Future Step Daughter Issues

Sounds like the childs mother is putting her insecurities onto her child. Very selfish but very common. This child shouldn't remember anyone other than you being with her father since you have been together for 6yrs.Tthat would make her 2yrs old when you first started dating. She may need to speak to someone to clear up the confusion regarding roles you both play in this Man's life. They are very different and she should'nt be made to feel like she has to compete because her mother is messing with her head to cause problems in your relationship (probably out of jealousy). Sounds a litttle sick to me that a young girl would think she is on the same level as you when she is his flesh and blood. All the best to you. hope it works out.

2010 bride here:

my brother & SIL have been having similar problems with their 8 year old son not understanding why my name is changing & what a wedding is all about. he has been asking FH & i a ton of questions recently about weddings & what they mean. we didn't know what to tell him so we asked a friend who is a child psychiatrist & he said that kids around 8 years old try to find a sense of identity. so me changing my name makes him feel like i am not apart of his family anymore.

my friend said that the best thing to do in this type of situation is to reinforce family & family values. since my parents have semi retired to their home upstate, NY, FH & i spent a lot of time there this summer with my brother & his family. so what we did to reinforce my still being a part of my nephews family & FH becoming his uncle, we would take him out once a week to do something that he really enjoyed, without his parents & without his sisters. & this has really worked out great.

hope this helps. you can FM me if you would like some more pointers.