Getting to the church

Philsbride Posted: Mar 04, 2008 05:46 PM

Getting to the church

I am not a frequent poster but I am having a dilemma so was hoping to get some insight.

Typically how have you handled or are you handling getting the FIL's (specifically FMIL) to the Church?

My set up consists of the guys and girls both getting ready (seperately) at a hotel. The limo will come get the guys and take them to Church, then come back for the girls and take us to church. My FMIL is not getting ready with us, but wants to arrive at the Church with us. Is this typical where FMIL arrives with the bride and BP? I cant imagine her driving herself to Church, but wasnt sure the way to go. Thanks in advance!

angl2001 Posted: Mar 04, 2008 05:48 PM

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they are driving themselevs to the church and RH.........my mother is driving there as well and then from the church my dad will ride with her to the RH and FH and I will take the limo

dannisayz Posted: Mar 04, 2008 05:52 PM

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My parents and I are taking a limo to East Winds. FMIL can walk for all I care.

Philsbride Posted: Mar 04, 2008 05:54 PM

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LOL. Funny thing is I have read some of your FMIL posts and as scary as it sounds....our FMIL's sound pretty similiar!!

To be honest, this is not even anything I had thought about before. Originally I had offered for her to get ready with us and she declined, so since then I havent thought about it again. All of a sudden she is giving FH grief about me 'leaving her out'. I am not sure what to do!!

kristin597 Posted: Mar 04, 2008 05:59 PM

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Posted by dannisayz

My parents and I are taking a limo to East Winds. FMIL can walk for all I care.

My boys are getting ready at FH's childhood home (FIL's house). So FFIL and FH's step-mother are taking the limo with the boys to the church and then it is coming to pick up the girls at my house.

jeanne08 Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:01 PM

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bella1028 Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:01 PM

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My FH and family literally live across the street from the church so the FIL's and GM will be walking for 5 seconds and will be there..so my circumstance is a bit different...but a separate limo will be picking up both my parents and FIL's from church to bring them to the RH

MSeed Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:03 PM

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I kind of told FH that his mother will not be getting ready with my BP and my family.

We are getting a limobus. I believe it will be bringing them from their house with the GM to the church and then from the church to the hall.

I told FH to tell them to drop off their cars at the hall and I think I may try to get a limo to take home my parents, FH, me and my sister. (We are going to be living with my parents temporarily.)

Philsbride Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:05 PM

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Posted by jeanne08

Usually each family goes n their own.
If FMIL really want to arrive w/ you then she needs to get her butt to your hotel. Make sure she gets there early so you can all leave on time.[/QUOTE

You hit the nail on the head. There are a few things involved here. #1 she is NEVER on time, so I know it will be me who is panicked all day waiting for her to arrive. #2, she is being very over bearing regarding the 'getting ready' pictures. I have a very different idea of what I want, vs what she wants so I dont want there to be conflict the day of my wedding. #3, not that I dont love her, but I thought it would be special for the last ride to be with my mom and my girls. This is not going to be easy!!

Dee0522 Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:06 PM

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FMIL and FFIL are getting their own limo with some friends to take them to the church and then the RH and then home. FMIL works for a bridal salon that has an in-house limo company so the owner hooks her up...

dannisayz Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:07 PM

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Posted by Philsbride

LOL. Funny thing is I have read some of your FMIL posts and as scary as it sounds....our FMIL's sound pretty similiar!!

To be honest, this is not even anything I had thought about before. Originally I had offered for her to get ready with us and she declined, so since then I havent thought about it again. All of a sudden she is giving FH grief about me 'leaving her out'. I am not sure what to do!!

Well, I basically put it in those regards since she hasn't done a damn thing to help with this wedding except taste food and cake. So, if all she is interested in is the food, then she can drive herself in her Sanford and Sons mini-van and embarrass herself, not me.

It's not my fault that she wastes her money on a weekly basis and refuses to get a real job.

dannisayz Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:11 PM

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Posted by Philsbride

Posted by jeanne08

Usually each family goes n their own.
If FMIL really want to arrive w/ you then she needs to get her butt to your hotel. Make sure she gets there early so you can all leave on time.

You hit the nail on the head. There are a few things involved here. #1 she is NEVER on time, so I know it will be me who is panicked all day waiting for her to arrive. #2, she is being very over bearing regarding the 'getting ready' pictures. I have a very different idea of what I want, vs what she wants so I dont want there to be conflict the day of my wedding. #3, not that I dont love her, but I thought it would be special for the last ride to be with my mom and my girls. This is not going to be easy!!

It sounds like your FMIL and mine are in fact very similar. It's not that I hate her, but she annoys me to no end. She's also never on time and never considers FH's feelings. The fact that she treats him like her husband drives me up a wall.

Philsbride Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:21 PM

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So it sounds like there is a good mix out there of those whos FIL's are getting their on their own and others who will be with the BP. Is it terrible of me to not have her in the limo? FH's parents are divorced so FFIL is remarried and has his own plans to get to Church. She has a huge family though of people she could go to church with.

Saram Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:54 PM

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Posted by dannisayz

My parents and I are taking a limo to East Winds. FMIL can walk for all I care.

lmao..

Saram Posted: Mar 04, 2008 06:55 PM

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Posted by kristin597

Posted by dannisayz

My parents and I are taking a limo to East Winds. FMIL can walk for all I care.

My boys are getting ready at FH's childhood home (FIL's house). So FFIL and FH's step-mother are taking the limo with the boys to the church and then it is coming to pick up the girls at my house.

same here