Guest List

I really thought that the gust list would be one of the funnest parts of planning! DECIDING who is invited and who isn't!!!
BUT I have never been more emotional in my LIFE! I guess I always thought my mom would be there to help me with it and now she's not! My dad doesn't know WHAT to do...and i'm a BIG mess!!!

I am having the hardest time putting it together.....
I don't know who I should and shouldn't invite and I just feel BLANK!

First, take a deep breath! This is what I did...if it helps. FH and I made a list of everyone we could think of inviting...and asked my parents to do the same, and his. THen we figured out how many people we could actually swing...price wise, room wise, etc. Each group (his fam, my fam and our friends got a number to chisel their list down to...extras on the B list if A's say no). We slowly began deciding who was definite, and ended up cutting a bunch and creating a B list. It was a very stressful process, and it lasted about 7 months! Slow and steady! We asked ourselves, 'when is the last time we saw this person/spoke to her' etc. Don't know if this stresses you out more....good luck!!!

Thank You!

Hi there...I hear and feel your pain (sort of that is) your situation is different from mine not having your mom around for this time of your life...I'm so sorry, as you said you always thought she would be there for this. Now that you are doing the list pretty much on your own, take a deep breath and just start it...start with your immediate family and then go from there....I think of my list as categories..family, friends, work...write it all out and then start weeding through the names asking yourself some questions
-how long has it been since I've seen this person
- how long has it been since I've spoken to this person
- do I feel obligated or do I really want them there for our special day

no matter what you do, someone will be suprised that they were not invited BUT ...remember this above all....at the end of the day, it is your wedding...yours and his and as long as you are married and had a kick *** time, well then that is all that you can really hope for. Good luck...eventually you wont feel so blank...this is an exciting point in your life...surround yourself with people who will help you and be happy for your happiness.