Ok so we have 4 weddings to attend this year. So if someone gives us like 300 bucks as our gift at our wedding, are we obligated to give the same amount to them as well? I don't know how this works. What I do know is that you should atleast cover your the plate cost for the both of you.
Yes, if they give you $300 then you obligated to give the same amount. That's why I'm glad our wedding is the first of our group of friends b/c then we'll just give back what we got from them.
I would say generally to give what was given, however there is a big difference from a $20k wedding and a $60k wedding and giving the same for both of these weddings may not always work. . On the safe side I would cover you and your guest's plate and add maybe $50 to $100.
Posted by MJDoc12
for me, i would try my best to give what someone gave me. but if it's not possible (like finances are tight or something) then i try and give as best as possible.
the covering your plate idea is usually good...but sometimes just not feasible. i mean if i'm going to a wedding where i just KNOW ppl paid like $250 a head, i simply can't afford to give $500!!
I think too much hype is given to gifts. You give what you can reguardless of what they gave. People say you have to give enough to cover your plate or what others gave you but you can't squeeze blood from a rock. You are there to celabrate a marriage not to contribute to a house fund. Don't get me wrong I would love to get money for gifts at my wedding but not if it means my friends or family won't make their mortgage payment this month. KWIM
cover you and your guest's plate
Posted by dplehat
I think too much hype is given to gifts. You give what you can reguardless of what they gave. People say you have to give enough to cover your plate or what others gave you but you can't squeeze blood from a rock. You are there to celabrate a marriage not to contribute to a house fund. Don't get me wrong I would love to get money for gifts at my wedding but not if it means my friends or family won't make their mortgage payment this month. KWIM
I think that depending on how long ago the wedding was also plays a role because if they were married 5 years ago and you gave them 250 I think prices go up so I would give 300 .
Posted by ik1
I think that depending on how long ago the wedding was also plays a role because if they were married 5 years ago and you gave them 250 I think prices go up so I would give 300 .
We all know that already. I was just asking what etiquette was.
Posted by bettybcafe
Posted by dplehat
I think too much hype is given to gifts. You give what you can reguardless of what they gave. People say you have to give enough to cover your plate or what others gave you but you can't squeeze blood from a rock. You are there to celabrate a marriage not to contribute to a house fund. Don't get me wrong I would love to get money for gifts at my wedding but not if it means my friends or family won't make their mortgage payment this month. KWIM
I agree. I think you should give what you can afford. Some people dont have $300 bucks to give someone for their wedding...and a wedding is about celebration and family...not about presents...
Yep, everyone IS different. Not saying I was going with etiquette, I just wanted to know what the proper etiquette was, or what most people do.
Posted by bettybcafe
Posted by werock0709We all know that already. I was just asking what etiquette was.
Posted by bettybcafe
Posted by dplehat
I think too much hype is given to gifts. You give what you can reguardless of what they gave. People say you have to give enough to cover your plate or what others gave you but you can't squeeze blood from a rock. You are there to celabrate a marriage not to contribute to a house fund. Don't get me wrong I would love to get money for gifts at my wedding but not if it means my friends or family won't make their mortgage payment this month. KWIM
I agree. I think you should give what you can afford. Some people dont have $300 bucks to give someone for their wedding...and a wedding is about celebration and family...not about presents...
So you're going based on etiquette versus what people can afford? I guess everyone is different.
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Posted by MrsBrags7706
Basically, yes you recipricate, even if you feel it wasn't enough, thats why you write everything down when you open envelopes. And generally, yes you are supposed to cover the plates and give a gift, but then again, we have to understand that people also give what they can afford and it shouldn't be broken down into a dollar amount, because maybe they wanted to give more, and they just couldnt afford it. Each person/couple has different financial issues.
HTH!
You have a very valid point.
Posted by MJDoc12
yikes! this issue can be a bit of a touchy subject!
like i said, i think we try and give what someone gave us...but if we can't..i'd give what i can and maybe take them out to dinner or something another nite. ppl should understand if you just can't afford it!
