guests +1 advice

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Posted by JulyBride728

Being a bride with a crazyyy guestlist--i feel the pain of inviting a +1
if you do it for one person, believe me that yo u'll hear it from someone else if you didn't do it for them. The way I see it, is that your co-worker need to figure how close she is to the bride. Does her relationship outweigh the fact that she can't bring her boyfriend? is it really that important that her boyfriend need to be there, rather than her being there for the bride? Personally, I think it'll be pretty messed up if she pulled her son out of the wedding party for something she KNEW about from the very beginning of the wedding.
Coming from a bride, and this is just me, i think she needs to suck it up and realize she'll have her boyfriend thereafter whenever and wherever she wants. she can sacrifice being without him for a few hours no?

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couldnt have said it any better

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Posted by lillprincess54

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Posted by JulyBride728

Being a bride with a crazyyy guestlist--i feel the pain of inviting a +1
if you do it for one person, believe me that yo u'll hear it from someone else if you didn't do it for them. The way I see it, is that your co-worker need to figure how close she is to the bride. Does her relationship outweigh the fact that she can't bring her boyfriend? is it really that important that her boyfriend need to be there, rather than her being there for the bride? Personally, I think it'll be pretty messed up if she pulled her son out of the wedding party for something she KNEW about from the very beginning of the wedding.
Coming from a bride, and this is just me, i think she needs to suck it up and realize she'll have her boyfriend thereafter whenever and wherever she wants. she can sacrifice being without him for a few hours no?

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couldnt have said it any better

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ITA - we are inviting most people with guests, but if I came down to me inviting a single friend with a guest and not inviting another friend I wish could be there, then I'd probably invite my friend before I invited someone else to bring a person I've probably never met.

I see both sides, but that is JMO.

my believes that all adults should be invited w/ a guest, and i pretty much agree, unless there are very very tight issues with space or $$. she was also never told that she would be invited without a guest, so it came as a big shock to her.

her son is the RB, and i know she really wouldn't want to take him out of the BP, it's more a matter of principal, esp since this isn't a close friend.

thanks for all the responses, she really appreciates it.

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Posted by teenigrrl

my believes that all adults should be invited w/ a guest, and i pretty much agree, unless there are very very tight issues with space or $$. she was also never told that she would be invited without a guest, so it came as a big shock to her.

her son is the RB, and i know she really wouldn't want to take him out of the BP, it's more a matter of principal, esp since this isn't a close friend.

thanks for all the responses, she really appreciates it.

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See - the only part about that which confuses me, is if they are close enough to where she asked her son to be an RB, it shocks me that she doesn't consider her close enough to let her bring a date

Its not like - the typical co-worker situation.

Hope she figures it out!!

the bride might be in a tight spot financially or maybe invited a little over her max number. She might also have told other people no to plus ones. Its hard to tell! But usually there is a good reason why someone can't budge when it comes to +1's. Maybe she should just go anyway and try to enjoy it without him. We all know how stressful this time can be for a bride and should just try to understand that there might be a good reason she can't budge.

ETA:

Im confused did she send out the invites and then your friend respond only 1 person and THEN get a boyfriend?

I think adults should either always get a +1 or be asked if they would like to be invited with someone. Personally I didn't put anyone with a +1. I asked everyone ahead of time if they had someone they would like to be invited with and if so what their name was. I wanted it to be more personal than writing '+1' Im surprised if she sent teh invite and didn't at last ask if she was seeing someone- cus it sounds like tehy are close...

If I were the bride, I would just add the plus 1....i think this is a special circumstance...

also, if your co worker knows the bride and groom well enought to have her son as part of the wedding, I feel the bride should have considered the fact that your co worker now has a BF.

if it was some distant person who the couple barely knew...that would be different....


but then again, I dont know the particulars of their situation

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Posted by yelley77

Coming from a bride with a guest list busting at the seems, I'd STILL find a way to have her +1 there. ESPECIALLY since her son is in the BP.

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I agree. My dad keeps adding people so what's is one more person. Like Yelley said, her son is in the BP....that's just mean.

I can see the bride's side... I'm dealing with it right now. Our guest list is out of control, and if we invited everyone with a guest we would probably be over our max. But I would also probably make an exception for her. I did make an exception for one of my friends already who is coming from Detroit and can't do the drive by herself. Plus, we are getting a lot of no's, so I figured what is one more person? And if I said no, then my good friend wouldn't be able to make it.

That really is a tough one though...