Guests wearing the color my BP is wearing?

I just had someone who is a girlfriend of one of the GM, say that she wanted to know what color the Tux's were so that she can match him.

MY first instict was to tell her not to wear the green b/c my BM are wearing green to match the GM.

Is there a rule with this? Should I tell her no lol Or is it not a big deal?

keep in mind that while you can tell this one guest not to wear green, you wont be able to tell EVERY single guest and know ahead of time. So even if you tell her no, then someone else might just end up wearing green also.

Its hard to tell a guest not to wear a certain color IMO. I felt so bad bc last month i was in a store and this girl came in SO upset and she was returning a dress bc she said the bride told her she is NOT allowed to wear that color. Now i'll say that i saw how much her dress cost and it was alot of money AND there was no refund, she had to find another dress in that price range, for the amount of money she was paying she should have something she LOOOVES which obviously she did bc she picked that one dress out of all the others, now she had to buy a dress she might not love as much and still paid the same amount for it. And all i thought was, well she told her bc this girl probably brought it up to her what color she was wearing. But what is she gonna do about a guest she doesnt know about ahead of time and shows up with that color.

IF it really bothers you then tell her that your girls are wearing green and see what she says. But keep in mind that someone else just might wear green that day.

I wouldn't mind if another guest wore it, I just felt like she is going to look like she is in the BP since she is going to be with HIM b/c he is her boyfriend.

I guess I wouldn't mind. It's not like her dress is going to look like the BM dresses. I think It just bothered me b/c she is the GM girlfriend and they are going to have photos of them together, and I don't want people to think she was in the BP :X

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Posted by Future_Farrell

I wouldn't mind if another guest wore it, I just felt like she is going to look like she is in the BP since she is going to be with HIM b/c he is her boyfriend.

I guess I wouldn't mind. It's not like her dress is going to look like the BM dresses. I think It just bothered me b/c she is the GM girlfriend and they are going to have photos of them together, and I don't want people to think she was in the BP :X

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yeah true it is a bit different then, i mean im sure it will be a completely different dress but still

well then tell her that the bm's are actually matching the GM. I think maybe she didnt even think of that fact and didnt realize that you will have bm's matching them, and since she will sit with them and be around them maybe it is a bit different for her. Tell her and see what she says

Well I guess if he has like pink in his tux and she's wearing a bright orange dress, it won't look right in pictures. So i guess ask her to not wear the same shade of green.

You can't ask every guest but you can ask the guests of the bridal party to not LOOK like they're in the bridal party too, since they'll probably be in photos together.

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Posted by abrennan01

Well I guess if he has like pink in his tux and she's wearing a bright orange dress, it won't look right in pictures. So i guess ask her to not wear the same shade of green.

You can't ask every guest but you can ask the guests of the bridal party to not LOOK like they're in the bridal party too, since they'll probably be in photos together.

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pink and orange actually looks great together. My friend did this combo for her wedding and seen other weddings with the combo. I wore a pink bm dress with orange and green flowers

Once I wore a pale yellow/gold dress to a wedding where the BM'S had on almost the same color...both dresses were floor length. It was totally by mistake and it ws actually very funny.

IMO I dont think you should bother telling her not to wear it bc it'll probaly seem controlling ... most likely the style will be different or the shade ya know? This is just IMO I wouldnt say anything

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Posted by lizzie217

Once I wore a pale yellow/gold dress to a wedding where the BM'S had on almost the same color...both dresses were floor length. It was totally by mistake and it ws actually very funny.

IMO I dont think you should bother telling her not to wear it bc it'll probaly seem controlling ... most likely the style will be different or the shade ya know? This is just IMO I wouldnt say anything

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Yeah, I just told her 'that's fine'. Maybe I just don't like the fact that she is skinny and hot lol And FH thinks she is good looking.

I will make sure she is put at the end of the table! lol in the corner somewhere haha

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Posted by Future_Farrell

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Posted by lizzie217

Once I wore a pale yellow/gold dress to a wedding where the BM'S had on almost the same color...both dresses were floor length. It was totally by mistake and it ws actually very funny.

IMO I dont think you should bother telling her not to wear it bc it'll probaly seem controlling ... most likely the style will be different or the shade ya know? This is just IMO I wouldnt say anything

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Yeah, I just told her 'that's fine'. Maybe I just don't like the fact that she is skinny and hot lol And FH thinks she is good looking.

