Grandma update...sad news

First I wanted to thank everyone who sent all their hugs and prayers on behalf of my grandmother. Unfortunately, I don't have much new to report. She still isn't speaking much (only a few mumbles here and there) and not eating at all. The doctors at the hospital have been extremely non-receptive, when they can even be found. My mother has had the hardest time even getting someone to see my grandma, even worse of a time getting any sort of straight answers. Plus we are fairly certain they gave her a drug she was not supposed to have that made her condition worse.

In the meantime, they want to put in a feeding tube since the IV isn't enough nourishment, but my mother and aunt don't know whether to do that because, if they do, and she doesn't get better, she will be using it as life support for lord only knows how long as we do not have a proxy from her to do otherwise. Of course, if we don't agree to the feeding tube, she will likely starve.

So needless to say there is a lot of anxiety but I don't know what to do and there's not much I CAN do. I was thinking of trying to get up to NY this weekend (I live in DC) but my mom tells me not to come, there's nothing I can do. I don't know. I have a huge exam next week and don't want to fall behind on schoolwork, but this is probably more important. I am so confused. What should I do???