Future In-Laws from Heck --UPDATE

How do i deal with my FSIL?

She's a complete psycho. She hates me to the point of not letting me near her baby, for no reason. She comes up with all of these reasons, but she never liked me. The first thing she said to me when we met was 'I always thought my brother wasy gay.'..

And then she and her husband decided that they hated me and we were at this luncheon together with FMIL and FSIL approached me and was like 'I don't like you..' and enumerated her supposed reasons. I listened to her, we spoke some, etc. That very night her busband started screaming cause I was near their kid (apparently he's afraid I'm going to teach his then 6 month old baby to be a vegetairan...no joke..that was the reason he gave...and that would make me a 'bad influence')..So i left crying..later on I told FH about the convo I'd had with his sister and I said she really confronted me. He mentioned to her that I felt confronted and ever since then she won't talk to me and she cites that as the reason. Apparently she was trying to befriend me with that conversation!!!

I send her kid gifts (which she keeps, go fig), and I sent holiday cards to them, but I'm going to stop. it keeps becoming one little thing after another. She said she wants to have a relationship with FH< but needs time to accept me. FH told her that if she can;t accept me then he won't talk to her either. His family thinks that's babyish. I just don't know what to do. She thrives on making my life miserable. She found my online journal and took an entry that was about FH and sent it to her entire family, claiming that it was about someone else I was cheating on FH...she claimed she was trying to helo him. If she were, woudlnlt she have spoken with HIM about it? It was so ridicuous. FH gets a call from his parents and THEY'RE accusing me of cheating... Anyway, they understood and it all blew over with his parents, but she's still psycho. AHHHHHH... Sorry so long..thanks for letting me vent.



ETS:
So now, about a week ago. FSIL calls up FH and says she wanbts to make up and she's 'Sorry for whatever she did.' And he told her she has to know what she's sorry for and he told her some of the things she's mad about, and she said she just doesn't want to fight. She's acting all nice now. A complete 180. FH is eating it up. he wants to believe her b/c it's his sister, but I really don't trust her. And now I feel like, I'm forced to associate with her now and forgive her, or else *I* look like the bad one now, cause she's making an effort...nevermind all of the times I made an effort...UUGGGHHHHH