FYI Tipping

I am actually really upset by this and I don't know if I was the only one in the dark about it...

Apparently, the 18-20% 'gratuity' that we are all paying THOUSANDS for doesn't even go to the staff. The servers, bartenders, cooks, etc dont get gratuity from us brides and grooms unless you go and hand them cash! That 18% (or whatever) is HOUSE MONEY. That gets used to pay the servers their $6/hour salary. This is what a person told me yesterday at a RH I was talking to. Your guests and you are more than welcome to tip the servers, bartenders, cooks, etc...but if no one does = NO TIP!

Just wanted to let you all know if you didnt already. I hope this makes sense.