Girls, tell me if I'm being crazy

So, I'm kinda bummed and disappointed. Our wedding is still a year away, but once the year mark was past, we sent out our STDs to members of the bridal party and other very very close family.

I didn't expect people to go crazy, but I did expect a quick text or Facebook comment from my bridesmaids when they received one. My one bridesmaid did, but the other three (including my MOH) didn't say anything. Lol all of FH's groomsmen texted him when they got it! I'm kinda jealous.

I don't want to be pouty or dramatic, I was just kinda bummed that no one commented. Am I expecting too much?

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This happened to me too, and I can totally relate. I sent out an email to all of my BMs introducing everyone, telling them the date, etc. Literally everyone responded except for one MOH and one BM. It really hurt my feelings. Also, most people didn't respond to all, only to me, so I was annoyed that it looked like no one was responding.

It's hard because it makes it seem like people aren't interested or don't care. But my motto is people are just generally selfish and since this was the first time this happened, I'm letting it slide for now. However, I WILL say something if it keeps happening.

Sending you hugs ... we'll get through this together!!

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Posted by guitarstikibars

This happened to me too, and I can totally relate. I sent out an email to all of my BMs introducing everyone, telling them the date, etc. Literally everyone responded except for one MOH and one BM. It really hurt my feelings. Also, most people didn't respond to all, only to me, so I was annoyed that it looked like no one was responding.

It's hard because it makes it seem like people aren't interested or don't care. But my motto is people are just generally selfish and since this was the first time this happened, I'm letting it slide for now. However, I WILL say something if it keeps happening.

Sending you hugs ... we'll get through this together!!

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You're so sweet, I really needed that, thank you!!

The same exact thing happened to me! I texted them all in a group message with the intention of letting this be the way they get each others numbers and emails, and they all responded individually!

And you're absolutely right, people are, by nature, very self centered.

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Posted by vppjzv

One thing I've learned is not to have any expectations of other people. It's hard but it's reality. Some people will really surprise you though. I've found the people I either least expected to care or to not care at all have actually been the ones to go above and beyond.

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You're totally right. My downfall was when I starting getting excited that I would hear from my friends soon about how cute my STDs were. High expectations will get you every time!

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Posted by vppjzv

One thing I've learned is not to have any expectations of other people. It's hard but it's reality. Some people will really surprise you though. I've found the people I either least expected to care or to not care at all have actually been the ones to go above and beyond.

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this is SO true! one of my BMs that i thought would be impossible to work with has actually been the most responsible and helpful of all of the girls.

Don't be too upset over not getting responses from your friends.. when we did bridesmaid dresses, I sent a Facebook message with all of the details and only 2 people responded. Although, all 8 girls saw the message because it says on FB who read it. They all showed up though and were all on time, so that's all that matters!

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Posted by Kroedel87

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Posted by guitarstikibars

This happened to me too, and I can totally relate. I sent out an email to all of my BMs introducing everyone, telling them the date, etc. Literally everyone responded except for one MOH and one BM. It really hurt my feelings. Also, most people didn't respond to all, only to me, so I was annoyed that it looked like no one was responding.

It's hard because it makes it seem like people aren't interested or don't care. But my motto is people are just generally selfish and since this was the first time this happened, I'm letting it slide for now. However, I WILL say something if it keeps happening.

Sending you hugs ... we'll get through this together!!

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You're so sweet, I really needed that, thank you!!

The same exact thing happened to me! I texted them all in a group message with the intention of letting this be the way they get each others numbers and emails, and they all responded individually!

And you're absolutely right, people are, by nature, very self centered.

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i'm glad i helped! we are all in this together ... luckily we have each other to understand when it seems like no one else gets it!

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Posted by vppjzv

One thing I've learned is not to have any expectations of other people. It's hard but it's reality. Some people will really surprise you though. I've found the people I either least expected to care or to not care at all have actually been the ones to go above and beyond.

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yes!

Girls, tell me if I'm being crazy - Long Island Weddings

Definitely don't let it get you down. The unfortunate fact is that no one will care about your wedding as much as you do - especially if they haven't planned one themselves and don't understand all that goes into planning every little detail. I know I personally didn't, but now every time something gets sent to my house I'm always analyzing it lol. People will definitely surprise you, some in a good way and others in a bad way. I'm sorry you didn't get the feedback that you wanted, but at least people did notice even if it wasn't those that you wanted to notice!!!

Girls, tell me if I'm being crazy - Long Island Weddings

...your wedding matters. I know that it set my friends off to wonder about their life. It is a turning point for you and your friends. Their human and they are going through some emotions...and they will eventually remember to get excited for you because they care about you. Give them the bridal shower and bachelorette party to make it up to you!

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I would be disappointed too! I think I ruled out save the dates? I really don't want to spend the extra money or have to figure out what to send & then address them etc lol. I think I am just being lazy. Do I really NEED to send them? Please say no ;) haha!!

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Posted by Jack84

I would be disappointed too! I think I ruled out save the dates? I really don't want to spend the extra money or have to figure out what to send & then address them etc lol. I think I am just being lazy. Do I really NEED to send them? Please say no ;) haha!!

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Haha they're not super necessary. They are if you're having your wedding over a holiday weekend or if you have a lot of out of town guests.

They may not be as expensive as you think. I got super cute magnets from weddingpaperdivas.com. Got 50 for like $120

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Posted by Jack84

I would be disappointed too! I think I ruled out save the dates? I really don't want to spend the extra money or have to figure out what to send & then address them etc lol. I think I am just being lazy. Do I really NEED to send them? Please say no ;) haha!!

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Just saw your wedding date, is that Memorial Day weekend? If so, I would definitely send out STDs 8-10 months before. You don't want people going away the weekend of your wedding!

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Don't let it get you down. Not everyone will respond but I totally see how you feel hurt. We did magnets so when I went over to the family and friend houses they were displayed on their fridge and it made me happy. Some people will be more excited then others. You just have to take it with a grain of salt.

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agreed, your wedding is important to you. they care but most wont go above and beyond to share their feelings

Girls, tell me if I'm being crazy - Long Island Weddings

I spent an hour carefully composing the first few emails with all kinds of details and plans including introductions ony to get back a few 'ok!'. So I just realized no one will care like you do and just hope they show up when they are supposed to. Generally, you will be pleasantly surprised.

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Posted by Kroedel87

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Posted by Jack84

I would be disappointed too! I think I ruled out save the dates? I really don't want to spend the extra money or have to figure out what to send & then address them etc lol. I think I am just being lazy. Do I really NEED to send them? Please say no ;) haha!!

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Just saw your wedding date, is that Memorial Day weekend? If so, I would definitely send out STDs 8-10 months before. You don't want people going away the weekend of your wedding!

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It's actually the weekend after. Memorial Day is Monday & we get married Friday so it's a short week for everyone. Plus we were afraid of traffic & out of town guests (hotel & flight being more? That we picked the wend after.

Hmm maybe we will send them. Ugh doesn't anyone do wedding r-vites?? Haha totally kidding but it would be nice if we could!!