When we first started planning we left 5 (& guest) spots for each of us to include co-workers (5 for me 5 for him). Since planning began last year I've been promoted at work and I have a staff of 11 people. I also have 4 bosses. All together (& guests included) my co-workers alone would add up to 30 guests if I were to invite them all. My MOH says I should either invite all of them or invite none of them. This is a fair idea but there are 3 co-workers who I am particularly close with and I want them to be there. If I invited the 3 of them and someone else found out their feelings would be hurt. This is so frustrating! What would all of you do?
cindyandkevin
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I would just invite the 3 that you are closer to. The others should understand. You shouldn't punish those 3 by not inviting them just bc you can't invite everyone. JMO!
BHW
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Posted by dleeny
I have been on the receiving end of both scenarios... I have been a co-worker that was left off the guest list and for another wedding I was one of the few from work invited.
honestly, the one I was left out of didn't bother me in the least. any mature sensible person knows weddings are so expensive and there has to be a line drawn at some point.
I voted to invite the 3 you're closest with.
I agree. A mature sensible person understands the cost of weddings and the delicate nature of guests lists. If you are at a comfort level in your work relationships that you would consider inviting them to your wedding, you should be able to explain to them the reasons why you cannot. I know it's tough but esp now that you're in this managerial role, you should be able to draw lines and set priorities. If you want those 3 people there, invite them. Explain to them why and ask them to be discreet. Remember, inviting 30 people, means potentially paying for 60. That's a huge investment to make to prevent a few moments of awkwardness.
I agree..
I also agree. If you're close with 3 people and you want them at your wedding, invited them. Don't feel obligated to invite everyone just b/c it's a small office. Weddings are expensive and an extra 30 people adds up to a lot of $. People will (or should) understand.