I will make sure she is put at the end of the table! lol in the corner somewhere haha

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did you tell her the bm's are wearing green, just to throw that bit of info out there to her. Because if she knows the girls are wearing green then she personally might not want to wear that color. If i was attending a wedding and ESPECIALLY if DH was a GM, i would NOT want to wear the same color as the bm's, and if i knew ahead of time i would make sure not to wear that color. Not sure what this girl is like, but i know others feel the same way.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Future_Farrell

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Posted by lizzie217

Once I wore a pale yellow/gold dress to a wedding where the BM'S had on almost the same color...both dresses were floor length. It was totally by mistake and it ws actually very funny.

IMO I dont think you should bother telling her not to wear it bc it'll probaly seem controlling ... most likely the style will be different or the shade ya know? This is just IMO I wouldnt say anything

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Yeah, I just told her 'that's fine'. Maybe I just don't like the fact that she is skinny and hot lol And FH thinks she is good looking.

I will make sure she is put at the end of the table! lol in the corner somewhere haha

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did you tell her the bm's are wearing green, just to throw that bit of info out there to her. Because if she knows the girls are wearing green then she personally might not want to wear that color. If i was attending a wedding and ESPECIALLY if DH was a GM, i would NOT want to wear the same color as the bm's, and if i knew ahead of time i would make sure not to wear that color. Not sure what this girl is like, but i know others feel the same way.

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Yeah if it were me I would want to know what color so I could COORDINATE but not match--like if the vests are green maybe wear something complimentary like a blue.....Some of DH's GM girlfriends asked but they were wearing platinum (didn't match the girls) so it was a non issue. I would just give her the info and let her go from there!

I just freaked out b/c I immediately got defensive when she said that to me hah. I hadn't thought about that before, and I don't see why guests wearing the same colors would offend me, but she is a friend and she is dating one of the GM, so I figured maybe she should've thought about the BM wearing the same color b/c that is usually what you do in a wedding. The BM and the GM usually have a matching theme.

*ShrugS* whatever, I wont let this ruin aynthing for me, but I will just pass her a comment and say 'you do know that the BP is going to be wearing the same color as the GM right?' and see if maybe she knows or didn't know.

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Posted by Future_Farrell

I just freaked out b/c I immediately got defensive when she said that to me hah. I hadn't thought about that before, and I don't see why guests wearing the same colors would offend me, but she is a friend and she is dating one of the GM, so I figured maybe she should've thought about the BM wearing the same color b/c that is usually what you do in a wedding. The BM and the GM usually have a matching theme.

*ShrugS* whatever, I wont let this ruin aynthing for me, but I will just pass her a comment and say 'you do know that the BP is going to be wearing the same color as the GM right?' and see if maybe she knows or didn't know.

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she honestly probably didnt think about that fact that your bm's are going to match, also not everybody does that, i didnt. Well the ties ended up matching my girls dresses but i picked out the dress before DH picked the tie and he didnt do it to match my girls. Sometimes if you havent been to alot of weddings you just forget to think about such things.

I would just let her know what colors the girls are wearing thats all. I dont think she meant any harm, she was thinking about matching her bf, and completely forgetting that bm's might match the guys.

TY GUYS!!!

It would bother me and I would tell her something. She is the girlfriend of one of your GM's. People might think she is your MOH or something since she is wearing a similar color but a different dress. If you don't care then let it be and dont mention it. If it bothers you say something. A couple of people told me that they were wearing long chocolate brown dresses to my wedding or pink dresses and I told them 'how cute, you'll match my FG'. Granted they were people I was very close to so it was ok to say but still

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Posted by PeterNina Mom

It is different if you don't want the mothers to wear the same color or if someone wears white, but you cannot tell a guest what color dress she should be wearing. Even if a girl picks the same color as your BMs I am sure they will be different shades. IMO you cannot let such things bother you and be so bossy (for lack of a better word) to your guests or they may tell you to go somewhere you won't like and not come to the wedding. Sorry, but this is just MHO.

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I didn't tell the girl anything yet, and that is why I was asking your opinions. I don't think it's right to tell someone what to wear at all. It just struck me as odd, b/c she is going to be showing up with someone who is in the BP. Why would she want to look like someone in the BP herself? I just didn't know what to think of that, and that is why I posted.

I am the least bossy person ever, and since this struck a weird note with me, I decided that maybe it was something I should inquire about.

Thank you for your opinion though.