Friends with an ex?

coxmandi Posted: Feb 15, 2005 10:55 PM

Friends with an ex?

Are you or your FH/DH friends with an ex?

If so, how much contact do you have with the ex, ie phone calls, emails, hanging out etc?

My FH doesn't talk to his ex's but I have an ex who I talk to kinda regularly. Just wondering what other people are comfortable with.

LisaT Posted: Feb 15, 2005 11:18 PM

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I keep in touch with an ex, he's one of Al's friends (and how Al and I met )

We hang out pretty often as we have lots of friends in common. But sometimes we'll just have him over for dinner...

Jax430 Posted: Feb 16, 2005 12:04 AM

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I am still friends with 5 exes, believe it or not!

The first I dated for 5 months when I was 15. He has been one of my closest friends for the last 10 years and was in our wedding party.

The second I dated for all of a month in HS. We're still very close and talk every couple of weeks or so. He was at our wedding.

The third I dated briefly in HS. We don't see each other often, but he was at my wedding and we talk on occasion.

The fourth one I dated my freshman year of college. He was responsible for introducing me to my main group of college friends, and to my DH, who I didn't begin dating until 2 years later. He was also in the wedding party!

The fifth I also dated in college. He lives in LA now, and we talk when we get a chance. DH and I stayed with him when we visited LA.

DH is friends with one of his exes, but they don't talk often. I get along with her pretty well. I only met her and her BF once before our wedding and we had a good time together.

I am really lucky that Brad gets along well with all my exes and accepts my friendship with them.

emilain Posted: Feb 16, 2005 08:59 AM

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I'm friends with a few of my ex's. My husband doesn't like them regardless, even though they are really nice guys and he would get along so well with them. But I don't blame him, I don't care to know his ex's either. These feelings NEVER go away, we've been together for 15 years and the jealousy thing is still there.

Marcie Posted: Feb 16, 2005 09:06 AM

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I speak with one of my ex's.
Actually quite often - a couple of times a week, it is though email.
Another one of my ex's usually emails me once a year.

DH doesn't speak to anyone (at least to my knowledge).
His one serious girlfriend, died in a car accident a couple of years ago.

SeptWed Posted: Feb 16, 2005 09:27 AM

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Nope....i see them occassionally, but as I said to them when we broke up 'i have plenty of friends, i don't need another'. It was too tough for me to do so kudos to you who can stay friends.

JimmysBride Posted: Feb 16, 2005 09:28 AM

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No way. I tried to be friends with my last ex before DH and it was a HORRIBLE experience. I really wanted to stay friends with him since we were together 5 years and I really grew to love his family and our mutual friends but he just could not let go or accept that I had moved on with my life.

DH also tried really hard to accept our friendship and I give him alot of credit for that. He put up with alot.

DH's Ex who he was also with for 5 yrs or more used to E-mail him or call about 2 or 3 times a year. But ever since he told her we were getting married, she has stopped contacting him and he was never the one who contacted her.

I had no problem with his casual friendship with her, in fact I wish I could have had at least that with my ex. But anymore than that (hanging out w/exes, frequent phone calls, etc) would probably be a problem for both of us. Exes are exes for a reason.

Kriss2c Posted: Feb 16, 2005 10:28 AM

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I am not with any of mine...

tourist Posted: Feb 16, 2005 12:15 PM

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I really only have 2 exes. One I lost touch with the other is part of my circle of friends from college. We had a rought patchfor a while right after we broke up, but we are freinds now & it was weird at first for DH, but he is fine with it now. he & his GF were at our wedding.
We don't call each other, occassionaly we email, but mostly we see each other in the context of the group.

Janice Posted: Feb 16, 2005 12:21 PM

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none...DH and I had started dating in high school, he was my first boyfriend, we did break up when we first went to college, not good times, so anyone we met through those 5 months we left in the past.

RedRoses Posted: Feb 16, 2005 02:21 PM

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Still talk to some of them. FH has never really liked most of them. Problem is that FH and I were close friends b4 we started dating, so I told him all the details of my encounters with these other guys and once we were together he felt really uncomfortable about me still hanging out with them. It's gotten better over time, but it's been kinda rough. He doesn't talk to his ex(es). Oh, and another reason why he doesn't like most of them is b/c they mighta treated me like crap, so he's like 'why would you even want to talk to so and so,' which makes sense!

AliKing Posted: Feb 16, 2005 02:24 PM

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Neither of us have any contact with exs. We both cut all ties when we met.

Butterflybride Posted: Feb 16, 2005 02:41 PM

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I was good friends with one of my exes and it bothered my parents more than it bothered DH. We still talk on occasion, but ever since DH and I got married, a conversation with him is a rare occasion and we NEVER hang out any more.

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Feb 16, 2005 06:40 PM

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i am friends with an ex although dh isnt crazy about the idea and because of that we dont talk as often as we once did

luvsbob4603 Posted: Feb 16, 2005 07:00 PM

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I am not friends with any of my exes i dont talk to them. but there is only one person i do talk to but he lives in las vegas i wouldn't call him a friend just a accquiatance.

RedHead Posted: Feb 16, 2005 07:07 PM

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No...neither of us talk to any of our exes...
An ex of mine tries talking to me on IM every now and again...

BriBri529 Posted: Feb 16, 2005 07:12 PM

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neither of us are friends with an ex, but FH must stay in contact with his, since they have a son together

nov2004bride Posted: Feb 16, 2005 07:14 PM

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I keep in touch with 3 of my ex's. 1 that even came to my wedding and one is my dentist

I talk to 1 of them everyday on the phone.

september2004 Posted: Feb 16, 2005 07:59 PM

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DH doesn't keep in touch with any of his, I keep in touch with one. He and I exchange emails every few months and will speak maybe once or twice a year...

DH doesn't care, the ex was invited to the wedding and he didn't give him the time of day. The ex and I view each other as friends who had no business dating each other whatsoever