FSIL from he!!- sorry so long

nferrandi Posted: Jun 20, 2004 06:08 PM

FSIL from he!!- sorry so long

Wow, it never ceases to amaze me what a biotch she can be. Mt FH is a twin and he's engaged to this girl. They just picked their place and set the date (Snuff Mill, next June) and she was telling us about it. She tells us that they're having a small wedding because they're just 'not into the wedding thing' like we are. She was putting down that we care about our wedding and want to celebrate it with all of our family and friends. She then proceeds to imply that we're having 'cheap' food at our wedding because we're having 200 guests and they're having 100 and spending more per person (and by the way, they're not spending much more than we are). Yes, her caterer is Abigail Kirsch and the food will be great, but we're going to have wonderful food too. My FH asked her if they were going to have band or a DJ and she says they're having a band and rips DJ's apart. She says that they're going to have to spend $10,000 on a band because that's the only way you can get a good one. She's 'not going to have a cheap $5000 band' for her wedding. FH points out that our bands are $5500 and they're great. She says that she's never heard of a good band that comes so cheap. Then she says, I hate talking to you guys about this stuff because you get offended. FH and I were like, well what do you expect when your offensive?! My blood was boiling! I hate that she gets to me, but she does. She intentionally pushes my buttons. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I feel like there should be smoke coming out of my ears. The only good part of the day was when she said that they want to move to Florida in a couple of years. Goodbye and good riddance!

Rainmama Posted: Jun 20, 2004 06:12 PM

Re: FSIL from he!!- sorry so long

All I can say is ....What a BIOTCH!

'Goodbye and good riddance!' LMAO!

BlondeJD Posted: Jun 20, 2004 06:45 PM

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OMG! I would be glad to give that biotch a smack down for you. I hate people who do that kind of stuff!! My MOH has done that to me a few times, but in reference to some other wedding she went to at Glen Island--'oh, you're spending $X for photo? yeah, so-and-so spent more.' ***? I'm convinced that people who say things like this do so b/c they're really insecure. But, it's SO hard to get past it b/c we all spend so much time (not to mention $$$$) planning this event and the last thing we need is to have someone tell us that we're cheap or what we're doing isn't good enough. What a hooch.

pschica Posted: Jun 20, 2004 06:55 PM

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i have a sil like that...she came around though and actually told me with tears i her eyes on our wedding day that even though she still doens't like weddings and all the hoopla - she liked ours, she is sometimes hard to deal with still but we have gotten much closer.....i hope yours will come around too!

sarahthegreat Posted: Jun 20, 2004 06:56 PM

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wow - i have a few girls at work who are getting married and act like if you are spening only x amount on your hall, dj or whatever that you are having a cheap wedding and are therefore beneath them. tell her she needs to get over herself and just plain refuse to speak to her about wedding stuff. it sux b/c thats a good way to get close to her, but if she's going to act like a biotch leave her be.

nferrandi Posted: Jun 20, 2004 07:04 PM

Re: FSIL from he!!- sorry so long

I just find it ironic that for someone who claims to not be into the whole wedding thing, she certainly seems to have something to prove. She was telling us how they're going to the South Pacific for their honeymoon and we were like, great good for you. She's just a miserable girl and she'll never be happy. I think it must really bother her that FH and I are so content with our life together because she tries her best to make everything we do sound so unimportant. They're moving to Florida (they presently live in Manhattan) because they've 'already done the city thing' and they've 'eaten at the best restaurants' and she doesn't want to stay here forever. She can keep moving around for the rest of her life and if she doesn't find happiness in herself, she's never going to be happy no matter where she is.

sarahthegreat Posted: Jun 20, 2004 07:07 PM

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sorry to hear that. i know people who are like that and no matter what, they will never be satisfied. just keep on doing what you are doing as far as your own wedding goes. it sounds like she def needs to stop being so full of herself or she may lose her fh.

nferrandi Posted: Jun 20, 2004 08:23 PM

Re: FSIL from he!!- sorry so long

Posted by smm2675

sorry to hear that. i know people who are like that and no matter what, they will never be satisfied. just keep on doing what you are doing as far as your own wedding goes. it sounds like she def needs to stop being so full of herself or she may lose her fh.

She's got her FH brainwashed into thinking like her. I've been with my FH for 9 years and in the 3 years FBIL's been with his girlfriend he has changed A LOT! I feel really bad for my FH because he no longer has the relationship with his brother that he once did and wished he still had. His brother doesn't seem to care so much.

RedHead Posted: Jun 20, 2004 08:30 PM

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Wow...to be honest the person who i feel bad for is you FBIL! Obviously she is jealous of your wedding, which is the only reason she would make IDIOTIC comments like she did...

sarahthegreat Posted: Jun 20, 2004 08:34 PM

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Posted by nferrandi

Posted by smm2675

sorry to hear that. i know people who are like that and no matter what, they will never be satisfied. just keep on doing what you are doing as far as your own wedding goes. it sounds like she def needs to stop being so full of herself or she may lose her fh.

She's got her FH brainwashed into thinking like her. I've been with my FH for 9 years and in the 3 years FBIL's been with his girlfriend he has changed A LOT! I feel really bad for my FH because he no longer has the relationship with his brother that he once did and wished he still had. His brother doesn't seem to care so much.

that just sux...really sorry to hear that. its funny what weddings can do to a family. i hope things get better for your fh & his bro. hang in there.

james'pokey Posted: Jun 20, 2004 09:58 PM

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I am so sorry! Don't let this ruin this wonderful time for you! Good Luck!

Kriss2c Posted: Jun 20, 2004 10:07 PM

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I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let her childish antics get you. I don't know what she feels can come out of knocking your wedding.... but she's out of line and anyone listening in on that conversation would get the same impression.

MrsBrad Posted: Jun 20, 2004 10:09 PM

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Were you engaged first? She is just JEALOUS

nferrandi Posted: Jun 20, 2004 10:13 PM

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Posted by MrsBrad

Were you engaged first? She is just JEALOUS

Yes, we were engaged first and she was very jealous. As soon as I got my ring she was big time pressuring FBIL. She had always said that she wouldn't stay with him if he didn't propose within 3 years. Lo and behold, he proposed a couple of weeks before their anniversary. And they even had the balls to try to get married before us! That idea got squashed real quick.

nov.bride Posted: Jun 20, 2004 10:17 PM

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Don't let her get to you.....she sounds jealous & irritating.

bogiedmb41 Posted: Jun 21, 2004 02:08 AM

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she sounds like a real piece of work. it really gets people mad when you agree with everything they are saying and pretend that it doesnt bother you. i wish you luck she sounds like shes trying real hard to be 'different'.

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 21, 2004 07:04 AM

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she sounds very b@tchy....... also.... she sounds like she's very jealous as you two as a couple and perhaps thats why she's trying to put you two down?

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Jun 21, 2004 09:58 AM

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That is just not cool at all. She is comforting herself by saying all these things. She probably already knows that her wedding is not going to be like your's so she is claiming that she is not into the wedding thing so that everyone will say....it is simple just like she wants it. There is nothing wrong with simple some people are just simple in their own way which is a nice characteristic but to be nasty and put others down is just not nice at all!

Don't let her get to you!!!!!!!! It is not worth it!