From your no RSVPS

HSsweethearts Posted: Apr 20, 2011 10:52 PM

From your no RSVPS

Have you been getting any notes or checks, or anything?

I got one check, anda few notes, a few frowny faces,

I get really bummed when I just see an 'x' next to 'declies with regret' with no explanation or anything, which is what most of them have been. I feel like I would at least write something.

msmontoute Posted: Apr 21, 2011 12:14 AM

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HMMMM, this is a good question. I think it would depend on who it is from, there are some people that if they just said no with no explanation, it wouldn't matter, but from others, I would be offended!!

IrishAli Posted: Apr 21, 2011 03:14 AM

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A few frowny faces and a few notes

No gifts

FutureJOC Posted: Apr 21, 2011 06:50 AM

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we had a few that just checked off no, a few that wrote a note along with it explaining why they couldn't come and then we had 3 people send us a check, which I thought was very nice of them.

BlushandBashful Posted: Apr 21, 2011 06:52 AM

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I've only had 2 so far. One wrote a long note and sent a gift, and one did nothing at all.

dpanzarino Posted: Apr 21, 2011 07:52 AM

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It makes me sad as well! I've gotten a lot of long emails before people sent back their 'no' replies. Two of my good friends are pregnant and just put on bed rest. I was very sad!!!

I even got a 'no' with no name!!! lol

spdy540 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 07:59 AM

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I have gotten nos with no explanation and 2 with a note. No gift

AugustFeather Posted: Apr 21, 2011 08:06 AM

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I have to decline a wedding soon. I am attending her Batchelorette party and probably bridal shower. FH and I will be sending a check in a card with our declined RSVP with a note. I have only had to decline one other wedding years back and I also sent a check.

Im getting Married Posted: Apr 21, 2011 08:07 AM

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1 sent a check (so unexpected)

The other 5 either had frown faces and one had a short note saying they were sorry they couldn't attend but no reason.

dpanzarino Posted: Apr 21, 2011 08:24 AM

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About 4 years ago, I had to reply no to a good friend's wedding since my whole family (20 members) were taking a trip to Italy. I sent a LONG email with an apology before I sent out the reply card. I also attended her bridal shower. Well, we never spoke again. A few months after her wedding, she called me and told me how hurt she was and how I should take this as a learning experience for the future. I even sent a gift!

Well, I did take this as a learning experience... not to be a PSYCHO! I've gotten a number of emails, and I'm understanding! Things happen! Life does not revolve around my wedding.

I forgot to mention that I did receive one check with a card with the RSVP inside!! And it was from my brother's girlfriend's parents!!! So sweet and generous!!!

KarynK Posted: Apr 21, 2011 08:25 AM

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We got some notes, 2 checks, and sadly a card.
My FH's aunt mailed us a card explaining why she feels she cannot go to the wedding. Her husband passed away unexpectedly last winter, and she is still trying to keep things together. She said thye both loved weddings, and danced all the time at them, and she is saddened that she cannot get herself to come to ours. My Fh went to show the card to his mother and father, don't know if it's concern or he's mad she won't be there. But I understand. It's one person we really will miss at the wedding.

dpanzarino Posted: Apr 21, 2011 08:34 AM

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Posted by KarynK

We got some notes, 2 checks, and sadly a card.
My FH's aunt mailed us a card explaining why she feels she cannot go to the wedding. Her husband passed away unexpectedly last winter, and she is still trying to keep things together. She said thye both loved weddings, and danced all the time at them, and she is saddened that she cannot get herself to come to ours. My Fh went to show the card to his mother and father, don't know if it's concern or he's mad she won't be there. But I understand. It's one person we really will miss at the wedding.

Oh, that is terrible, but so understandable!!! Everyone mourns in their own way!!

After my grandmother passed away, my grandfather couldn't attend Mass anymore. It was so sad!!!!

fdnybride163 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:14 AM

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i dont think I have ever said no to a wedding before i love going to them...

but if for some reason we couldnt go I would at least send a presnt off the registry

pjc92980 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:15 AM

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maybe it is me, but I wouldnt (and havent) sent a note or a gift with a response card. When i reply 'no' all i do is check off the box and mail it back. If FH and I end up sending a gift, we typically send a card and check separate from the rsvp and write in that, sorry we cant make it etc.

Cataverri Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:30 AM

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Out of like 12 No's... only 1 note and no checks so far.

Moonmist09 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:32 AM

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most of my 'yes' rsvps's had little notes that i thought were cute.
all of my no's just said 'no'
i don't care that they don't write anything, just send back my RSVP's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
no gifts

evita2781 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:33 AM

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Posted by IrishAli

A few frowny faces and a few notes

No gifts

this. a gift would be nice...hehe

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Apr 21, 2011 09:34 AM

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I've had three no's and two of them had notes on them and one was a verbal no with explanation to FH (FH's boss). He's the only one that sent a present though (2 steak knives set and wooden block chopping board from our CB registry )

leesah85 Posted: Apr 21, 2011 10:17 AM

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when i usually send a 'no' response, i send the gift when it gets closer to the wedding, like a week or two before just FYI - usually because if i don't attend a wedding, i'll just buy something off of the registry instead instead of sending money

HSsweethearts Posted: Apr 21, 2011 10:40 AM

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I have to say as a bride getting a LOT of no's.

(I seriously broke down crying a few times... )..

I really appreciate the little notes.

One cousin wrote 'with much regret' next to declines with regret and explained when we saw them at another wedding that the wife (the one not related by blood) has a family reunion that weekend and people staying at her house.

Some other people wrote notes on the back or on a separate piece of paper. I thought that was at least nice, although two pissed me off.

One was from a friend since freshman year of HS who actually lives in NY (in fact her parents still live like 10 blocks from me), and she explained in her note that she has 3 weddings in June and it was a'really hard decision' and she couldn't take off for all 3. I felt kind of bad.

Another cousin from FL wrote something like 'We hope we can meet soon to celebrate'...I posted about this already, but we have gone to FL sooooooo many times. I guess they're waiting for us to come down there again.

I don't know, I feel kind of sad. I also noticed that people saying yes generally put a check, and people saying no generally put an x, and seeing this card with just an x makes me sad.

Maybe it's just the overall thing of how FH's family is mostly not coming and a lot of my older HS friends are flaking out too.