FH 's work hours We have Sundays all day together and Monday nights... but the rest of the week he works and I get upset when we can't make plans Friday and Saturday nights... but this is only temporary. Hopefully after the wedding he will get a different job!
