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grrr...... GRRRRR...... Another email from her at the bottom.

Original post by june262004

Ok so I have had this best friend since 6th grade. She moved to Vegas. She was the first one that I asked to be in my Bridal Party she accepted. She helped pick out the dress (on the internet) She has a son by an idiot who has gone to jail for 'hitting' her (I say it like that cause sometime she lie's for attention) She had another baby by him but during her pregnancy they broke up. After she had the baby she said I am going to get measured for the dress.... Then she got back with the loser and all of a sudden she didnt have the money. I was pissed. I felt like he had something to do with it. I said some pretty mean things about him Like how much I HATE him and in my Eyes he doesnt exsist I dont even want to hear about him. I told her don't bother bringing him here cause I don't want to see him and he isnt invited to my weddng ( I know its mean but I have seen the way he treats her) I got her invite back in the mail today cause it was the wrong address. I just called her at 2 am to find out the right address. Yup she said she could come here just not be in the bridal party... I asked her if her parents are coming and she said I don't know. My mom doesnt want to send the invite back cause they arent sure ok my Rsvp date is in 4 days. Thats not something u can send back like 3 days before the wedding.

For like 3 months she has been saying how she got the plane ticket to come here. Then like a month ago she said that she reurned her ticket cause her husbands sisters boyfriend (lol) works for an airline and got her a free ticket SWEET DEAL right?

Just now on th phone with her she says hold on someone wants to talk to u she puts me on the phone with this husbands sisters boyfriend the one that got her the free ticket and he goes 'oh ya I am working on getting heather a free ticket so she can come there!' And hen he says 'Heather is hitting my leg I think I said something I shouldnt have'

She gets back on the phone with me and I said Whatever and started laughing and she goes 'what does that mean ure gonna make me mad like it doesnt matter if I am there or not'

I said Its 2am Im tired gotta goto bed. She lied to me AGAIN!!!!!! and she's MAD PLEASE!!!!!!!! At this point Honestlt I don't care if she comes or not Is that WRONG????
june262004 Posted:

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She already dropped out of the wedding before the dresses where even ordered. this is just for her to come here

june262004 Posted:

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here is some more email from her today.

I didnt lie to u!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i did return the other tickets. Mauricio doesnt work for the airlines he is a car sales man. He sold a car to a guy that works for southwest and gave that guy a really good deal. so he is going to hook him up. Like i said before i have tickets either way. If i can get them for free that is even better. The guy has my money. So i have the tickets. He gets them at a certain time so i have to wait intill that time. I am not a liar. I am not liying to u. if u dont want to belive me that is fine. either way i am coming to your wedding.i also never told u that they were for freem intill now. i told u that they were for 130.00 dollars. so either i will pay 130.00 or they will be free.


I dont believe her at all. And she did lie either she is lieing about that or she doesnt even realize she does it.
BlondeJD Posted:

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What a wacko! If she wasn't lying then why did she hit that guy when he was on the phone with you--when he said, 'I guess I said something I wasn't supposed to.' Inquiring minds want to know
june262004 Posted:

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LOL!!! Exactly. I am going to ask her. LOL...
holly231 Posted:

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KRistin, IMHO, shes taking you for a fool!

FIrst of all, just because he sold a car to a guy, does not mean he is able to hook him up with some free tickets....its hard for family to get in on the tickets, and when they do, its Standby until there is room on a flight....in that way, there is never a guarnateed flight...

And, Southwest tickets are so cheap to begin with....you can get them for 50-60 each way...do a check on southwest for yourself, adding the info, and see what you come up with...

Don;t let this girl ruin your day, just go aheas assuming she is not coming..its not worth the stress!!
LIJuneBride Posted:

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Posted by nov.bride

to you-
Some people are just not givers and are only takers.
I am sorry that she is not reciprocating with this friendship, it sounds like you put a lot in to it. Some people get wrapped up in their own world intentional or not- sorry.




I think she's right. From all you're telling us, she's planning on flying standby. And what if there are no standby tickets available??? If I were you, I'd just let her be and assume she won't be at the wedding. If she does come, she will most likely be here the day before and you can call your hall and add her (they never say no to more money - it shouldn't be a problem).
brideinapril Posted:

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Posted by oakslady

id tell her to keep her *** home and not to bother me - wayyy to much drama for me



I agree 100%!!!
There is way to much drama here - you should NOT be dealing with this so close to your wedding day!!
Xelindrya Posted:

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Your best friend and my best friend could be twins!!!

My MOH is a single mother who knew over a year and a half ago about my wedding and was all game. gonna put money aside and all that. Well as of today, no money for the dress, no ticket, no credit cards to buy the ticket on, and as of a few days ago they shut off her phone (no money for that).

Being understanding is tough. I know she's struggling and I may not approve of her mistakes but it's her life. She is however directly affecting my wedding.

I knew this may happen when I asked her to be MOH. Right now I'm just bummed she isn't proving me wrong. I so desperately wanted her to come, but I can't carry the girl. She spends her whole life letting others take her weight and I just can't.

Sometimes you just have to let them make their own mistakes and expect the worse and hope for the best.

I know it's frustrating.. TRUST ME I KNOW! Vent away. Just be careful she doesn't know about this site. Otherwise, I just guess you're gonna have to 'hope' she shows up and try not to be disappointed if she doesn't.

I find my best friend lies to me when she wants to save face. She thinks I live the life of glamour and money (hahaha). It's not jealousy as much as shame or embarassment of her own life. That causes her to think that lying to me is ok, if she looks like she's 'alright'. I know she isn't alright (i see no shame and no reason for embarassment)but she's an adult. I have to let her make those mistakes on her own.

Good Luck!
shelly3950 Posted:

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Sorry hon, but this is WAY too much drama. At this point, the best thing to do is to step away. It is her issue to deal with how she gets here. You have to trust that she will get here some way.

She is also clearly a liar- as you already know from your past with her. This is somethign you can either accept or let the friendship go. That part of her is not going to change if it hasn't since high school.
june262004 Posted:

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Thanks everyone.


Thanks Holly. You are right

Veronica I can't believe u have one too. LOL.
oakslady Posted:

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what is this chicks problem - i would have them kick her out if she decides to show up at all - why in the world is she telling you all the gritty details about her trip plans doesnt she think you have enough to think about besides her and all her insanity - that gal needs a trip alright directly to belvue

june262004 Posted:

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LOL.... shes been there done that LOL....
bogiedmb41 Posted:

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sounds like this girl has a serious problem. I would just try to forget about her drama for now and focus on finishing the planning for your wedding. if she comes, she comes and if she doesnt then she doesn't deserve your friendship. sometimes we have to put all our feelings aside about the past and think about what is happening now, you might have been good friends but people and things change and she doesn't sound like a good friend now. I would tell her to do what she wants come or dont you have had it and dont care either way at this point. i also would like to know why she slapped the kid if she didn't care what he said to you and she was being 'completely honest' really honey i wish you luck I am sorry she is giving you such a hard time

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