FSIL Problem - LONG

I am really annoyed at my FSIL. I just found out she called my mom to RSVP for my shower (FH told me whole story without revealing actual date of shower). First off she is 10 days LATE, even after messages FMIL & my mom left her. Secondly - she told my mom she wouldn't be able to be there on time, would probably be about 2.5 - 3 hours late, but to still order the dinners for herself & 2 nieces and oh by the way she is bringing her boyfriend's daughter My mom was really to embarrassed to question her and just said OK, not wanting to cause any problems with my in-laws. When my FI heard all this he called to find out why they would be so late, to which she said 'An old friend will be in town that day and I just must see her!' What am I?
I think I have really had enough of her crap! We invited her & my 2 adorable nieces & her boyfriend to the wedding, when she responsed she sent back for 7 guests. We had to call to find out that she thought the inviation was meant for her boyfriends 2 kids (1 boy 16 & 1 girl 12) and the son's girlfriend!!!! To keep peace we let her get away with this (FI & I Must be LOONEY!)! Now she pulls this stunt. I am really pissed at her. My only consolation is my darling FH told her if she can't be at the shower on time - DON'T COME AT ALL. ( At this point, I personally don't care if she attends, comes late or is on time). Of course now they are totally not speaking! This is not how I imagined everything to be. Aren't we future brides entitled to some peace while we run around trying to plan everything? Shouldn't we at least be able to rely on our families to NOT torment us! Beyond everything else that has gone wrong - My FI & I needed this like a hole in our heads.

Sorry this is so long - I just wanted to let out some steam. FH is so angry that I was afraid if I starting ranting he would blow his stack again and call her back to yell some more.

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This is just the kind of stuff you don't need but don't let it bother you. It is easier said than done, but it isn't worth the stress.

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You should be proud of your FH for standing up to her. There aren't many guys out there that would want to deal w/ that. Try to focus on the positive, like the fact that your man loves you a whole lot, and would obviously do anything to make you happy.

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let me answer by saying, no, us future brides are not entitled to peace during planning our wedding. if there were no stress from someone or someting, there would be something wrong.
i must say your fsil has some nerve to rsvp back for 7 people on your wedding invite. if that was me and i opened that and saw 7 on my invite, i would have thought maybe one of my contacts fell out! seven?!?
I think she needs to learn so manners.
I totally agree with wedbabe , be proud of FH!

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It still amazes me how people think that the world revolve around them. 7 people!!! She must be off her rocker!!! I would of told her to kiss off!
2 of my FSIL are just as bad. The only thing I can be thankfull for is that they are 3,000 miles away! Both of them might not even come to our wedding. Can you imagine not going to your own brothers wedding????
I wish you & all the brides some peace!! I think we need it!!

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Welcome to the 'My FSIL blew off my shower' club. I TOTALLY understand how upset you feel, and how you feel like you were asking SO MUCH of her to come to your shower.
I also think you should tell the 16 year old to keep the girlfriend home. THat is insane. You and your FH are being very, very nice to her. I would not be so nice. She should feel lucky to be getting a great SIL like you.

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OMG...I can't believe how rude and insensitive some people can be. Lucky for you to have a FH who'll stand up to her.

I agree with someone above-no girlfriend for the 16 YO. That's just pushing it too far, in my opinion. My invites are just about done, and I'm imagining what I will do if I get response cards back like you did. Thanks for helping prepare me for it!!

Honey, do your best to stay head and shoulders above her pettiness. Who cares if she can't make the shower...obviously something that's more important to her has come up. Well, there will be lots of more important people at your shower. Concentrate on them!

I know that everything will work out fine, and you will have a wonderful time at your shower.

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I'm sorry you have to go through this. You shouldn't have to. Just stay strong, keep your chin up and don't sweat the small stuff.

This is your day and your shower and I'm sure everything will be just fine!

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Thank you ladies!! It's always nice to know that there are a ton of more normal,everyday down to earth people out there - unlike FSIL !

Hope all your planning is 100 times easier than mine!