We're having a shower for my daughter (women only). Her FMIL has a family friend (he's around 30) He knows my daughter and WANTS to come to the shower!! What do you think? He's a nice guy, funny etc. I'm not sure, but I don't know what to do or say. Thanks for any advice.
EDIT: He's not actually a friend of my daughters. He's her FMILs friend. He knows my daughter and he loves her and always comes to her house when FIL are at her house. My daughter doesn't care if he comes.
Ann 52409
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Personally I think that if it's women only then, women only but, if you really want him there than other males should be accepted there also
cindyandkevin
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Well, what does your daughter want? Just mention it casually like 'Guess what, X wants to come to your shower!' and see her reaction.
If it were me, I'd say sorry but no. It's ladies only.
MissAngel
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I'd check with your daughter, because if it were me & he wanted to be there then I'd want him to be there
KSquared
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I'd say don't invite him. If youre not inviting any other men then why you invite him? Doesn't really make sense. Just tell him it's women only - and since he;s a man, I don't think it'll be offensive.
jessruth9
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Is he a friend of your daughter's? If so then ask her but if not just let him know it's ladies only. He shouldn't have a problem with that.
LaurenluvsTJ
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I have a couple of gay guy friends and they were not invited to the shower. I don't see anything wrong with it if she wants it, though.
BNBride60
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I think this is totally up to your daughter. I have a very close gay friend and if he wanted to be there I would DEFINITELY want him to come.
luna bride x
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in my opinion i would want him invited. all my straight girl friends love to be around my gay boy friends..
Snickers76
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I had my gay friend at my shower. He was the only guy. Nobody cared.
tinadansr
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Ask your daughter what she thinks
Daisy Bride
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maybe you can set it up so that he gets her to the shower. I don't know what your arrangements are but if walks in with her, then she can ask him to stay if she wants & you don't have to ask her before hand. Just be honest ith him & say you don't know how she feels about having a guy there
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Posted by KSquared
I'd say don't invite him. If youre not inviting any other men then why you invite him? Doesn't really make sense. Just tell him it's women only - and since he;s a man, I don't think it'll be offensive.
i agree
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My best guy friend is going to be in my wedding, standing on my side of the alter too. I am totally inviting him to the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, he and I would both be offended if he wasn't. But he's my best guy friend.
Now if it were an aquantence and she is not extremely close to him, then that is a different story. I would check with her.
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i understand he may want to be there, but I just think it would be better to stick to the women only rule. If you invite him, someone else might feel slighted. Let him party at the Bachelorette party instead.
drpepper318
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Ask your daughter. Just tell her that he wants to come and see what she thinks about it. I think she shoudl decide if he's invited or not.
ChristineAaron08
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I would check with your daughter. I don't think anyone else will care. If he is ok with being the only guy there, and your daughter is ok with it, then it's fine. Just as long as he is invited to the wedding also, b/c that's a whole different issue...lol
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Posted by cherandgeo
My best guy friend is going to be in my wedding, standing on my side of the alter too. I am totally inviting him to the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, he and I would both be offended if he wasn't. But he's my best guy friend.
Now if it were an aquantence and she is not extremely close to him, then that is a different story. I would check with her.
I totally agree with this. If my BFF were not there, esp if he voiced that he wanted to be, I would be so upset. SO, I think it's just a matter of finding out if this is a best friend or someone who happens to know her. Just the simple fact that he is a man means nothing really, it's a matter of what he means to your daughter...
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If the guest of honor wants him and he wants to be there, then he should be invited. It depends on the person, I guess. My gay cousin and my 2 gay friends (all males) would not have had any interest in attending a shower.
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if he really wants to why not? my cousins wife at her shower her gay brother showed up. he showed up with a marc jacobs bag as a gift I wish I had a gay brother. everyone loved him. he was almost like the life of the party.
