FSIL

Tina120206 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:37 PM

FSIL

I don't like her. It all built up this weekend and we went at it. Is it safe to assume that she is out of my wedding party or do I have to face her and tell her I don't want her in it anymore. I was asked by my FH to ask her against my wishes and we really don't get along no matter how hard I tried...to the point where I exploded. She ruined my e-party and I don't want her doing it at my wedding either. I'd rather he back out. It's not like she has done anything but cause me pain since we got engaged.

heatherfaith Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:41 PM

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I hear ya. I asked to be nice and now wish I hadn't asked her to be in it. all she does is complain and couldn't care less about the wedding. I wish she would have just said no. but now Im stuck.
I guess you could tell her. she shouldn't want to be in it if your not getting along. but people are crazy its like they are being in the wedding just to piss us off.

sarahradio5 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:41 PM

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yikes! What does your FH say now about not having her in? That's a tough one. How close is she to your FH?

cindyandkevin Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:42 PM

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Sounds like she needs to get the boot, you don't want someone like that in your BP. Talk to your FH about it first tho, since he was the one that wanted her in it in the first place. Have him talk to her for you since it's his sister.

Tina120206 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:43 PM

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Seriously, she is going to stay in it, just to piss me off. Ughhh... The reason I wanted no bridal party and just a MOH was so I didn't have to deal with drama. I just added his sister and I got more drama then I could ever imagined. I'm serioulsy feeling like bagging this whole wedding and going to Vegas, b/c I know she is going to ruin it for everyone.

EmberLynn Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:44 PM

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Ugh! I feel for you. But I have to say my FSIL is a doll. I love her so much! Mind you shes 15 and pretty sees me as a big sister.

I think you need to have a heart to heart with your FH. You deserve not to have your wedding ruined by her. She has no right to make this any harder for you than it is. He needs to see that. Your going to be his wife, he needs to realise that and stand by your side.

Tina120206 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:45 PM

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He wants me to give it time. I've tried, I've sent her letters when she was sad about stuff, I sent her gifts, flowers, going away college presents, asked her to go shopping, to the vineyards and then she goes and craps all over me. There is only so much a person can take, you know? She kept saying she wanted us to be sisters, but she treats me like the enemy and I'm tired of trying to be her friend when she continues to stab me in the back. I spent my entire e-party without her saying ONE word to me. You would think she would at least say hi, since she is in the bridal party, nope couldn't be bothered. Spent the time on the couch making FUN of me with her cousin. That hurt.

jellybean1420 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:55 PM

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I dont get along with FH's brother or his wife. You have gone way out of your way to have a relationship with her and if she is going to be a b****, I said F her. I dont even want FH's brother and sister-in-law to attend my wedding b/c of the horrible things they have said to both him and I, I couldn't imagine having the b**** in my bridal party. I would say cut her out of the bridal party....it's your day and its what makes you happy. Of course you have to invite her to the wedding as I do FH;s brother and SIL but you def. dont hav to have her in your bridal party if she doesnt respect you. Like I tell FH, I am not an a**hole and will not be treated like one. If they can't respect me or accept me I have no use for them.

P.S. FH's brother and SIL didnt talk to us at our engagement party either. They arent even happy we are getting married and told us they dont even want to attend our wedding. Some people deserve to get their a** kicked. LOLOLOL.

Tina120206 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 02:59 PM

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Posted by jellybean1420

I dont get along with FH's brother or his wife. You have gone way out of your way to have a relationship with her and if she is going to be a b****, I said F her. I dont even want FH's brother and sister-in-law to attend my wedding b/c of the horrible things they have said to both him and I, I couldn't imagine having the b**** in my bridal party. I would say cut her out of the bridal party....it's your day and its what makes you happy. Of course you have to invite her to the wedding as I do FH;s brother and SIL but you def. dont hav to have her in your bridal party if she doesnt respect you. Like I tell FH, I am not an a**hole and will not be treated like one. If they can't respect me or accept me I have no use for them.

P.S. FH's brother and SIL didnt talk to us at our engagement party either. They arent even happy we are getting married and told us they dont even want to attend our wedding. Some people deserve to get their a** kicked. LOLOLOL.

You mean I have to invite her???

dianadrw Posted: Mar 09, 2006 03:16 PM

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Why people act like this is beyond me. You just have to look at what a sad individual she is that she is spending all this time and energy hating you. But I will tell you, it's not worth it to spend another ounce of energy thinking about her. My suggestion is to let it be. As far as her being in the bridal party, I would tell FH that you do not want her in it and I'd have him deal with her. I just wouldn't deal with her anymore. You don't need this crap.

Tina120206 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 03:24 PM

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I know, I hear you. I just sit here and cry about it. When she said she wanted to be my sister, I was so happy. I never had a sister and I thought it would be fun. Thing is, joke was on me. I did more for this girl then my FH ever did. I told her things about me nobody knows, just so she wouldn't make the same mistakes I did at her age. The sad thing is nobody sees that, everyone just remembers me screaming at her and calling her names. So quickly we forget how many times she backstabbed me and I let it go.

jellybean1420 Posted: Mar 09, 2006 03:30 PM

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After putting up with FBIL and FSIL for 2 yrs. we had a screaming match a number of times as well. The sad thing is they dont have a reason to dislike me....they are just so snotty and stuck-up and think they are better than everyone. They talk shi* about our wedding as well. Afte awhile, you just have to ignore them and worry about your life with FH b/c that is all that matters inthe end.