ok my best friend is all of a sudden getting married in oct. or nov. all she does is talk to me about her wedding and everytime i say something about mine she just blows it off. she wants to use the same place i got my flowres and the same exact ones. her wedding is not gonna be like our wedding. its gonna be really cheap. she is having her mother cook the food, no dj and no photographer. i call it a white trash wedding. she asked me to be in the bridal party but as of now i cant afford a dress and all the stuff that goes with it. i know i have to do the right thing cuz she is in my wedding but i really dont want to be in it. so i need ur help on how do i tell her this, without upsetting her. and to top it off she is getting married on my fh 35 birthday and she knew i wantes to have a party for him.
so please girls help me tia
futuremrsjc2010
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Wait, I'm confused...she's not having a DJ or photographer and her mom is cooking the food, yet she wants you girls to buy a $500.00 dress. Does that make sense? or is it just me??
shes insaneee!! thats when u look at her and say 'helll no!'
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Wow, $500 for a BM dress. That's insaneeeeeeeee. She wants a cheap wedding but is ok with having you spend that much on a dress. Ok, that totally doesn't make sense. I would just tell her that's too much money for you considering you have your wedding to pay for. I would still be in her wedding though since she's one of your best friends and she's in your wedding. Just tell her to find a cheaper dress.
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Seriously, even if you could afford it who wants to spend $500 on a BM dress. Geez... that is insane. I think you should be in it.. but certianly offer to go shopping to get a cheaper dress.
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She's being totally unreasonable with the dress request...esp if everything is on the cheap. I do think you have to suck it up and go to her wedding though. IMO, a wedding trumps a birthday. I'm guessing you're close if she's in y our bridal party.
stinenandy2010
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I think you just need to talk to her, be honest but sensitive to her feelings. She may not even know what she's doing. Honesty is the best policy!
GR2010
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$500 is way too much for a bm dress. I think you should be in her bp since she is i yours but be honest and tell her you can't afford to spend that on a dress right now and offer to help find something similar that wouldn't cost as much.
How much is the dress she's wearing in your wedding?
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I totally agreee. Unfortunately, since she is in your wedding party you have to be in hers...but the dress is way too expensive-show her pics and other options.
And for your FH's birthday-have his party either the week before or the week after-and make it a surprise party too! LOL
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OK this might not be what you want to hear. But I am not sure it's fair to call her wedding White Trash bc she can't afford or isn't willing to pay for the things many other brides find a necessity. That's her choice. On the other hand I totally agree that a $500 dress is ridculous. So I would talk to her about it explain that that is an ubsurb price for a BM dress and you support her and would be there for her if the cost isn't going to be so high.
I honestly don't think there is a nice way to say I won't be in yours although you are already in mine. I would expect to loose a BM if I did that. Sorry JMHO
