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Traditioanlly the FH's family pays for the RD.

However, I know a lot of couples pay for it themselves now.

FH and i are paying for pretty much everything in our wedding including the RD.

Maybe your FH can talk o them to see if they plan on paying?

join the club!

we are probably just going to have coffee and dessert at my aunt's house which is nearby the church for anyone who wants to come since FH and I cant afford a RD too


ETA: we feel awkward asking FH's parents for anything wedding related. i feel like if they wanted to do anything, they would have offered.

good luck with everything!!!

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Posted by Songstress

Maybe your FH can ask them about it?? Or maybe bring it up in conversation how you guys are going to be paying for your own RD dinner.

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thanks..maybe i'll try that..i just don't want to sound greedy or ungrateful..ya know?

We do not know yet what is going on with our RD. FH and I are paying for the bulk of the wedding. My parents and sisters are helping.

FMIL mentioned 'looking' for somewhere for our RD but that was the extent of it.

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Posted by KK Holiday

join the club!

we are probably just going to have coffee and dessert at my aunt's house which is nearby the church for anyone who wants to come since FH and I cant afford a RD too

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yep! we might do something similiar at my parents house..i can't afford this

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by KK Holiday

join the club!

we are probably just going to have coffee and dessert at my aunt's house which is nearby the church for anyone who wants to come since FH and I cant afford a RD too

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yep! we might do something similiar at my parents house..i can't afford this

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its ridiculous! i cant ask for my family to pay for anything extra.
i feel your pain!

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Posted by Mici n KC

Well I think a lot of customary things have gone out the window. Typically the groom's parents are supposed to pay for flowers, limos and the RD. The bride's parents pick up the rest. We are paying for everything ourselves including the RD which will be at our house. Can you have the RD at your house or his parents house?

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thats probably what we'll do..only problem is fmil would not host this..she puts everything on my parents shoulders..i don't think its fair

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Posted by KK Holiday

join the club!

we are probably just going to have coffee and dessert at my aunt's house which is nearby the church for anyone who wants to come since FH and I cant afford a RD too

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yep! we might do something similiar at my parents house..i can't afford this

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its ridiculous! i cant ask for my family to pay for anything extra.
i feel your pain!

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yep..totally..i don't want any more money from them what so ever

I think assuming archaic, traditional roles doesn;t work for a lot of people anymore.

I would definitely ask them to help in some way.

You never know, they may have a huge gift in mind for the 2 of you.

My FMIL is a thorn in my side and complains about the cost of every expenditure. Having said that, she is also giving us a ridiculous amount of money as a wedding gift; so I let all her snide remarks roll off of my back.

I would talk to them and ask if they can help. The worst that they can say is no.

Mine aren't paying for sh*t , my dad is footing that bill too. This is why I will not accomodate her requests for anything wedding related , when she does not contribute emotionally OR financially

biotch

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Posted by alissa5517

We are paying for everything ourselves. We are getting married at the RH so no actual rehearsal. We are hosting the RD at our house and doing a dessert party. We are going to have a ton of stuff including an sunday bar (we have an ice cream maker). We have over 30 people coming so we think this will be a blast.

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wow what a really cute idea!!!!!!!

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Posted by Songstress

Maybe your FH can ask them about it?? Or maybe bring it up in conversation how you guys are going to be paying for your own RD dinner.

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thanks..maybe i'll try that..i just don't want to sound greedy or ungrateful..ya know?

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You wouldnt be ungrateful because they havent offered to pay for anything! Now if they were already paying for other things then it would be ungrateful to expect them to pay for the RD. Maybe they just dont know

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Posted by Songstress

Maybe your FH can ask them about it?? Or maybe bring it up in conversation how you guys are going to be paying for your own RD dinner.

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thanks..maybe i'll try that..i just don't want to sound greedy or ungrateful..ya know?

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You wouldnt be ungrateful because they havent offered to pay for anything! Now if they were already paying for other things then it would be ungrateful to expect them to pay for the RD. Maybe they just dont know

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true..i just wish they would help my poor parents

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Posted by Songstress

Maybe your FH can ask them about it?? Or maybe bring it up in conversation how you guys are going to be paying for your own RD dinner.

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thanks..maybe i'll try that..i just don't want to sound greedy or ungrateful..ya know?

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You wouldnt be ungrateful because they havent offered to pay for anything! Now if they were already paying for other things then it would be ungrateful to expect them to pay for the RD. Maybe they just dont know

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true..i just wish they would help my poor parents

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Are they hard up for money?? I wish they would help them too! I really think your FH should bring it up somehow!