This is my first time posting here...I hope you can help!! Did anyone experience this. Once you send out your invitations, people start calling to tell you they have received the invitation, and then ask why they were only put down for themselves., when they aren't with anyone??? So you tell them, because they are single, and they say I may be with someone by then? Don't they get that the couple is actually paying for it.. ?
simply explain that due to budget requirements and the capacity of your hall, that unmarried couples or those currently single are not invited with a guest even if their status changes because it's out of the budget and something that cannot be accomodated by your hall.....don't say it's because you are paying...people do not realize a lot of the time who is paying for things.
We had that problem with DH younger cousins. They are in their early to mid teens and are not dating anyone steadily, so we did not write 'and guest' on their invites. A few of them were a little put-off by it, but I did not see the point in them scrambling for a date for one day. JMHO
We just invited anyone that was 18+ with a guest to save ourselves from the hassle of explaining.
Posted by ChrissynRicky
We just invited anyone that was 18+ with a guest to save ourselves from the hassle of explaining.
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
No, we didn't have that problem, we invited everyone with a guest.
But I would explain to them that you have budget constraints and would love for them to be able to bring someone but unfortunately that is not within your means.
Definitely explain you are on a budget. People should not assume that they are able to bring a guest when they are single. That is very rude in my opinion.
Posted by ewickens
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
No, we didn't have that problem, we invited everyone with a guest.
But I would explain to them that you have budget constraints and would love for them to be able to bring someone but unfortunately that is not within your means.
I agree with Lauren.
Posted by robynlevy
i'm having problems with people reading their invites. This has now happened twice -- two separate guests, each of whom were invited alone, told me that 'they will not be bringing a date.' I let it go and didn't say anything but really, that's what I expected, because I didn't invite you with a date! Oy!
You'll see though, no matter what you do, SOMEONE will be offended in some shape or form.
Posted by CLMon7906
simply explain that due to budget requirements and the capacity of your hall, that unmarried couples or those currently single are not invited with a guest even if their status changes because it's out of the budget and something that cannot be accomodated by your hall.....don't say it's because you are paying...people do not realize a lot of the time who is paying for things.
Posted by Mitabtrfly
This is my first time posting here...I hope you can help!! Did anyone experience this. Once you send out your invitations, people start calling to tell you they have received the invitation, and then ask why they were only put down for themselves., when they aren't with anyone??? So you tell them, because they are single, and they say I may be with someone by then? Don't they get that the couple is actually paying for it.. ?
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Mitabtrfly
This is my first time posting here...I hope you can help!! Did anyone experience this. Once you send out your invitations, people start calling to tell you they have received the invitation, and then ask why they were only put down for themselves., when they aren't with anyone??? So you tell them, because they are single, and they say I may be with someone by then? Don't they get that the couple is actually paying for it.. ?
When calling around to get or confirm addresses we asked for the name of the boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other of all of the single guests. If they did not have one, we invited them solo. We did not have anyone try to add a date after the invites went out. We had to invite 261 people and there was no room to add on the 'flavor of the week' for guests that were single a month before the wedding (RSVP deadline).
Posted by FutureMrsLoRe
Definitely explain you are on a budget. People should not assume that they are able to bring a guest when they are single. That is very rude in my opinion.
Posted by CLMon7906
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Mitabtrfly
This is my first time posting here...I hope you can help!! Did anyone experience this. Once you send out your invitations, people start calling to tell you they have received the invitation, and then ask why they were only put down for themselves., when they aren't with anyone??? So you tell them, because they are single, and they say I may be with someone by then? Don't they get that the couple is actually paying for it.. ?
When calling around to get or confirm addresses we asked for the name of the boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other of all of the single guests. If they did not have one, we invited them solo. We did not have anyone try to add a date after the invites went out. We had to invite 261 people and there was no room to add on the 'flavor of the week' for guests that were single a month before the wedding (RSVP deadline).
SLIGHTLY off topic....one of FH's step-cousins (yeah...) called last wednesday to tell FMIL that he's coming but he didn't know which girl he was bringing....um....the RSVP date was a month ago...and you didn't respond, furthermore, you don't know which girl??? i haven't seen this kid...but i doubt he's that hot. unbelievable..so, while i had managed to avoid 'and guest' on anyone's invites, this guy and his sister are bringing dates, didn't give us their names...and neither was invited with a guest! FILs didn't care...they dont' get it sometimes.so their placecards read: mr. dumba$$ and guest , ms. dumba$$'ssister and guest.
grrrr.
I was at a BBQ yesterday and my best friend's younger sister asked if she is going to be allowed to bring a date. I explained that we can't invited people with guests unless they are in a serious relationship by the time we send out the invitations- no one will get an 'and guest'. We cant afford for everyone to have a guest nor can we fit those extra people.
We invited all those that were single alone. I had a few people call up and ask if they could bring someone because they were dating seriously by that time. I had no issue with allowing someone to bring a guest that asked. Most of my friends knew that we paid for the wedding 100% ourselves.
