We received our first gift today () from FH's boss who has just rsvp'd as a no. We know we shouldn't open the gift until after we're married (though part of me wants to rip into it now!), but I don't know if we should write out a thank you note now or wait until after the wedding when we open all the other gifts and send out the other thank you notes.
Thoughts? I'm totally clueless.
bluegreen08
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hmmm that's a tough question! I don't know the answer! We opened our engagement gifts right away (even before our e-party) and then sent thank yous out the same day.
I would assume even if ettiquette says not to open them until after the wedding, your guests wouldn't mind you opening it if you send a prompt thank you. by the time you wait for the wedding, honeymoon, and then start writing the rest of your thank yous it piles up and could take a long time.
IMO I'd say open it now and write the thank you -- it will lighten your load after the wedding and they will be happy with your prompt response.
I'm interested to hear what others have to say.
BNBride60
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Posted by bluegreen08
hmmm that's a tough question! I don't know the answer! We opened our engagement gifts right away (even before our e-party) and then sent thank yous out the same day.
I would assume even if ettiquette says not to open them until after the wedding, your guests wouldn't mind you opening it if you send a prompt thank you. by the time you wait for the wedding, honeymoon, and then start writing the rest of your thank yous it piles up and could take a long time.
IMO I'd say open it now and write the thank you -- it will lighten your load after the wedding and they will be happy with your prompt response.
I'm interested to hear what others have to say.
Ditto - open and say thanks!
BoxOfRocks
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We opened all gifts we received before the wedding and wrote thank you notes for them as soon as we could. Sending them as they came made life a heck of a lot easier for us after the wedding, and the giver gets acknowledgement right away. Everyone wins!
reenielady
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For the gifts we received prior to the wedding we sent a thank you note right away to acknowledge we rec'd it and then a picture thank you note with all the other thank you notes
MikeandJess
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I think that if he gave it to you now it's ok to open it now and right a thank you now. S/he'll just be concerned about getting a thank you, not when he gets it.
craznan
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I agree with the other girls and I would send it now. That way he/she knows you recieved it and he gets the thank-you right away.
