Girls...I need your help NOW UPDATED

Original post by Jsquared279

Jan 20, 2009 09:22 AM

Ok I never thought I would be writing this post, but here I am. FH and I have hit a rough spot. The past few weeks have been distant, not very romantic whatsoever. I don't know if it is the stress and running around of the big day approaching in just 18 days but I am unhappy and hurt. I don't feel very loved or special or beautiful. I don't feel he even really has an interest in me right now. I know he loves me. He tells me a million times a day but the romance is just deflated. There hasn't been much intimacy whatsoever and when there is it is rushed and feels like an after thought.

I don't remember the last time we went on a date or did anything alone other than chores and wedding related things that need to get done.

I don't know what to do. Any advice? I have been crying pretty much all morning. I am really scared that this is happening so close to the wedding. I mean if the romance is fleeting now, what is going to happen after 20 years of marriage? Is this a sign? I am really scared. I want nothing more in life than to marry this man and build a life with him. Why is this happening now? Any words of support or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

*** So yesterday I leave my office and go to the parking garage and on my passenger seat of my car is a dozen roses from FH! He is amazing! We talked and worked everything out and made the decision to not let the event get in the way of what this wedding/marriage is supposed to be about...US! So last night was great and tonight I am taking him on a date to our first date restaurant. I can't wait! I am so glad to have things getting back on track. He is my heart! I cannot wait to be his wife!! Thanks girls for all your help and support!

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 12:05 PM

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Aww I'm sorry you're going through this! It's stress...just calm down, dry your tears, and remember that the both of you are under a lot of stress right now, and we are not machines. It's impossible to be lovey and happy and upbeat ALL the time, with so much going on. If it's any consolation, FH and I have gone through the same kind of periods, and we're no where near as close to the big day as you are...so if you are just starting to experience this now, you are one of the lucky ones.

It will all be ok....and I don't think it will be indicative of years to come.

Jsquared279 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 12:07 PM

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Posted by flairforfashion

Posted by Jsquared279

Thanks so much girls! I feel much better now and so relieved. FH and I did talk about this a bit this morning before work, which lead to all the tears. I think we are going to talk more tonight. I plan on taking him out to dinner tomorrow to the restaurant where we had our first date. Hopefully that will be a good start....thanks again!

And I think the dinner thing is as fantastic idea!

Thanks hun!

Jsquared279 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 12:07 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

Aww I'm sorry you're going through this! It's stress...just calm down, dry your tears, and remember that the both of you are under a lot of stress right now, and we are not machines. It's impossible to be lovey and happy and upbeat ALL the time, with so much going on. If it's any consolation, FH and I have gone through the same kind of periods, and we're no where near as close to the big day as you are...so if you are just starting to experience this now, you are one of the lucky ones.

It will all be ok....and I don't think it will be indicative of years to come.

Thank you soo much...I needed that!

Jsquared279 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 09:05 AM

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BUMP for update!

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 21, 2009 09:12 AM

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That is so cute of him

Every could hits a rough patch every now and then.. FH and I just got through one last month as well.. It is probably from all the stress of wedding planning

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 09:23 AM

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Awwww!
I'm so happy to hear the wonderful update. You are destined to grow old together. These rough patches will come and go...but you will make it, you'll live the 'fairytale'.

FutureMrsM Posted: Jan 21, 2009 09:29 AM

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That's great! I'm so glad you talked about everything and are back on track :)

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 09:56 AM

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Awww I'm glad everything worked out!

allegracristina Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:10 AM

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Jess, this is great news!!! I'm so happy your FH made you feel so much better, and that you guys are on the same page. Have a great time on your date!!!!!

GT143EA Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:25 AM

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Im so glad you guys worked everything out!!!!

Jsquared279 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:15 AM

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Thanks girls!

Celeste617 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:28 AM

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Glad you guys worked that out! He saw the error of his ways I hear a lot that the stress before the wedding can cause a strain. it's tough spending all this money! But you guys love each other so it's always going to be ok

PROBM Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:30 AM

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i am so jelous of you , you have a great man... you are not allowed to cry anymore, you hear me? your MAN rocks ..

Jenn04 Posted: Jan 21, 2009 11:31 AM

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Aww I am glad everything is ok. This is definitely normal...you tend to get caught up and forget to make plans for the two of you! Plan a nice date for this weekend!