My only desire is that you are happy on your wedding day. Since Dave first asked me about marrying you, I’ve thought of walking you down the aisle and giving you away. After missing so much in your life, walking you down the aisle was something that I felt would be my honor as your father and no one could take that away. At no time did not wanting to do that enter my mind. I’m sorry if you misunderstood my disappointment. You are absolutely right, this is your and Dave’s day and you should do whatever you feel is right for you.
Jo loves you and Ken and I’m saddened that you would think that she had something to do with my reaction. The thought of doing anything that would upset you on your wedding day would never cross either of our minds.
This is not the time to get into specifics (and I never will) but, sometimes people do things that others can never forget or forgive. I know that your mother is very, very special to you and I would never say or try to do anything that would put you in a position of being in the middle. That is a no win situation for me and I wouldn’t want you to have to deal with something like that. I would never, never do or say anything that would make your wedding day anything less than special for you and Dave.
The thought of you being upset breaks my heart. I’m sorry. Please consider this a closed issue.
Love ya.
Dad
brittndave
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now i feel bad....
AwaitingAugust
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i'm glad to hear it's resolved and he'll walk you down the aisle with your mom
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now i feel bad....
you shouldn't feel bad ... he should feel bad for wanting to do it his way, and not considering your feelings first!
jackieee
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AWWWW what a sweet message. dont feel bad. it was a little misunderstanding..like he said, it's a closed issue now.
brittndave
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yae but he said he's disappointed
AngnShaun
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now i feel bad....
its easy for us to say not to feel bad... but if i were you id feel the same way... he seemed genuine though, so thats a plus
ETA: Im sure hes disappointed because he wants to be the only one to walk you down the aisle... he shouldnt have said anything to you about it in the first place... i wouldnt let that bother me..
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yae but he said he's disappointed
but you would be equally (if not more) disappointed if your mom wasn't walking you down along with him.
i agree that i would feel bad too if it were me, but i would just let it go and be happy with the resolution.
your dad understands. he's not mad or upset.
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yae but he said he's disappointed
That's always the parent's trump card- 'I'm not mad, just disappointed.'
Don't feel bad about it, though jeez he even made me feel a little bad for being annoyed by him and I don't even know the guy!! At least you get to honor BOTH your parents on your wedding day!
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now i feel bad....
you shouldn't feel bad ... he should feel bad for wanting to do it his way, and not considering your feelings first!
I;m with you!
hey, I like his response though. Now he understands that he upset you.
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Wow, I'm totally right now (I kind of was already, though)... I wish my dad would say those things to me..................
So happy for you!! Don't feel bad....... It makes sense for everybody's reaction to have been what they were... esp through email.........
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yae but he said he's disappointed
but you would be equally (if not more) disappointed if your mom wasn't walking you down along with him.
ITA
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That was very sweet of him to write. It's normal for you to feel bad but it will pass. He seems okay with everything and asfar as being disappointed, on the day of your wedding, I am sure he will be fine with everything! I am so happy it worked out okay!
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Awwww i think his response is sweet. Don't feel bad, he understands now and now you understand why he had that reaction. I would just move on from here and not mention it again. Just go forward!
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now i feel bad....
Dont feel bad. You are an adult and had an adult discussion with your father. His reaction is exactly as it shouldve been. He understands everything you were saying because you approached him in a very mature, respectable manner .. Id be happy if I were you
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aw! that was really nice of him
AdriandSteve
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Don't feel bad. It was a wonderful response from him that you would have never gotten if you didn't voice your opinion.
JC297
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are you certain your mom wants to walk down the aisle? I know it was important for my mom to see me coming down the aisle.
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I just read this response and got so teary eyed. I feel bad too, but what parents don't understand is that our history and past effect the present and future. I am dealing with a similar issue right now. I am glad he is understanding what you wanted. I think you should stick to your original plan and not feel bad either way and walk with both your parents.
