fh told me one of the biggest things he is worried about the wedding is having to dance.. he really doesnt like to, he means dancing to the fast music throughout the reception.. we are going to have a first dance just by ourselves, but then for the rest of the time, everyones probably going to be telling him he should get up and dance and i know he doesnt like it and i feel bad..
does anyone's fh or did your dh feel this way.. what did he do??
Kara and Todd
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You two will be so busy chatting it up with everyone that few people will even notice if he doesn't dance or doesn't want to. You won't have a ton of time for dancing anyway!
Don't worry about it. He'll be fine! If people ask why he's not dancing, he should say he's working the room and wants to make sure he gets to spend time with everyone. It's not as if he'll be sitting by himself at any point - trust me! He'll be busy even if he doesn't dance.
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Both my FH & I HATE dancing - we even didn't want to have a dance floor...really..
What i've been told is that very little time will be spent dancing - most of the time your'e going to be bombarded with people wishing you well, etc. If anything - make sure you and your attendant have a sign - if you start high-fiving your hubby - the attendant can know it's time to interrupt the dancing and wisk you away somewhere for no reason other than he was uncomfortable... :)
HTH in some way!
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My FH is the same way. He said he will dance to any and every slow song but he won't be dancing to the fast stuff. He really doesn't like fast dancing; his feet turn to lead after one song. I told him not to even worry about it. The fast stuff is pretty much everybody dancing in a big group anyway.
As long as I get to dance with him to the slow songs, that's fine with me :)
Kara and Todd
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Remember, you're NOT going to have nearly as much time to dance as you think you will. You will be very busy mingling and being pulled in a million different directions that day.
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Posted by Kara and Todd
You two will be so busy chatting it up with everyone that few people will even notice if he doesn't dance or doesn't want to. You won't have a ton of time for dancing anyway!
Don't worry about it. He'll be fine! If people ask why he's not dancing, he should say he's working the room and wants to make sure he gets to spend time with everyone. It's not as if he'll be sitting by himself at any point - trust me! He'll be busy even if he doesn't dance.
I agree. The last wedding I went to the groom didn't dance and spent most of the evening greeting the guests and hanging out at different tables.
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thanks! i'll tell him.
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Mine doesn't really like to dance, but he knew he had to for the wedding. He was up there and dancing the whole time. For those who say you won't be dancing anyway- thats not necessarily true. DH and I danced almost the ENTIRE time at our wedding. We said hello to people during ch and during 'down' time. It was our party and we wanted to enjoy it. I would totally recommend doing this - if you spend the whole time separated and talking to guests, you will wonder where the day went. People always comment to me how we both were dancing and how we truly enjoyed our own wedding.
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I'm a danceer by nature and FH is def not! So we got him some dancinglessons actually it turned out to be a guy thing! He got 3 of his closest friends and they went to a swtudio and my friend instructed them hahaha they came back laughing so i assume they had a good time ... and he says he is more comfortable wit it now...he even got up with me a couple of times to dance
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I have been dancing since day one. FH has been learning to dance. When we are weddings and or other special events he loves to dance with me.
~dancer and chef~ charlotte and michael
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And I thought I was the only one who had a FH who didnt like to dance. The first time i Saw him dancing in our 5 yr relationship was when he proposed to me. We went to a club after and he had a little to many drinks.
It was kind of nice but akward. .
I dont have much advice- I need some myself- he's not gonna wanna dance much either have the first dance is over- hopefully i can get a few drinks in him.
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Posted by davenjess
Both my FH & I HATE dancing - we even didn't want to have a dance floor...really..
What i've been told is that very little time will be spent dancing - most of the time your'e going to be bombarded with people wishing you well, etc. If anything - make sure you and your attendant have a sign - if you start high-fiving your hubby - the attendant can know it's time to interrupt the dancing and wisk you away somewhere for no reason other than he was uncomfortable... :)
HTH in some way!
This is us too! We are both kinda dreading the first dance part even - we haven't picked out a song yet becuase neither on of us really wants to do it ....but the pictures would be nice!
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I'm soooooooo happy i'm not alone in this.... in 5 years we have NEVER danced together and I LOVE DANCING!!! My FH has said he will dance our first dance together and then he's done with dancing. For never dancing I think thats a good compromise! Iwas worried I was the only one out there with this problem! lol
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Posted by Irishny8
I'm soooooooo happy i'm not alone in this.... in 5 years we have NEVER danced together and I LOVE DANCING!!! My FH has said he will dance our first dance together and then he's done with dancing. For never dancing I think thats a good compromise! Iwas worried I was the only one out there with this problem! lol
Oh I am so in this boat too!! My FH used to dance all the time when we first met...I don't know what happened but I couldn't get him on a dance floor for the life of me now! He offered to take dance lessons but I just don't know if we have the time....I'll be dancing solo for sure!
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FH doesnt dance either no worries! he will just do the slow dances and i will be greeting tables during the fast dances or dancing with my girls!
make sure you let your DJ know that FH doesn't dance i had it put into my contract never to call us onto the dance floor bc sometimes they make the B&G dance in the middle and FH would run away LOL
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Mine doesnt dance either but Im not going to let it stop me from enjoying myself. Granted, I know how you feel..you want him out there with you having a good time but if he's that uncomfortable I wouldnt push it.
Im hoping to get through our first dance and maybe drag him out at another point during the night. Otherwise I had to get use to the idea that he may be at the bar with the boys while I dance with my girls!!
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You do not understand how happy I am to read this thread!! I so thought I was the only one. FH hates hates hates dancing!!!! I tricked him into dancing 'I had the time of my life' (the dirty dancing song) at the wedding he was in this weekend. The only way he will dance is if its a song he can sing to and your basically just standing there sing and it looks like ur dancing....
I love to dance, so I told him already that he has to suck it up for this one night only, and that no one will really care how he dances.... some how I have a feeling he will back down on me the the wedding actually happens!!
Thank goodness he like to slow dance!
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FH hates dancing. I LOOOOOVE dancing...so he walked around and talked to everyone-I did quick hellos and I was done. He really enjoyed walking around and talking to everyone and I danced all night.
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My FH doesn't like to dance much usually... he says he'll dance at our wedding... we'll see but I won't hold my breath!!! But I'm not going to let that stop me, I LOVE dancing and I'm going to be out there all night. I plan to say most of my hello's during cocktail hour, make quick table visits (maybe during dinner?) and have a blast out on the dance floor!!!!!
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my FH hates to dance too and he is dreading it at our wedding. We requested several slow songs from the DJ though, so at least we can dance together a few times.
