FH doesn't understand that the guest list tells you everything else about the wedding. Favors, invites, centerpieces, etc. We guaranteed 225, our list is at 273 and he wants to add more. Anyone else hate the guest list?
divabride
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Ummm..., I think it's time you start making that 'B' list. Or do what I did. Make a list of 225 with the total $$ and then make the list with 275 with the total $$ and FH just might see the big difference. Good luck, this is one of the toughest things to do when it comes to wedding planning!!
nan&dave
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Oh, he knows the amount of $$$. But I don't think it's hit him yet.
DrmnBlnd
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I think the guest list was the biggest PITA that I had to deal with. FH kept adding people, then taking people away, and this was AFTER the STD's were sent. I finally had to put my foot down (since I was doing all the work of sending them and amending the lists). When I told him how much $ pp it was- he stopped!!
september2004
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you are totally fine... i think you will be surprised how many 'no's' you will get - do you have many OOT guests?
we guaranteed 80 we want ~100 we will pay for 125
as of now we have 178 on our list. i was thinking of sending out 150, but mom is trying to convince me to send out all and whatever happens, happens... i anticipate the list to change a bit over the next couple of months as well...
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guest list stink..thats what we are doing now
i have 150 min and should of really thought twice about that before signing contract. we are inviteing ppl that kinda don't have to be invited to ensure min is meet... gonna go to my hall and discuss about it.. hopefully something good will come out of it
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Our guarantee is 200 and we hope to limit to 225. When we were looking at places, I based my budget on how many people FILs told me they would have on their list. They told me only 60 ppl from their side well now they have 150 names on their list (most of which are couples) and they want to send invites to all of them. They keep saying they know most of them can't or won't travel to NY (we live in Chicago), but they want to announce the wedding to them. UGH!!! Why can't we just send them an announcement?
We are going to send invites to their group first so we can get an accurate tally. I told FH he will have to ask his parents for more money to cover their people if more decide to come.
junebride04
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i hate it too!! for me it has been the most stressful part of my planning.
NYCHICK
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ummmmmmmm.u need to get working on your B list.........so far my guest list is fine, but who knows, what I will be saying in a month.
Pookiesangel
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Boy when I look at some of your mins, my wedding is really really small, the max for my room is 70 and the min is 40..lol
I am doing an A and B list, because both our families are big, and we won't be having too many friends at this point, but if FH's cousins decide not to all come, that opens up alot of spots for us..
sag530
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The guest list is the worst part of the whole wedding experience - and stil continues to be a thorn in my side!!!!
nan&dave
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We have like 15 that are supposed to be flying in from Dominican Republic. Maybe, they'll say no.
september2004
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Posted by nan&dave
We have like 15 that are supposed to be flying in from Dominican Republic. Maybe, they'll say no.
we have about 20-25 from italy who we believe will not come... we can say this because FSIL got married last year and only 2 attended...
i personally think the more OOT plus larger # of people will yield a greater return of 'no's' unless one has a huge family. our state-side families are rather small and i really can't say i have 200-300 close friends.
butterfly20
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guest lists are stressful, but remember not everyone can make it... so its good to have some extras
violet
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I hate doing it! We guaranteed 100. 100 is all I wanted, then FI had so many people to invite and his parents had like 30 people to invite, so that wasn't happening. And I have so many people with family alone. Now we were like 140 is the ideal number. We're inviting around 180, so hopefully a lot RSVP that they're not coming!
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The guest list was a pain in the butt all the way up to the wedding. Who decided not to bring a date but this other friend figured he would bring a date now...etc My IL's told me they would only have about 65 people but ended up inviting 90, half didn't even ever resond. My FIL had to call them and ask if they were coming or not.
Good Luck! You still have plenty of time to change his mind.
Corduroy94
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Definitely make a “B” list. My MOH was married last June. She guaranteed 200, and wanted no more than 225. She invited 210 on her “A” list and 35 on her “B” list. In the end 218 people showed up. About 15-20 of her A’s couldn’t make it & a bunch of B’s couldn’t either.
Just a small lesson learned – make sure any of the single guys you or your FH invite know they need to stick to the RSVP. She had 2 guys w/dates RSVP no & show up at the last min. b/c their were “bored & looking for something to do since it was Sat”. (not to mention all their friends were AT the wedding!) She also had 6 guys RSVP yes w/dates & never show! Most women seem to understand this concept but I’ve found single guys think it’s not that serious & don’t realize the cost costly.
