FH and I are going to a wedding on Saturday. We are going to give $ as a gift. Here comes my issue... FH did work for the people that are getting married back in January. To date they have only given him 3/4 of the $ he is owed (about $3000). So we are going to give them a check when they still owe FH another $1200??? Somehow this seems really wrong to me. What do you think???
Misty
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Eek. That's a tough one.
My guess is that you'll see the balance of the money after the wedding. So maybe you just have to eat crow and give the gift, basically to get it back!
Annie02
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I'm sure it must feel weird to give $$ to someone who owes you $$ - but if they invited you to the wedding, you must have a friendly relationship with them, and you shouldn't mix the business relationship into this by not giving a gift. I think give the gift - if you have to remind them about what they owe, do it after the wedding.
Betty
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I think you have to give a gift.......but you don't have to be happy about doing it...I wouldn'tbe
Leelee
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Hmmm...this is a tough one. What about not giving them money and buying them some sort of keepsake gift?
NIHA
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That is a tough one. What is reason that they haven't paid him the rest of the $$? Are they good for it? I was always taught that if you must borrow, pay someone back before you spend on yourself for things that you want (not need).
But, my opinion is to keep the two issues seperate, give them the money that you would normally give as a gift. I hope they pay your FH soon.
kptoys
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He works at a golf course and is collecting unemployment for 3 months till the season starts back up again. Plus he has a wedding to pay for.
I dont know it just seems dumb to give him $ to get it back sometime in the hopefully near future.
Sassy
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Do they have a registry? Why not get them something off that?
