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JaimeLin Posted:

Girl drama vent

OK I have to finally vent about this....

I've been friends with this guy since we were 13 and he got engaged this December and since then his fiance has been a total B!

First he asked to meet up with me and my fiance a bunch of times for ring tips when he was shopping. Turns out he bought almost an identical one to mine. Then they planned on a May 2015 wedding and booked an August 2014 wedding when they told us this they said 'right before you' with their hand to their nose like a nah nah poo poo little kid face (yes really).

Then they have asked us if we were having a videographer. After saying yes they followed that with saying how it is going to ruin our wedding and that our guests and us will have a terrible time. Why even ask us then! Also they didn't plan on a honeymoon they just wanted to do a Poconos trip till hearing about our sandals vacation then immediately booked sandals. I asked what room they got and they said a basic one because of how stupid the butler rooms were and what a waste of money it was and that you can't enjoy your trip if you have one. They knew I booked a butler room so I don't know why they had to add that fact, a simple no would have been fine.

Then when it came to wedding bands I mentioned that mine doesn't match my engagement band and she had to let me know that traditionally they should match and she'd never choose a different style because that's a big no no.

I'm loosing my mind when it comes to dealing with her! I feel like she's always adding her two cents or a little jab after everything. Am I just being dramatic? There's so much more I could add but I'll just stick to the wedding relate stuff for now.
Kimberley2015 Posted:

Girl drama vent

It's unfortunate when someone is engaged or getting married their true colors come out. Since you and the soon-to-be groom have been friends forever I would have a talk with him and let him know how you are feeling. As far as his fiancé goes,she can not help who she is let alone who she isn't. I can relate to some degree how you are feeling and truthfully, you have to put their opinions to the side and enjoy your wedding planning and the countdown to your special day. Someone is always going to have something to say abut something. As long as you and your FH are happy with your decisions regarding wedding planning, vendors, honeymoon, etc. that is all that matters.

marvandmaya Posted:

Girl drama vent

I dont think you're being dramatic. I think you were trying to help your friend. The thing is you should stop sharing info with them. I also dont think (just from what u posted) that it's all her fault. He is behaving childishly as well. If he's your good friend you should be able to talk to him about how you feel. But be careful. You dont want to sound like you are critising his future wife. Good luck!

cets1290 Posted:

Girl drama vent

sounds to me like butler rooms and videographers aren't in their budget, so they want to say how terrible they are to make themselves feel better lol- Would love to hear how great their sandals vacation is without butlers when they can't get a seat at the pool! haha

CAlbanese Posted:

Girl drama vent

Omg yes! I'm friends with this guy I used to work with and his now wife is always a total ***** to me. When they got engaged she kept rubbing it in my face. And every time I see her she's always telling me how great being married is when we're talking about something completely different. Now that I engaged she has nothing to say to me and they didn't show up to my engagement party after they rsvp'd yes, and told me 2 more times they were coming. Oh well that's 2 people off my guest list.

emmac Posted:

Girl drama vent

this is when you need to start giving her ridiculous answers to her questions. People like this girl are jealous and insecure so they try to put others down to make themselves feel better. Rise above it and keep smiling!!

xBudgetBridex Posted:

Girl drama vent

I'm sorry your going through that. Mean and spiteful people suck!! Good luck!

ndc923 Posted:

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I'm going through an almost identical situation ( ring, date the whole thing!) Hang in there - they're just trying to justify their decisions and poor judgement by making their choices sound above yours. 20 bucks says they'll end up in a butler room on their honeymoon watching video that the VIDEOGRAPHER they hired last minute shot of their wedding

I don't think you're being dramatic, it's easy to get frustrated by things like that, especially when you're trying to be the bigger person and keep your mouth shut. Just be thankful you're not the person that feels like they constantly have to one up the other and put the other one down to feel more confident about the decisions you make! Woosa
ASemderWedding Posted:

Re: Girl drama vent

Posted by marvandmaya

The thing is you should stop sharing info with them.


I agree and think you should stop sharing info with them. Unfortunately not everyone is going to agree with your decisions. My friend did the butler suite at Sandals and had a BLAST - I mentioned it to FH and he told me it was a waste of money. However, I do think they could handle the conversation as an adult. Just keep making your decisions based on what you and your FH want!

Hold your head up, and remember that jealously is ugly!
JaimeLin Posted:

Girl drama vent

Thanks for the advice ladies. I knew I'd feel better after airing it out on here.

Djswedding Posted:

Girl drama vent

So to start, people will always have something to say. Don't feed into it, don't give her details to your wedding. I would just turn the convo into her rushing into a wedding just to be before you in a subtle way. If she says something negative about one of your vendors, simply state ' hope you have time to plan..' That's it. I can't believe people are so crazy.

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