Fustration

brnnglgn Posted: Jan 14, 2014 08:42 AM

Fustration

It is so frustrating to have a FH who says he wants to help plan and everything but then does nothing. I went to do the hotel block yesterday, again by myself, and after everything is done he is asking me a million and ten questions that I have already answered. If my answer is not good enough then pick up the phone or get in the email address that I set up for all things wedding related and ask yourself.

GRRRR!!! Sorry having a bad day and a half

emmac Posted: Jan 14, 2014 08:49 AM

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I never asked FH to come with me, I would tell him on Saturday we are going to look at Limos, On Sunday we are going to the cake tasting and he did. If you give a man a choice they will usually say No. And if he still doesn't come then he gets no say and that's that!! Its so annoying, during pre cana they stressed that men are just not wired like women and I keep telling myself that because its so true.

xBudgetBridex Posted: Jan 14, 2014 09:04 AM

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I just get annoyed when he asks the same question that I already answered! do what I do bc fh wants ti be invovled too but mine needs a nudge. hey we gotta meet with photographer sats good for me u good to come sat.... no when's better....I'll go by myself if you get figure it out soon bc this can't wait.... ( I haven't had ti day that yet he's good at giving me good time and sceduling things with me. but I would never make the appointment tell him and hope he remembers to come. bc that would never happen lol.

Alimm729 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 09:21 AM

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I only involve him when I need money

But I know what you're saying. It's frustrating when it's something that means so much to you and they seem so blah about it. If he wants to be involved, try and give him little things to do. Like, getting his family's addresses, ask him to start looking at tuxes to get an idea of what he wants, stuff like that.

haw4 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 09:35 AM

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Yeah, I hear ya! FH has been making me nuts the last few days with wedding stuff. Especially this morning when I reminded him I was going to find out about our chuppah today and he told me I didn't, which was no not the case! I agree, it's frustrating when you want everything so perfect and the guy is like just tell me when to show up. I want him involved, but it's just not his thing.

cets1290 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 10:19 AM

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don't get too frustrated! alot of guys don't like to do this stuff. I did almost everything with my mom, and my FH only came to the DJ meeting with us because he wanted a say in the music. Everything else he could care less about lol

shellabella2 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 10:28 AM

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I guess I'm lucky!! FH has been so good to work with.. The agreement between us was I would narrow vendors down to top three and then he'd come visit. I never asked when was good for him.. I pretty much know his schedule and just confirmed that he wasn't working any days I made appts. No work = fair game. Anything else of his can be moved. Lol.. I was considerate though and tried not to make any appts on Sunday afternoons or Mon nights so he could watch football. He gives his ideas and even set up a Pinterest board (he had an account prior to us being engaged which I still think is funny) and titled the board 'wedding stuff for the fiancé to look at' lol..

Amanda2022 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 10:47 AM

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FH has really left a lot up to me to do..He is pretty easy to please and just trusted my decision. I think part of it though was he doesn't like to shop around lol..He has a weird work schedule so it was hard to make appointments for things.

Amanda2022 Posted: Jan 14, 2014 10:47 AM

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Posted by shellabella2

I guess I'm lucky!! FH has been so good to work with.. The agreement between us was I would narrow vendors down to top three and then he'd come visit. I never asked when was good for him.. I pretty much know his schedule and just confirmed that he wasn't working any days I made appts. No work = fair game. Anything else of his can be moved. Lol.. I was considerate though and tried not to make any appts on Sunday afternoons or Mon nights so he could watch football. He gives his ideas and even set up a Pinterest board (he had an account prior to us being engaged which I still think is funny) and titled the board 'wedding stuff for the fiancé to look at' lol..

That's really funny about pinterest

Terriechick Posted: Jan 14, 2014 10:51 AM

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FH will come to all DJ and Venue appointments without the slightest fight so I always involve him in those.. Everything else I bring mom, MOH, FMIL, or FSIL. I told him in return he is on his own for his tuxes and his groomsmen gifts. Its been working well this way. I learned to pick my battles. LOL
FH didnt even want to come to register for gifts. He told me specific things he thought we needed and I researched most stuff online but when it came down to finalizing I brought FSIL to the store with me. Usually the guys like to register..LOL

brnnglgn Posted: Jan 14, 2014 12:54 PM

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Thanks everyone. It makes me feel better knowing I am not the only one. He is in charge of most of the music, only bc it is his father's band that he plays with every once in a while. Tuxes is something he already has. And everything else is kind of done. I guess what annoys me the most is that most of the day he sits around staring at a machine as it is cutting a piece of metal. So you can't take two minutes out of your busy day to make a call/send an email. I mean he has time to build the cigar box guitar I bought him a year ago. But you can't make a phone..