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Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Original post by 12-3Princess

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OK, so a friend I barely speak to, but invited to our wedding because we WERE close in college and b/c I run into her at other people's weddings, emailed me yesterday and said she wanted to know if she was invited with a guest... she said she just wondered cuz it didn't say on the envelope but she was looking into coming and getting a hotel (cuz she lives in FL and the wedding is in NY)... and she said she's living with her ex-boyfriend now and wouldn't know anyone at the wedding.

We're honestly trying to cut down on numbers AND she and I never talk except at other people's weddings a few times a year... But if she's coming from out of state, I feel bad - so do you think I should just let her bring a guest???

thanks!!!

ETA: she DOES know a few other people at the wedding actually... a couple of our other good friends... but 2 out of the 3 people that are coming that she knows do have fiances that will be attending.

nferrandi Thread views: 1,746

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Considering she is coming from out of state I would let her bring her boyfriend. Not only for the sake of the wedding, but otherwise she will have to stay in a hotel room by herself.

LisaJill Thread views: 1,746

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Hi! Ok, I think if she is from NY then she comes alone, there is a reason why you invite someone with or without guest. But because she is already being nice enough to fly here and spend the extra expense to attend your wedding then I think that you have to say ok.
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babybug631 Thread views: 1,746

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would invite her with a guest only because she's coming out of state to go to your wedding. I think it's the right thing to do.

October Bliss Thread views: 1,746

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

This is a tough situation. Because you are not close now, I would be inclined not to make an exception for her. Because she is coming in from out of town, I would be inclined to make an exception for her.

Ask yourself if you really truly want her to come, and whether or not she will still fly to NY without a guest. Will telling her no, put the final nail in the coffin of your friendship? Do you care if it does?

Another consideration, you said she told you she is now living with her EX-boyfriend. I assume that is the guest in question. Do you know him? Do you like him? What do you know about their break-up and subsequent make-up? Is their relationship likely to become an issue with the people you would seat her with?

I did really like the idea someone else posted of telling her you need to wait for other RSVP's to keep within your budget before you can give her a definate answer.