Getting 'not attending' Responses.. Did it make you,, bummed?

Karin Posted: Jul 24, 2013 07:24 PM

Getting 'not attending' Responses.. Did it make you,, bummed?

I sent a bunch of invites to people I have since stopped working with. All of them are/were nice people, but it is doubtful I will have much of a relationship with any of them going forward.
So, I sent them invites primarily because I sent them STDs before I knew I would be making a job change. STD=Invite no matter what!
Well, we only have about 1/2 the invites out, long story, and have two yeses, one unexpected from reclusive relative, and one 'no' from a former work colleague as I described.
I dont know what my problem is, but I still feel a little hurt about it!!!
I mean, I knew he probably would say no. They have like 4 little kids and they live way up in Westchester so we are talking travel and babysitter PLUS the main fact that I wont be seeing this person much if ever in the future.
I am worried the unexpected 'no's' I get are going to make me really hurt!
Any suggestions? I know all the logical things...but its not really helping!
I'm just way over sensitive, I think.....

mattandjess2013 Posted: Jul 24, 2013 08:17 PM

Getting

Logically we all know it's going to happen. But it still doesn't mean it won't sting a little. Just keep thinking that people sometimes can't make things, but it won't make your wedding day any less amazing.

MrsB92713 Posted: Jul 24, 2013 08:28 PM

Getting

I've been ok with the no's. I'm so worried about having too many people that its almost a relief. LOL.

jassy119 Posted: Jul 24, 2013 08:55 PM

Getting

I've been ok with the few nos I have gotten so far. I pretty much knew they would be nos so it doesn't bother me at all. I'm actually happy, because its less ppl I have to pay for lol Now if it were a close friend who I expected to come who didn't have a legit excuse then I'd be bothered.

Karin Posted: Jul 24, 2013 10:25 PM

Getting

Yeah, I know that the people I want to be there wouldnt miss it, but its my ego that thinks EVERYONE should want to be at my FABULOUS WEDDING!!! LOL I need to chill out :)

McC2McM Posted: Jul 25, 2013 08:18 AM

Re: Getting 'not attending' Responses.. Did it make you,, bummed?

Posted by Karin

Yeah, I know that the people I want to be there wouldnt miss it, but its my ego that thinks EVERYONE should want to be at my FABULOUS WEDDING!!! LOL I need to chill out :)

Roxannebowen79 Posted: Jul 25, 2013 09:20 AM

Getting

Awwww I understand, but I'm sure you will have enough yeses to make up for it!!!

lpatticake Posted: Jul 25, 2013 10:21 AM

Getting

Yea I totally understand. I got annoyed when people checked off 'no' and didn't write any sort of explanation, or at least 'so sorry we can't make it' or something. Even if its a made up reason, its nice to write something. I think its the emotional part of being a bride though, because I know it really shouldn't matter.

lauren1802 Posted: Jul 25, 2013 11:17 AM

Getting

I totally understand as well. I have one NO from someone i currently work with that lives upstate and i was still like ***
FW sent STDs to old work people and they are pretty much ALL coming (dammit)

I am just trying to remember that we NEED NO's. !!!

mattandjess2013 Posted: Jul 25, 2013 05:25 PM

Getting

I just got my first RSVP back - and it's a no lol.

lauren1802 Posted: Jul 25, 2013 05:40 PM

Re: Getting 'not attending' Responses.. Did it make you,, bummed?

Posted by mattandjess2013

I just got my first RSVP back - and it's a no lol.

aww

EAY213 Posted: Jul 25, 2013 08:24 PM

Getting

I've only gotten 3 nos and it's scaring me...i was a little dissapointed when my one boss responded no...we're very close...but then i found out that they'll be in Florida that weekend so it made me feel better that they were upset they were missing it. I think you'll be bummed by some and some you won't care about...but in the end you'll have tons of people at your wedding and you'll get all of 1 second to see and speak to each of them so don't worry about it!

RussianBride Posted: Jul 25, 2013 10:33 PM

Re: Getting 'not attending' Responses.. Did it make you,, bummed?

Posted by lpatticake

Yea I totally understand. I got annoyed when people checked off 'no' and didn't write any sort of explanation, or at least 'so sorry we can't make it' or something. Even if its a made up reason, its nice to write something. I think its the emotional part of being a bride though, because I know it really shouldn't matter.

I was the same way! It bothered me that ppl didn;t write a reason as if it was somehting unimportant. Ugh I gt over it & didn;t miss those ppl at the wedding at all!
Don't worry about those not coming, focus on your wedding & celebrating with ppl that care about you not those that just come just to come