Okay here is the thing. As most of you know I'm NOT following the traditonal wedding rules. I'm having a medieval wedding, but I'm wearing black leather as my dress. Picture is bellow. However I'm now getting pressure from my own mother (mind you she isn't paying a dime and wore purple pants to her wedding and drove off on a motorcycle,) wants me to wear this other dress. I'm thinking about maybe using the big white thing for maybe the reception, if she agrees to buy it, but keep the leather for my ceremony dress, because I REALLY LOVE IT! And I don't want to be a white blur in the photo alambum of brides. Please give me some help and advise. do you think wearing that big dress is too much for just the reception? I wanted to wear a red medieval dress because I know the leather is a bit uncomfortable. Advise please!
heidla
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I completely understand wanting to do your own thing. The wedding dress that I picked was a more traditional dress, but it definately is not for everyone. I think that if you do decide to compromise that you should continue to look. There are a lot of other options besides just that dress that your mom picked out that you might be more comfortable in. I think it is beautiful, but it is a big difference from what you want.
ETA: these are all by Jim Hjelm. The 3rd one was my dress. I loved them because they have that rennisance feel, but are not quite so much dress. Demetrios has a lot in the same vein. Just so you see that there are options. No matter what you decide you will be beautiful!!!!
I agree with most of what's been said so far. It's a very personal decision. Try to think about how you'll feel when you are looking back. The dress your mother is suggesting is beautiful, but it is a lot of dress. You can always save the leather for your wedding night. It seems like that dress is really for FH anyway. If your mom's dress is too much for you, how about somthing less full, but still in keeping with your theme?
I remember you once saying that as a lil girl you were very 'princessy' and your mom thought you would wear a white dress. Maybe she regrets wearing purple pants and riding off on a motorcycle at her own wedding and she's trying to protect you from repeating history.
You said this is the dress you would wear if you weren't wearing the black one. Then I'd wear the black one for the ceremony and the white one for the reception.
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I remember you once saying that as a lil girl you were very 'princessy' and your mom thought you would wear a white dress. Maybe she regrets wearing purple pants and riding off on a motorcycle at her own wedding and she's trying to protect you from repeating history.
You said this is the dress you would wear if you weren't wearing the black one. Then I'd wear the black one for the ceremony and the white one for the reception.
I totally agree with this.
Bonnie.. its your wedding. You have to do what makes you feel the most comfortable. I like the more simpler dress that was posted. Would you consider that?
tjs
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i think its a good idea to where the white one as a suprise and then make a grand entrance in the leather!!! great idea.......BUT do what make syou happy not everybody else. or you will regret it in the end!
DAVALJO2
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You have to go with what your heart says. I think it would be nice to wear the leather one for the ceremony and the other one for the reception.
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i know that i'd want to wear the dress i liked the best for the longest amount of time..which would be for the reception But, i know that the ceremony is 'more important' than the reception so you want to wear your favorite dress for that too.. its a tough dilemma!
The 2 dresses are so opposite and don't really seem to compliment each other at all. I've seen the picture of the red cloak and its absolutely beautiful, so you'll look great in that no matter whats underneath! If you want to go for medieval, how about trying to find another 'regular' white wedding dress that is more like some of the others that were posted above (simpler with the bell sleeves) perhaps in velvet? that way you'd be sort of compromising with your mom as well.
Ultimately it is YOUR wedding and you need to do what you and your FH want to do, not anyone else. If you both want the black leather for the whole day, then go for it (it will look great with the cloak!).. If you're only doing the white dress for your mom - then you have to figure out for yourself if thats an important enough reason to do it.
none of this crap is easy!!
EmberLynn
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THANKS girls! I'm defently wearing the black for the ceremony. If I can find that dress on Ebay for a low price I'll wear it for the reception. If not I'll find another dressy dress to wear for the reception. Maybe I could have the dress altered by just cutting down some of that unnessary fabric. ITs just soo much! Thanks for all your help, this should work out well.
