Okay here is the thing. As most of you know I'm NOT following the traditonal wedding rules. I'm having a medieval wedding, but I'm wearing black leather as my dress. Picture is bellow. However I'm now getting pressure from my own mother (mind you she isn't paying a dime and wore purple pants to her wedding and drove off on a motorcycle,) wants me to wear this other dress. I'm thinking about maybe using the big white thing for maybe the reception, if she agrees to buy it, but keep the leather for my ceremony dress, because I REALLY LOVE IT! And I don't want to be a white blur in the photo alambum of brides. Please give me some help and advise. do you think wearing that big dress is too much for just the reception? I wanted to wear a red medieval dress because I know the leather is a bit uncomfortable. Advise please!
It looks like your mom tried to pick a white dress that compliments the medieval theme! I don't think that it's possible for you to be a blur, you'll stand out in leather or white or red, because you're the bride... I think compromising is a nice idea...wearing the leather to the ceremony and the wedding dress to the reception sounds like a great way to make your mom feel like you've met her halfway...
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When you look back on your wedding photos 20 years from now, what are you going to be thinking about either dress? If you wear the black are you going to wish you went a more traditional route? Or if you wear the white, are you going to wish you were in the black?
Ultimately, it's up to you what to wear. Your Mom may pressure you, but you need to be comfortable with your attire.
I personally don't think the white dress is too much for your wedding reception b/c it is in facta wedding dress.
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Well, personally I am like the tradition of the white dress, and I cant wait to wear mine. I could not imagine wearing anything else.
But I chose the dress I liked, not the one my mom liked. I will be the one wearing it and the one treasuring the photos of it. So, I think you should wear whichever dress makes you happy.
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Interesting. Is that you in that dress?
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Interesting. Is that you in that dress?
no. it hasn't come yet
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I say screw tradition and where what makes you happy
Just make sure the top of your nipple isnt showing like the girl in the pic
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That second dress is beautiful, but it is a lot of dress. Is there some compromise you could come up with?
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I actually saw the cloak you wanted to wear on another post, and really like it. Yes it's all quite non traditional, but wear what makes you happy!!!
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That second dress is beautiful, but it is a lot of dress. Is there some compromise you could come up with?
My mom is pretty cool, but I'm her only daughter and shes stressing that a lot. I'll admit the dress is beautiful, thats the only reason why I'm considering wearing it to my reception, I just think its a bit much and white? ewww.. sorry I look like a cupcake in it. However I did try this on and I did look good. I just don't know. If I were doing tradition I would wear this dress, but I really really love my black one!
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When it comes down to it remember it's your wedding. You want to look back at the photos and remember how happy you were. You should pick the dress based on what you love and how you will feel in it. It is a long day and you are going to want to feel good in your dress. Good luck and wear what you think is best.
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It looks like your mom tried to pick a white dress that compliments the medieval theme! I don't think that it's possible for you to be a blur, you'll stand out in leather or white or red, because you're the bride... I think compromising is a nice idea...wearing the leather to the ceremony and the wedding dress to the reception sounds like a great way to make your mom feel like you've met her halfway...
I agree 100%...the white dress is beautiful
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Bonnie, I do love that bottom dress in the ivory. It's actually a perfect color because it's not diamond white. And I don't think you'll look like a cupcake because it's very flowy.
But, if you want some other dress types that are midieval and are traditional, I'll give you the name of a designer that I saw in one of my bridal magazines. The magazine is at home, so I have to wait til later to get the name. But, the dresses are a little less poofy, if that is what worries you.
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I think you should wear what is comfortable for you-wear the first for the ceremony and if you are uncomfortable in the second dress ask your mom if there is another dress she could find for you. The dress is beautiful and it does keep with the medieval theme-but do what feels right to you.
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Is it possible to compromise and get something inbetween that both of you agree on?
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I love that you are your own person. But that dress your mom picked out is beautiful!! I love the sleeves. Does you FH know your dilemma? I would shock him at the ceremony with that dress on. Enter the reception with the dress, and in the final 2 hours of your party change into leather. It will be like a whole new entrance in the middle of the party and get things started all over again. I would come out with the cloak on and then rip it off. Then the it is like 2 parties in 1. Either way you will be a beautiful bride!!
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I love that you are your own person. But that dress your mom picked out is beautiful!! I love the sleeves. Does you FH know your dilemma? I would shock him at the ceremony with that dress on. Enter the reception with the dress, and in the final 2 hours of your party change into leather. It will be like a whole new entrance in the middle of the party and get things started all over again. I would come out with the cloak on and then rip it off. Then the it is like 2 parties in 1. Either way you will be a beautiful bride!!
WOW! great thinking, now that makes a lot of sense, and what fun that would be towards the end of the night, and I bet everyone would be happy!
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I actually saw the cloak you wanted to wear on another post, and really like it. Yes it's all quite non traditional, but wear what makes you happy!!!
I couldn't have said it better, b/c I do remember when you first posted about the flower girls, and what you were wearing, and you did recieve some not so comforting replies. I was kind of confused myself until you explained it to me. I think if you want to wear it it's your day, and how you feel on that day is all that matters, b/c its your day!
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I absolutely LOVE the Mary's dress -- would have been a runner-up if I didn't choose the one I did........that being said -- if you LOVE the first one, go with what your heart desires. It's YOUR wedding!
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I think you should do whatever makes YOU happy. And yeah, the black one does look like it would be uncomfortable. If you really want to wear the red for the reception, then do it. See how you feel in the dresses. Then you can make the decision.
