FSIL long vent

ok, well FH has only ONE sister [thank god] so i have 1 sis in law, that i try to be close to and nice too...
she's moved to Canda where her husband is from, and i usually call her once a week, she NEVER TOLD ME she was going or leaving...yes i know it dand or email her talk to her online through AIM practically everyday or every other day.

well FH mom has relatives in INDIA...FH aunt married an indian man, so she went their for vacation.....

and NOW FSIL went to go visit and spend time with her aunt too in INDIA...

i even asked FSIL how things were, anything new, any plans?

it does not affect me when/how/why she takes her vacation or decides to go awayy...but i mean she couldve been a lil courteous and let me know... know what i mean?? i dunno how to explain it

FH said i shouldnt care if she told me or not because it doesnt involve me, or relate to me and its not 'affecting me' and while YES i agree to all of that, it was just a matter of being nice, she so SHADY SHADY SHADY

i realized she wasnt online for a whole week, and her fone was turned off, and than one of our mutual family friends said to me, 'hey Erica must be having a lot of funn' and im like 'yea i mean Canada is okay shes away from her immediate family' and the other person lets call her 'Lisa' said ohh shes in indiaa!! she'll get to see the taj mahal and im all puzzled and i didnt say anything i was just like yeahh i guess so it was one of the 7 wonders of the world

im hurt cuz i dont feel like im part of the family, i had to find out from a 3rd person my sis in law was in another country...
and than i ASKED FH... and he goes maybe she didnt wana tell anyone , it doesnt concern u blah blah blah

i just decided now when she comes back from her trip shes coming straight to NY, ill probably see her- im not gona ask her omg how was itt?? let me see pics from ur vacation etc...

i dunno tell me what u make of the situation- maybe im just over reacting

it is kind of weird....why couldn't she just tell you she was leaving? oh well. your FH knows her better, maybe that's just how she is

nope never, i mean i am not CLOSE to her- u know shes not my BEst friend...but i am relatively nicee...and shes nice too.

shes inquisitive about my wedding..always asking what florist , did i do the invitations yet..etc i never take offense to it, because im sure she wants to feel included...and i do that to my level best.

but i was shocked that she didnt tell me , oh well i guess


oh and WAIT for this one: when my FMIL was leaving to india, i called HER to say good bye and i also asked if her Erica was going with her, and she said omg ofcourse nott how can she go she has a 1 1/2 year daughter it would be unwise, what if Addison gets sick etc etc ...


and now whadaya knoww..she there WITH her one and a half year old daughter too

I'm not sure of the situation...perhaps there is something I'm not aware of that is missing.....
but I find it very odd that she wouldn't share that information with you. After all, its not something private......taking a trip like that is not 'personal;' its strange that she would keep that a secret from you.
Perhaps you should ask her.....don't be defensive about it just tell her you thought it was 'strange' (thats the best word here) that she didn't tell you that when you guys talk every week.
It is very strange.

oh good idea yeah i know it is STRANGE

thanx