the other night FH made a comment and said everything out of my mouth is wedding related. I was really hurt by this and I still can't seem to let it go. I try not to let this wedding consume me but let's be for real IT'S MY FIRST AND GOD WILLING ONLY WEDDING EVER! Not only that but I work alot and my job can be very stressful. All the planning has been left to me so this is actually a fun outlet from work for me... I don't really have friends anymore because i got sick of being used and I don't go out anywhere so its basically work, chores and wedding planning for me.
I told FH that it's easy for him to say that because he can up and go play softball on sunday while I have to go to church and take my chatechism, I have to book all these vendors on my free time, i have to do all the research. OF COURSE EVERYTHING OUT OF MY MOUTH IS WEDDING RELATED! it's all I have thats exciting to me right now.
I'm paying the mortgage so his job is to pay for the wedding. He has 3 paychecks he has yet to deposit into the wedding account and I told him weeks ago we need $1200 to book sherwood, we need $3something to order invites and another $100ish for save the dates...I have recieved money for none of this.
sorry for the long post...just needed to vent
Wedding999
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sorry to hear that - i know how you feel. Even though its fun and exciting - its like a full time job to plan a wedding - so of course its all you talk about.
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Don't let his comment get the best of you. FH has a habit of scratching his head when I get into wedding mode with him and he has gone as far as asking for one weekend a month where we don't have wedding talk. Men can be insensitive jerks! Plan on honey!
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FH has complained to me as well that all I talk about is the wedding. He keeps telling me 'it's your day, anything you want, just tell me when to show up'. Yeah, that's great, thanks for the help. *sigh*
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FH has complained to me as well that all I talk about is the wedding. He keeps telling me 'it's your day, anything you want, just tell me when to show up'. Yeah, that's great, thanks for the help. *sigh*
fh said similar...'this is your deal, I'm just paying for it' I FLIPPED OUT ON HIM. then he was like 'baby, I didn't mean it like that...if you want me to come see something of course I'll go'
he just can be a real jerk about it sometimes.
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FH has complained to me as well that all I talk about is the wedding. He keeps telling me 'it's your day, anything you want, just tell me when to show up'. Yeah, that's great, thanks for the help. *sigh*
fh said similar...'this is your deal, I'm just paying for it' I FLIPPED OUT ON HIM. then he was like 'baby, I didn't mean it like that...if you want me to come see something of course I'll go'
he just can be a real jerk about it sometimes.
Must be a guy thing. They just don't seem to understand how much work it is to plan a wedding.
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Fh always says why are you letting it stress you ................Um becuause its a huge deal.,...he says the wedding isnt a big deal the marriage is !!
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FH has complained to me as well that all I talk about is the wedding. He keeps telling me 'it's your day, anything you want, just tell me when to show up'. Yeah, that's great, thanks for the help. *sigh*
fh said similar...'this is your deal, I'm just paying for it' I FLIPPED OUT ON HIM. then he was like 'baby, I didn't mean it like that...if you want me to come see something of course I'll go'
he just can be a real jerk about it sometimes.
Must be a guy thing. They just don't seem to understand how much work it is to plan a wedding.
lol no they really don't. I was like 'this is my deal you're just paying for it?!?!? that is no way to start a marriage! I am planning this wedding and paying for the house and going to church so that I can marry you and all I ask is that you take some interest and ACT like this is an important day in BOTH of our lives'
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My fh tells me all the time that all I talk about is the wedding. I know that it is true, but like you said, I am excited and I am the one doing all the research and work. I just try to remember that I am a woman and he is a man and that makes it a lot easier when I start to get upset. I bet 75% of the brides on this site feel the same way, even if they won't admit it.
As for the money thing, that is another story, he needs to step up and contribute whatever he can. Maybe try having a sit down and discussing the issues with him.
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Yea...sometimes im sick of hearing myself talk wedding...
thats what LIW is here for ..i try not to speak about it
RadiantBride
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Dont feel bad, FH says the same thing. Really most times i just keep things to myself of chat here . But trust me the day you dont bring it up he will be asking (FH does it all the time).
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FH has complained to me as well that all I talk about is the wedding. He keeps telling me 'it's your day, anything you want, just tell me when to show up'. Yeah, that's great, thanks for the help. *sigh*
fh said similar...'this is your deal, I'm just paying for it' I FLIPPED OUT ON HIM. then he was like 'baby, I didn't mean it like that...if you want me to come see something of course I'll go'
he just can be a real jerk about it sometimes.
Must be a guy thing. They just don't seem to understand how much work it is to plan a wedding.
I agree def a guy thing. I wouldn't take to personally.
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Its easy for them to criticize us for always talking about the wedding, when we're the ones doing all the work. Dont let it get you down, FH has made that comment to me a million times. If they could be in our shoes for 5 minutes then they'd understand.
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Sometimes, men should really stop and think before they speak!!!
I am actually lucky so far b/c I have no complaints about FH. I say so far because we only booked our RH at the end of August and have only started planning. I guess I'll see how it goes.
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I'm sorry!!! It's terrible that he's not being supportive. It's annoying that they don't even care. Its really stressful trying to work and plan a wedding, and I'm going to school full time... !! Thank god for LIW!!!!!! That's what we're here for. I would definitely approach him about the money that you guys need to put down on stuff for the wedding. He probably just doesn't realize what a big deal it is.
Dougs Girl
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I know it's just about the only thing I talk about. Sometimes I have to tell myself to stop lol I don't know what I did before I started planning this wedding
mariaobride
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don't sweat it, you have every right to speak of your wedding plans - it's a huge topic in your life right now that is very important I believe we all constantly speak about it - it's normal.
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i feel your pain....Steve has said that to me too and i tell him well how else is it gonna get done?? i am doing everything!! i picked everything i am keeping up with payments and it is exciting!! so i told him if he doesn tlike it we can call it off lol that usually shuts him up for a while!
hope u feel better
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i'm real sorry, but i can relate my job to is very stressful and like you i have chores and my fun time is planning our wedding, sometimes when i talk about it fh will go shh, that to me is like saying you dont want to hear it, and that really hurts , i put alot of time into everything i'm planning so we have a wonderful day. but i do know he appreciates it, but men arent like us women with these things. but i'm sure your fh appreciates what your doing as well. so dont let his comment get you down, keep planning and be happy, and set him down and express how important it is you get the money for your vendors, good luck.
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I know how you feel.....FH said the same thing to me....I was very hurt and I let him know the only reason I talk about it so much is because I want it to be perfect and about the love we share, and that's why I share everything about the wedding with him....He understood and apologized....=)
