Well, this Friday is it. I am moving into his place while we wait for our coop purchase to go through. I am so nervous. Excited but nervous. Not only are we moving in together but buying a home together.... I feel so adult and I never expected that to happen. Any advice on the moving in together? I have heard that it can be difficult to adjust too.
Jordan
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Just enjoy yourself. Keep in mind that there's someone else around...be respectful. I've been living with my FH for 4+ years now...and before him I lived with someone for 2 years. Personally, money (with the latter) and privacy/space (with the former) were the biggest issues. I enjoy my space - probably more than most, definitely more than my FH! - and my former boyfriend was a slouch, so I was carrying the both of us.
Enjoy it...don't put any expectations on anything. Be prepared for change...but it will lead to growth.
Best of luck!
lilmrs
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Communication!!! How will he know that his little habit of (insert any habit here) annoys the living crap out of you unless you tell him. FH and I have a conversation about 3 months into living together to list all of those things that annoys us. We both made an effort to not do those things listed in front of one another (now its just is a routine). I think that was a great thing for us. We also established date nights so we would not neglect ourselves. We also talked about not losing 'me' time.
heidla
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Thank you ladies!!! Communication is so important I know!!! I also need more space then most people. A date night sounds wonderful!! We work totally different schedules now and have lost us time. Thank you for the advice and support!
DaniRN
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Good communication and learning to live with some of his habits.
karen32
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congrats!!! the best piece of advice i can give you is to make sure you have your own time/space. continue to do things that you enjoy, even if it's something as simple as a favorite TV show, or a nice cup of tea at night, or a bubblebath. don't think you need to be attached at the hip 24/7.
FI moved in last thanksgiving and we love it, but there are definitely times that i need my own space and he's respectful of that and vice-versa.
Sunny
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I agree about the space- the biggest adjustment was realizing you do not need to entertain eachother all the time, because you are home! It is okay to watch different tv shows.
prncssrachel
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I agree on the personal space part, but my BEST advice, is to just let things take their own course for the beginning. I say this because when FH and I moved in together last August, everyone was like, Aren't you a little nervous to live with him? Or, this is a BIG step! Blah, blah. Needless to say, we were of the thought that it would only be as hard a transition as we let it be. And to be honest, it felt natural and normal right from the get go. But we also talked a lot before hand about who was going to pay for what and what we were going to expect of one another. So I guess I second the communication! Good Luck! And enjoy the excitement before his habits rear their ugly little heads! J/K!
