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FSIL/FMIL Vent ~ {UPDATED} aarrgghhhh

Roed522 Posted:

FSIL/FMIL Vent ~ {UPDATED} aarrgghhhh

OK This is a bit long but I need advice girls...
They (FMIL & FSIL) are driving me nuts
{pours a glass of Pinot}
OK I sent out e-mails to all of my girls a few weeks ago, including FSIL who I asked to be in my BP because I thought it would be the right thing to do. I told them that they had to order their dresses NO LATER then 4/14. Thaat day came and went, I didn't stress over it too much because I figured I still had at least another week to work with. As of yesterday everyone had gotten their orders in except for guess who. Yup, FSIL, arrggg I just wanna scream because it's been like pulling teeth. Everytime I ask her she'll answer me with a question and nevers gives me a straight answer. Yesterday I spoke with the shop owner and she told me point blank that if my dress order wasn't placed by today that I might not have my dresses. I am sooo pissed and totally stressed. I call her stresing and she's like 'oh I can't make it today do you know if... and proceeds to ask me a ton of questions that I can't freakin answer because I don't work at the ******** shop. Pick of the damn phone and call her yourself and stop sending me senseless e-mails and wasting more time. needless to say 5:30, the cut off time came and went. Her mother, FMIL happen to be here (that's another story ) and what does she do, gets on the phone calls the shop and tells the woman, 'Look my daughter can't make it there and I'll call you tomorrow to place the order' She gets off the phone and says 'see what was so hard about that'. What did she think the woman was going to say. She's already told me I'm taking a chance if I didn't order today. I was tempted to place the order without hers and then let her order hers on her own and whatever happens happens, at the same time I know that if I did that it would have created a whole lot of drama around here. We'll see what happens tomorrow, should I e-mail or call her and tell her that she has up until a specific time if not I'm going to have to place the order??? I just wanna cry, then FMIL says 'oh it's nothing to stress over'
I can tell you one thing if someone did that to her daughter she would have her short hairs twisted!!
Sorry I told ya'll it was a bit long.

OK so after all the BS about the damn dress I figured I would take a step back and let things go but NOooooo, not FMIL... this is what she says in her last e-mail to me, (just when I thought this would all be dropped) .... 'Please do not think she doesn't care. She was told that she had until tonight to go and that was her full intention. She was definitely going to be there tonight. In being completely honest (which I hope is something we can always be to each other) everyone else went two days before her and that wasn't an issue. But enough said, it is done and that is all that matters.'
Now is it just me Ladies but did she have to go there about the girls that ordered their dresses 2 days before?? She just had to have the last word. Needless to say it's been driving me reakin nuts because I wanted to reply so bad but I didn't. Then of course when I tell FH about it, he says this.... '........................' Yup that's right Nothing, total silence. I called him on it though and ask him if he wasn't saying anything because he knew she was wrong, I also told him that I knew that he would never admit it because he would always defend them no matter what they do. Now everyone is PISSED because I decided not to attend his cousins communion today. Hellooo why would I want to go and sit with His Mom and his Sis and his entire family when I know for a fact that all they did last night and today was talk **** about me and the dresses, yeah re comfortable right. He's not even going to be there because he's working. First he calls to ask if I'm going, I told him no, then his aunt, cousin and my FMIL all call to ask the same thing. When FMIL called to ask if I was going and I said no she got all pissy and said ok goodbye and 2 seconds later he calls back. Get this now he calls back to tell me that if I don't go that I'm making a BIG mistake. Now you're threating me, like I have to go or else their will be consequences, F*&^ THEM!! So yeah now I'm not talking to FH and I told him not to call again and to tell his entire family not to either

Sorry ladies my MOH couldn't be reached and I just had to let this out TIA
Aug07OFCbride Posted:

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Aghh, so sorry youre having to deal w/ this. To be honest, I would probably call her and explain one last time in as nice a way as possible that she needs to take care of it tomorrow or you are going to have to go forward w/ placing it w/o her and risk not getting it in time. I mean arent there other issues w/ ordering diff times regarding the differences in color of fabric/dye. I would think she wouldnt keep putting it off if she really understood, but then again, who knows!
Sorry!

I wonder if your shop is just being overly cautious about dates to cover themselves, it seems like they would probably be here in time. But Im not sure.

GL!
Jennifer907 Posted:

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I'm so sorry. Lots of because I know what a pain FMILs can be! I would explain to her that you simply have to place the order tomorrow with or without hers, so she has up until a specific time. You don't need to stress about this.
Roed522 Posted:

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I'll just have to tell her then because I've run out of options at this point. I just know with his family, no matter how nice I put it, it's always going to turn into drama.
Oh did I mention that she also doesn't want to go in, she wants to call in her order and guesses that she's a size 8 because that's the size she just ordered for her friends wedding the month before. Now FH and I are arguing about all of this

Thanks so much ladies
PreshusSmurf Posted:

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I've got a bit of a vindictive streak in me sometimes .... I would order the other girls dresses without your FSIL's since she can't seem to get her act together.

