guest list drama

Going to have to cliff note this one. My mother lost touch with the family years and years ago. Last time I saw family members I was a little girl.Says she tried to keep touch but noone made the effort but her. Recently I went to a family reunion hosted by the only cousin she still talks to (Harriet), yet my mother didn't go. Too far for her.(she's in Staten Island). My cousin Frannie was there and she met my fiance. I decided it would be nice to invite some of my family to the wedding. However when my mother found out I was thinking of inviting Frannie, she flipped. She also has a problem with my father(both my parents dislike eachother immensely). So I got fed up and told her I'm sorry but it is my wedding, thought it would be a nice thing to have family at the wedding, and she can just stay on the opposite side of the room from both my father and Frannie. Her boyfriend then told me that it IS my wedding and I can pay for it so he is revoking the 4k he had offered. Since this all happened, it's 'blown over' but i still have bad feelings towards my mom's boyfriend but she told me that if he doesn't go, she won't go. I just want to elope!!!
What do you guys think?

your mom's bf sounds like a real jerk .... tell him to take the money and stick it invite who you want and just stay clear from mom on the day

wow....I would say tell the bf you don't need his money, you will feel like you won a battle if you invite whom YOU want, and pay for it yourself.

It will irk your mother and her bf more if you get your way, which I am sure they are not used to. Every parent goes through little battles when their children grow up, and this will just show them that you aren't a child and can make your own decisions.

I say pay for it yourself, and invite who you want. You never know, they might come, they might not, but at least it is YOUR choice.

edit: Also, your mom will be fine that day, she will be happy her daughter is getting married, so don't be worried about her being miserable, and if she does say something to you, you can just tell her this is your day, not hers.

I feel bad for you. Honestly, if I were you, I would most definitely invite whom ever I feel like! She doesn't have to socialize with them!

i wouldn't take the money. but than again, i can be a stubborn b|tch at times.