Gift Etiquette Question...

Lunatrek Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:20 PM

Gift Etiquette Question...

I received a check from a distant relative of my FH (I've never even met her before) who can't come to our wedding.

What do I do?

1. Do I cash the check now and send her a thank you right away?

2. Do I send her a thank you right away but don't cash the check until we're officially married?

3. Do I wait until we're married to cash the check and then send her a thank you card when I send out my thank-you's to everyone else?

OR

4. Same as # 3, except I cash the check now?

HELP! Thanks ladies, I know I can count on you!!

dbcrosby Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:23 PM

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in my opinion, i would cash the check now( just because i would lose it) and write her a thank you now. whether you cash the check now or later, i think you should write her a thank you right away so she knows you got it atleast.

chris605 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:26 PM

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I agree - cash it now and write her a thank you right away....

What-Now Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:26 PM

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I would say #1. You definatelly want to thank her rigth away! Also, I personally hate it when i write out a check and the money is still on the account like 2 months later. JMO.

Olgaki Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:27 PM

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I would cash it now - she wouldn't have sent it for you not to cash it. She obviously wants you to have it. I would send a thank you note now and you might want to send one later too depending on how she responds now to your thank you note - so that she could have a picture of you too from the wedding.

Scoop Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:34 PM

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I cashed mine before the wedding and sent them thankyou cards with the others...after the wedding.

Sassyz75 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:36 PM

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1. Cash the check now. There is nothing more annoying than trying to balance your check book when people leave checks outstanding.

2. Write her a thank you note now.

3. IF you are doing photo thank yous- send her one after the wedding so she can have one & say she was missed.

MSCJLK Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:37 PM

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I would cash the check and pre write the thankyou to go out right after the wedding...or send her one now and say that you are sorry that she is not able to make it but her thoughtfuness was very much welsomed.. or somehting like that

SomedayBride Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:37 PM

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I would cash it now, and send a thank you now. When you're sending your photo thank you cards to everyone else, maybe you could send her a 'thinking of you' kind of card and include the picture and say something like, we wish you could have made it, it was a beautiful day...we thought you might like a picture blah blah blah....

Alvatorre74 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:45 PM

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xjulietx Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:53 PM

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Send Thank You, then cash. I hate it when people hold onto my checks for a while. Most people like their checks cashed soon so they can balance their books.

kelly6273 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:54 PM

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I would cash it and send a thank you right away.

mv1003 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 01:58 PM

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I would cash now and send Thank you-
She'll know you got it when it's cashed

sanmik Posted: Jul 25, 2003 02:00 PM

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I received checks already also. I cashed them and sent them a thank you now. I see it as less to do later.

michele31 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 02:13 PM

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You send a TY note now and deposit the check, unless the wedding is in a week or so and you want to put all the funds in at the same time.
You can always send a photo after the wedding if you want to.

eternityawaits Posted: Jul 25, 2003 06:06 PM

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I'm with everyone else - deposit it now and send a thank you now too

daisybride Posted: Jul 25, 2003 06:22 PM

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I would go with #1

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 08:54 PM

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i would cash the check now, cause you only have 6 months from the date on it to cash it, and you dont want to lose it. Send her a thank you, and when you get married you can send them the picture thank you too

WINO1 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 09:00 PM

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Boop2704 Posted: Jul 25, 2003 10:06 PM

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I would cash it now, send her a thank you note now and then when you get your thank you cards with the pics I would send her one of those so she gets to see what you both looked like on your wedding day.