And if FSIL's dress doesn't get ordered, then guess who won't be in the bridal party?!
diva7531 Posted:

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yup, no order, no BP, that's what I would tell her!!!

Kelly79 Posted:

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Roed522 Posted:

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Trust me that was my first thought today but as usual I always feel the need to be the 'Good' guy. I also told FH that if it had been my sister who did that he would have, without a doubt, told me to just go ahead and place the order without her. Of course he won't admit to that though. Ok so I'm going to give her until, let's say 1pm tomorrow.

That's it I'm taking a stand! especially since I'm also annoyed that she hasn't even gotten back to my MOH about my shower, not one single call or e-mail. Nothing!!

Geez I hate to see what it's going to be like when we have to order the shoes.
tricia3381 Posted:

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u should tell FSIL she needs to order her dress tomorrow, if not then the lady at the dress store is sending out the order for the other girls and when FSIL does decide to order hers if its after Friday shes taking a chance that it might not come in or she'll have to pay a late fee.
i'm sorry ur going through this.
angelover02740 Posted:

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I feel your stress, I kept telling my FG's mom to go to the shop and place her order for over a month, finally FH goes by the house and bring her to the shop and place the order, the dress doesnt come in until June 8th and the wedding is June 23rd.

I know how your feeling, we were ready to just pull her out of the wedding. We called every day and she would never return our calls, I feel for you,

Give her a specific time and if she doesnt get there. then I would place the order and I would tell her 'listen I have you this much time, you didnt go so i placed the order' She is an adult, no excuses
bonitachyc Posted:

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seriously, and this might not be an option but something for you to keep in the back of your mind...alot of brides from the 06 boards wrote that if they could change one thing about their wedding, it would be to 'cut out' certain ppl from their bridal party. If FSIL is giving you so much crap even before the dress is ordered, what is gonna happen when she needs to do the fitting? I know she's FH's sister, but this is YOUR day!! try to make it as stress free as possible!! leave her alone tomorrow, hopefully she won't place the order. If she doesn't, tell the shop that whenever *if ever* she calls that they can't take her order anymore. that should make it simple to cut her out! JMO

aprilv Posted:

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I totally feel for you!! It sounds just like my FSIL and FMIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know how my FMIL can breathe with her head so far up my FSIL's a**!!! Good Luck and I would do what you said try your best not to let them get to you-don't stress about it-give her the date and time-if she doesn't order it in time-let them put the order in. If she misses it oh well for her no BP for her and it's totally off of your shoulders!!!

luvabul Posted:

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sorry, i have the same issues practically i know its hard....
Roed522 Posted:

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Thanks so much for letting me vent ladies and for all the advice and opinions. It stinks when things like this are happening and other people just don't see it as a 'big deal'. Glad to know that you all understand, but not glad that some of you know first hand because I don't wish this Shiz on anyone. It just pisses me off that FH and FMIL are making me feel like I'm doing somehting wrong by being upset. ***!! Like I said before if it were anyone else they would be the first ones biotchin about it.
So yes No dress, No BP that's final!!

and yup you girls ROCK!!

CrisiDrue Posted:

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whoops!

CrisiDrue Posted:

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Posted by aprilv

I totally feel for you!! It sounds just like my FSIL and FMIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know how my FMIL can breathe with her head so far up my FSIL's a**!!!





Sounds like me FMIL!!!!
Roed522 Posted:

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This is the e-mail that I get from FSIL this morning

'I gave my mother the cash today so the dresses SHOULD be ordered today.
Thanks.'

They should be ordered she says, ***, she really is F'ing crazy if she thinks that I wasn't going to place the order without hers. last night when FH got home we got into again only because it pissed me off that he's defending her even when he knows that she was wrong.
aarrgghh He calls me a few minutes ago and says oh by the way my Mom faxed over her info to the shop to place the order. So not only didn't she do it herself but never even went in to get measured, I swear I hope the damn thing doesn't fit. Now I have to sit at a party with all of them, excluding FH cuz he has to work. Yeah that's gonna be very comfortable
bonitachyc Posted:

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ugh she sounds like such a B!TCH!! soooooo sorry you're going through this!!!
abslout Posted:

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Im so sorry your going through this....

place the order without her....its her issue at this point.
Roed522 Posted:

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Thanks sweetie, she really is being a snooty lil B

un F'in believeable.
I just called the shop a lil bit ago and guess what... NO FAX, NO ORDER!!!
MotherFUdger I swear I just wanna grab her by the freakin hair right now.

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