grrr...... GRRRRR...... Another email from her at the bottom.

Ok so I have had this best friend since 6th grade. She moved to Vegas. She was the first one that I asked to be in my Bridal Party she accepted. She helped pick out the dress (on the internet) She has a son by an idiot who has gone to jail for 'hitting' her (I say it like that cause sometime she lie's for attention) She had another baby by him but during her pregnancy they broke up. After she had the baby she said I am going to get measured for the dress.... Then she got back with the loser and all of a sudden she didnt have the money. I was pissed. I felt like he had something to do with it. I said some pretty mean things about him Like how much I HATE him and in my Eyes he doesnt exsist I dont even want to hear about him. I told her don't bother bringing him here cause I don't want to see him and he isnt invited to my weddng ( I know its mean but I have seen the way he treats her) I got her invite back in the mail today cause it was the wrong address. I just called her at 2 am to find out the right address. Yup she said she could come here just not be in the bridal party... I asked her if her parents are coming and she said I don't know. My mom doesnt want to send the invite back cause they arent sure ok my Rsvp date is in 4 days. Thats not something u can send back like 3 days before the wedding.

For like 3 months she has been saying how she got the plane ticket to come here. Then like a month ago she said that she reurned her ticket cause her husbands sisters boyfriend (lol) works for an airline and got her a free ticket SWEET DEAL right?

Just now on th phone with her she says hold on someone wants to talk to u she puts me on the phone with this husbands sisters boyfriend the one that got her the free ticket and he goes 'oh ya I am working on getting heather a free ticket so she can come there!' And hen he says 'Heather is hitting my leg I think I said something I shouldnt have'

She gets back on the phone with me and I said Whatever and started laughing and she goes 'what does that mean ure gonna make me mad like it doesnt matter if I am there or not'

I said Its 2am Im tired gotta goto bed. She lied to me AGAIN!!!!!! and she's MAD PLEASE!!!!!!!! At this point Honestlt I don't care if she comes or not Is that WRONG????

I would probably feel the same way you are feeling right now. I'm sorry about the situation

Its pretty apparent she doesn't care about the friendship you two have. Forget about her and worry about you special day that is coming.

I am really sorry this is happening. I know if it was me, because I have a temper (occasionally) I would just call her and tell her thanks for trying to come but since its such a hassle dont bother. Only so I dont have to deal with the stress. JMO. I hope it works out the way you want it.

Thank you all I feel so much better that I am not the only one that sees this.

wow... why is she acting like that?

I totally understand why you would be upset...

Sorry to be the devil's advocate here, but I have a feeling she's acting the way she is, because you don't accept her 'mistakes'. You're judgemental of her relationship, and make it hard for her not to push you away with the way you talk about her boyfriend. I can understand how it makes you really pissed that she's with such a person, because we all deserve better, but there's absolutely nothing you can do about it (especially since she has kids with him).

I have to agree with Oscar the Groom... she doesn't seem to care that much about your friendship, or about being part of your special day.. however, it's possible that you took part in pushing her away. JMO.

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Posted by chichila15

Sorry to be the devil's advocate here, but I have a feeling she's acting the way she is, because you don't accept her 'mistakes'. You're judgemental of her relationship, and make it hard for her not to push you away with the way you talk about her boyfriend. I can understand how it makes you really pissed that she's with such a person, because we all deserve better, but there's absolutely nothing you can do about it (especially since she has kids with him).

I have to agree with Oscar the Groom... she doesn't seem to care that much about your friendship, or about being part of your special day.. however, it's possible that you took part in pushing her away. JMO.

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See I can totally agree with you... BUT.... the first time I was there for her and then when she got pregnant the second time I was there for her. When her and her husband broke up the first time I listened to her. Then she got back together and didnt tell anyone not even her parents cause she knew how we felt about him. Let me also mention that When she tried to 'kill herself' in high school I was there and when she had a 'drug problem' I was there. I just feel done with it now. I can't help someone who makes problems for herself. She is the kind of person who is scared to be alone!

Wow, I had no idea that your friend has put herself and you through so much. I can see your frustration all these years... and now I understand your anger even more because she looks for what she gets. I'm not at all sympathetic for people like that, because they constantly set themselves up. You're a better person than me... and the fact that you've hung in there for so long, you deserve credit...

What do you plan on doing? Will you replace her if she doesn't go? Are you still going to count on her to show? Man, I'm sorry about one of your BMs. It really sucks when the people who choose to celebrate your day by your side, let you down.

When she told me that she couldnt afford to be in the wedding (which I understand she has 2 children but on a side note she knew about this for 2 and a half years and she was all game after the baby was born as soon as she got back with him she couldnt afford it) I was really upset cause I feel like he had something todo with it. She wanted me to buy the dress and she would pay me back no Ill never see the money. Then It will cost her to much to buy shoes (they got their shoes at parade of shoes for 30.00) and hair and makeup I never said they needed to get makeup done or even their hair He!! I am having my neighbor (who has done my hair forever) do my hair and my cousin do my makeup! Why would I ask her to get hers done??? Whatever I was really upset I got over it. she said I am definetly going to come blah blah blah.

To find out she doesnt even have a ticket (which she lied to me about 2 times) I was going to ask her todo a reading. FORGET THAT! thats all I need getting to the church with one lesson reading person! I didnt replace her because I had an uneven amount to begin with now we are even. I had another friend who had to drop out she was my best friend since we are 3. I wasn't upset with her though its strange probably because she is bettering herself she is in Law School and had a mandatory business meeting that weekend!

if this person was truely your friend then she would not lie to you she would tell you things like they are. she would care if she was hurting your feelings. you don't need friends like that. it sound like you have tried all you can. maybe you should tell her how you feel and leave it up to her you have alot more patience than i do. no matter what the out come dont let it be a factor on your big day. good luck

to you-
Some people are just not givers and are only takers.
I am sorry that she is not reciprocating with this friendship, it sounds like you put a lot in to it. Some people get wrapped up in their own world intentional or not- sorry.

Thanks guys.

This is the email she sent me yesterday!!!

about last night, either wasy i have the tickets. This guy he sold a car to works for southwest airlines, He has tickets for 130.00 or he his trying to get free ones. With the free ones he is trying to get me guarenteed seats cause i have Lilyanna. He already has my money so everything is fine i have tickets either way. I told u i would be there so i will be there. So please call me soon or i will call u soon
Love ya
Heather





This is what I responded.



You told me that you had bought tickets and returned them! Because Maricio works for an airline and got you a free ticket. You should have had 2 tickets and you dont even have One. Just don't lie to me

OK seriously is she on drugs again!

That's really all I can say.