Grrrr.....Girls!! SO UPSET :o(

So, Im really mad right now. And sad because one of the girls that was in my wedding is upsetting me. I got sent a thread today from someone saying she was writing about me over in the 2010 brides. Im not the greatest person here...I didnt know we could do that...haha. She goes on and on about how busy she was and how big of a biotch I was, and how bad my wedding was, there are MULTIPLE posts talking about all this and me.....its like excuse me? She is the worst bridesmaid EVER and Im the biotch? How does that happen. SO this is exactly how I responded to her....

http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=615591&Highlight=

Im genuinly hurt by all this because she was a good friend of mine but really....Im not a fan of smearing peoples names around BUT I have to defend myself. I had a wonderful wedding day, it was perfect...all except for our mishap.


**Posted wrong thread...at bottom!**

I am sorry she did that. She probably should have spoken with you about it rather than vent on LIW. Did she know you go on this site?

Also - I didn't read anywhere that says your wedding was so bad. Don't worry about it...you are married!!

I am sorry she posted that about you.. that is not right...

however, dont take this the wrong way, but you said 'Im not a fan of smearing peoples names around' but you are kind of doing it too by posting this.

There are always two sides to a story and maybe you guys should talk this out instead of posting stuff about eachother. I am sure its not worth losing your friendship over. Maybe she really WAS very busy, it happens. I know how upsetting it is.. I have a bridesmaid that wont even call me back.

Yea, I guess I didnt see it that way because she wrote this all before ya know?

It wasnt worth losing a friendship over but what do you do? Im not going to apologize for her actions and she obviously doesnt think she did anything wrong. I have all kinds of girls over there calling me names and stuff....

What is wrong with people these days??

**There, I changed it a bit. Thanks! :o)**

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Posted by Amberrenee6705

Yea, I guess I didnt see it that way because she wrote this all before ya know?

It wasnt worth losing a friendship over but what do you do? Im not going to apologize for her actions and she obviously doesnt think she did anything wrong. I have all kinds of girls over there calling me names and stuff....

What is wrong with people these days??

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It stinks! I have learned from this whole wedding planning thing that unfortunately you find out who your real friends are. I haven't talked to one of my BM's in a long time becuase I feel like I am sick of putting in 110% to get 2% back.. Try not to think about it tho, you are married

I didnt mean to sound rude before if i did (sorry)

Well, I hope it gets better for you than it did me!

Thanks :o)

And no, you didnt. You're right, I totally worded that the wrong way. Im not trying to write about her, Im just defending myself. I got it

I'm sorry she is posting all that.

Wowww Im so sorry she posted that

She didnt go to your rehearsal dinner? How were things between you 2 during the wedding? How are things now?

you posted the wrong thread by the way, but I found the one you were talking about.

I didn't see where she said all the things you said she said. geez that was a lot in one sentence. haha. I didn't see where she said your wedding was bad or anything like that.

I have to say...I don't know why she or anyone else would post about someone behing their back on a public forum that the other party is a member of. Short of actually wanting the other person to see it.... I can't understand why. I certainly think she should have taken that into consideration when she wrote everything. I would also assume you took that into consideration as well.

I think that you guys need to talk. clearly you are on different pages with things.

I'd be upset if my BM didn't come to the rehearsal dinner. I don't think my wedding should revolve around anyone else's life... BUT if someone said YES to being in the wedding party then they should know and understand that there are certain obligations that go along with that. Like attending the rehearsal and attending the shower and bachlorette party. unless there is a previously discussed good reason to not attend... i think it's rude and unecceptable. I went out of my way to make sure that my BM's were VERY comfortable with things.. from the dress we picked out to what shoes they are wearing etc. The least a bridesmaid, a member of the bridal party, can do is attend the events. So I get that - I get you being upset over that. It's not about expecting them to bend to your every wish and command and to be there every second you turn around or having them to wipe your a$$. But it is about being there as support for these special moments in your life. And I'm sure if they aren't there for some reason... and it also happens to be that you are growing further apart in the mist of that... it could appear to you that they don't really want to be a part of it. Being a future bride, she should know that... and i'm sure she does. I wouldn't want to have to track down my BM to BEG her to come to events or to help out with things. I would hope they would offer and if not... if I had a tast or something for them I would ask politely. But anyone would want them to actively be excited for it and want to go to things. After all shouldn't friends be excited and happy when something great happens in their life.. like a wedding?? That's NOT asking to much IMO.

She also sounds like she has a lot going on.... and she seems very busy. I think you guys just need to talk it out. It sounds like some major communication issues. I think instead you guys posting about it on LIW back and forth you should really talk it out. It's the ONLY way things will get better.

Could you have told her these things were bothering you sooner? I think you wanted her to take off from work or school or whatever on her own because she wanted to attend things.... and she wanted you to ask her to do so. Miscommunication.

I am confused about the rehearsal invitation that went missing. So she lost it.. no biggie. She let you know and asked for the info? That's how that should have gone down. It shouldn't be an excuse to not go.

I think you guys should be able to work this out. You just have to start at square one and communicate. You can even mention that you read her post. I'm sure she will find out sooner or later... so best get it all out now.

Good luck with everything.

i am sooo sorry that she did that---did she want you to see what she wrote?!?!?!? doesnt she know that your on here too....i think shes really childish for doing what she did !!! you really find out who your true friends are during the wedding planning

O Crap. I take back most, maybe all of what I said.

i think you did post the wrong thread.

OMG.

Yup you sure did. And I sure do.

I'm sorry. ekk.

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Posted by GRod2Be

Wowee..you guys should definitely speak over the phone because this is some major stuff.

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now now gloria! You know better than that! How would we know what was going on then??!??!?!?

HAHA Kerri.....thats right, I need you girls for support!!

I wish I knew how to post the right thread darn it!...like I said, Im not so good at this. Grrr....