Frustrated - Why can't people RSVP!!!

So our rsvp date is less than a week away and I am missing 75 response cards (110 people in total). I just don't understand why people can't just mail these things in. I mean I sent them out 5 weeks ago!

Once we get to our minimum I just intend to count whoever is left as a no - we are doing everything for this wedding solo and I do not have time to hunt people down. We guaranteed 200 so I just hope we get 48 more people to respond yes this week!

I hear ya! I haven't sent out wedding invitations yet, but for every party that I have ever held in my life, I feel like I exert so much energy trying to track people down!

It's such a pain. We're inviting about 300 people to our wedding, so we are dreading having to track down X number of folks.

::sigh::

Uggggg! Is this what i have to look forward to?

Our rsvp date was two weeks ago...we are still waiting on 20% of our invites to respond.

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Posted by GT143EA

Uggggg! Is this what i have to look forward to?

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Just thinking the same thing.

I am not looking forward to waiting for RSVPs to be mailed back. I am usually one of the guilty ones that sends them back at the last minute...but it is usually because I am waiting to find out if FH has to travel for work. I hope my family and friends do not use it against me

ugh this is what annoys me. i mean its a self-addressed stamped envelope, it boggles my mind that people just cant check 'yes' or 'no' and drop it in the mail!

LOL - my rsvp passed & I'm still waiting on 61 replies Wedding is in LESS than one month.....In all honesty.....I almost want them to show up & have to wait to have a place setting set up for them - Would that be rude to have them wait?? LOL & Maybe sit them w/people they don't know......WHY can't they simply mail reply cards back???

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Posted by vnv126

I feel the same way as you. My RSVP date is 4/15 ( 2 weeks ago). I am missing more than 60RSVP. I haven't even met my minium yet. I just don't understand if people know that we will go to the wedding, why can't they RSVP earlier?

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OMG!!!!! I'm in the SAME BOAT! 4/24 Do we have the same guests??? LOL

Sorry this is happening! Unfortunately it happens all the time. I don't know why. Many of the non-responders for our wedding had thrown weddings before and so KNEW the importance of RSVP.

I just emailed/phoned them and told them to let me know by the end of the week otherwise I would assume no. You HAVE to say the part about 'assuming it's a no' otherwise people STILL won't respond.

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Posted by pa56

Sorry this is happening! Unfortunately it happens all the time. I don't know why. Many of the non-responders for our wedding had thrown weddings before and so KNEW the importance of RSVP.

I just emailed/phoned them and told them to let me know by the end of the week otherwise I would assume no. You HAVE to say the part about 'assuming it's a no' otherwise people STILL won't respond.

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thanks for the tip!

I have no answer, EXCEPT, people stink!! Talk about bad etiquette!! The irony is that they are always the people who throw stones @ glass houses.

People are just rude and inconsiderate!!!

Get on the phone.
I know it *****, but just do it.
'Hey, I haven't gotten your RSVP yet, I hope you can make it, please let me know as soon as possible, I need to let the catering hall know'
Leaving voice messages is a lot easier.

When We had our engagement party our RSVP date was the day after our nieces 1st birthday party, so most of his side waited to tell us VERBALLY... annoying.
I actually had to RSVP to my OWN party for my brother (his wife and son) because they figured 'you know I'm coming', but we were using the rsvp cards to help us with seating.

And... ready for a story?? (I posted this on myspace prior to the party, and had to edit a little here, so bare with me)


joe, my brother, sisterinlaw, a friend and myself went to my godmothers the saturday before the invitations went out and saw 3 of her 4 children (my fathers cousins) and one of their kids. i told my God Mother that we weren't inviting everyone because it's too expensive and we're already over our limit.
backtrack:
now, when we were making the list of invites my father said just to invite his aunt and uncle, not their kids/grandkids... i wanted to invite EVERYONE, but that's like 15 people and we were already OVER.

so now 2 days after we send out the invites, joe and I were out shopping and my god mother calls the house and tells my mother she got her invite and asked if her daughter was invited (not asking about her other kids) and my mother said no, my god mother decided to tell my mother she will not be coming to the party unless her DAUGHTER is invited... so my mother gives my father the phone, where my GM tells him she won't come unless ALL her kids are invited... he then tells her that he never saw the list of guests... BULLSH!T! he said not to invite them, to invite his friends (close friends that are over a lot) so he has people to talk to and hang out with, he's paying EXTRA for them....
so.. now my i look like an bad person for not inviting his cousins...
so joe said he doesn't want to be 'bullied' into inviting extra people, but understands i'm upset because aunt k and i are close and she IS MY GODMOTHER...
so my mother and father didn't sleep that night, they are both upset over this...
My father calls my godmother/his aunt the next day and explains that he'll invite her daughter, but can't afford everyone else, they leave it at that.. no idea if they were going to show.
So waiting for replies... it's now a week after the rsvp date and I call his cousin who in turn tells me THEY'VE HAD TICKETS TO A SHOW SINCE CHRISTMAS AND CAN'T MAKE IT!... so no clue if my godmother is coming...

we make the seating chart... didn't include them.

sooo who shows up the day of the party??
my godmother and uncle! they see their not on the list, so I have to make a lie that staples messed up the seating chart and there was no time to fix it, but they are at table 9.
Now she tells me that 'I'm here for you, but uncle X is upset his children aren't here.. we'll talk about it later'
tells joe the same thing and both my parents AND their friends that were at that table (who i had to explain this whole situation to)...
45 minutes later a card is thrown at me and the two of them storm out of the party...


So.. I know I totally hijacked your thread, but this was just my engagement party... a wedding is TOTALLY different...

So.. to avoid an 'incident' like this... get on the phone, get your FH on the phone, his mother, your mother, your MOH, etc.... or send emails..

you don't want to have someone show up the day of and not have a seat and cause a scene when they figure out that they were 'excluded' because of their lack of manners.