Guests you know won't show? and don't really want to...
Sorry if this gets long...
I won't get into it, but I have a cousin who has some issues. He RSVP'ed that he, his wife and son will come to my wedding.
First off, I did not invite children and everyone else understood it and respected it (so far) but my loving mother decided to tell him could bring his son to my wedding since he is disabled and they are coming such a distance. I understand, but I told her numerous times it is NOT OK.
Secondly. He would be driving from Kansas. For the past 5 years he has said he is coming out here to visit then backed out due to the expense.
So, I have no reason to believe that he will actually show.
Third, I don't really want them to come. My mother made me invite them. I don't speak to him as he has some severe issues (and continues to have them) that I cannot be involved with. His own mother couldn't believe he might come and her respose to me was 'I hope he doesn't come, how embarrassing.'
I need some help, what can I do about this? If he actually shows, I will deal with it, but if he doesn't, I do not want to pay for 3 dinners that will go uneaten. I can't afford it.
My mother won't speak to him becuase she won't ask him not to bring his son.
** Because I tend be unclear, this has nothing to do with his son being diasabled, I am excited to meet him. It has to do with my cousins own decisions and life style choices.
I won't get into it, but I have a cousin who has some issues. He RSVP'ed that he, his wife and son will come to my wedding.
First off, I did not invite children and everyone else understood it and respected it (so far) but my loving mother decided to tell him could bring his son to my wedding since he is disabled and they are coming such a distance. I understand, but I told her numerous times it is NOT OK.
Secondly. He would be driving from Kansas. For the past 5 years he has said he is coming out here to visit then backed out due to the expense.
So, I have no reason to believe that he will actually show.
Third, I don't really want them to come. My mother made me invite them. I don't speak to him as he has some severe issues (and continues to have them) that I cannot be involved with. His own mother couldn't believe he might come and her respose to me was 'I hope he doesn't come, how embarrassing.'
I need some help, what can I do about this? If he actually shows, I will deal with it, but if he doesn't, I do not want to pay for 3 dinners that will go uneaten. I can't afford it.
My mother won't speak to him becuase she won't ask him not to bring his son.
** Because I tend be unclear, this has nothing to do with his son being diasabled, I am excited to meet him. It has to do with my cousins own decisions and life style choices.
