GuestList Problems-Need opinions...

fall2005bride Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:09 PM

GuestList Problems-Need opinions...

Long story...made short...My fiance's godmother and his stepdad do NOT get along at all and his stepdad said that if my Fiances godmother gets an invitation to our wedding, he will not come-opinions please????

september2004 Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:14 PM

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a lot can happen between now and the time you send out invitations, so don't make any rash decisions right now.

work on the stepdad and explain that this is your special day, and you would appreciate if for one day, he could just put aside HIS feelings and respect yours...

Jan05Bride Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:14 PM

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Tell him it's his loss then. He's a grown man and if he cannot avoid this woman for 5 hours then he has a serious issue. He doesn't have to speak to her or dance with her but it's his stepson's godmother and he needs to respect that relationship.
Sorry if that's harsh, but why would anyone want to put you/FH in that position? People that care about you are supposed to HELP make planning easier and to make YOUR day special as can be ... That's very selfish and childish in my opinion. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Kelly9904 Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:15 PM

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honestly I think someone needs to talk to your FH stepdad and explain that he has to put his selfishness aside for the day! My father has a serious issue wiht his sister and honestly he would probably prefer if she wasnt invited but my mom said to him that its not fair to put us in the middle of their disagreement. The compromise is that my aunt is invited but is not going to be sitting near my dad at all!

Maybe your FH's mom can talk to him an get him to relax, its 5 hours all he has to do is stay away from her!

fall2005bride Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:20 PM

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jan05bride=FM

xjulietx Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:24 PM

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I wouldn't worry now. You have so much more planning and wedding stuff to do before you even send out your invitations. A lot can happen in a year and maybe you will be able to have a talk with FH's Godmother and his Stepdad and ask them to put aside their differences for one day. People talk a lot of nonsense in the beginning, but most people don't go through with it because they know the wedding is not about them, it is about the bride and groom.

OctGroom Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:27 PM

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Tell him to act like a man.
No offense intended.. but he's gotta put his priorites in order. . and your Wedding should be his priority. Plain and simple.

fall2005bride Posted: Jan 20, 2004 12:28 PM

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thanks for all the opinions, I just wanted to add that his stepdad is a real loser. he loves to argue and cause problems, but he is married to my FMIL and that is where it gets tricky!