Guys, I need motivation and hugs!

I normally dont put myself out there and complain, but I feel like its all falling apart!

Im on very very thin ice at work, due to being out sick a LOT lately, and its making mme a nervous wreck.

Our money situation is SO bad. We had the home phone shut off to save money and some little adjustments but with 5 months till the wedding, we still need over $10K and we wont even MAKE that amount in that time

I also need to lose at least 30 more lbs...at least 15 to FIT into my wedding dress which at this point is too small and only have 4 months till 1st fitting...I cannot stop eating...the stress is making me eat, and Im weak and cant seem to get my dumb fat a** to the gym!

Please...motivate me, tell me it will work out...something!

p.s On top of it, we have stupid Pre-cana tonight, just what I want to do!

Share your stressors with the precana group- it actually might help and you'll see that others will be in the same boat. Just remember you are doing the best you can!
As for going to the gym, getting yourself there is the hardest part. Remind youself that you will feel better after its over and just force yourself through the door. Try taking a new class at the gym that you never tried before(like yoga!!!!!) and that may get you started.
That is my motivational speech- I hope it helped!!!

i have plenty of hugs, but no motivation. I just look at the nysc card on my keyring.

i know this isn't the greatest idea, but credit cards are an option.

ohhh girl I so feel for you, I had a terrible day yesterday... but you know what I got up this morning, I saw the sun shining and I told myself that it was a new day and it is going to get better.... trust me, believe in yourself, you are much stronger than you think... and everything will work out

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Posted by ckgmwedding


Share your stressors with the precana group- it actually might help and you'll see that others will be in the same boat. Just remember you are doing the best you can!
As for going to the gym, getting yourself there is the hardest part. Remind youself that you will feel better after its over and just force yourself through the door. Try taking a new class at the gym that you never tried before(like yoga!!!!!) and that may get you started.
That is my motivational speech- I hope it helped!!!

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it helped!
Sharing with pre-cana doesnt seem though to help..they all seem rich, I swear, Im not making that up and FH's cousin is there with us and he doesnt want the family to know what a tight ship we are in...oh did I mention its a different topic every night and tonights 'sexuality'..oh fun fun fun

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Posted by Aga

ohhh girl I so feel for you, I had a terrible day yesterday... but you know what I got up this morning, I saw the sun shining and I told myself that it was a new day and it is going to get better.... trust me, believe in yourself, you are much stronger than you think... and everything will work out

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I so want to believe that....I try, its that we cant even cancel the wedding, we would lose thousands...why does depression hit like this, its so awful!

I know your going through a lot too AGA..thanks! and hugs to you too!

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla



i have plenty of hugs, but no motivation. I just look at the nysc card on my keyring.

i know this isn't the greatest idea, but credit cards are an option.

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LOL...credit cards are NOT an option for us..thats half the reason we shut the phone off, cause they calle dus every 10 seconds...we havent paid the CC's in months...we are just trying to get through the wedding and then consider bankruptcy!

Ohh. I feel for you. 4 months is enough time to loose the weight, and I believe you can do it. Maybe you can join a program. I used Weight Watchers before and it really worked. My friend was telling me about a program similar to weight watchers but it's a non-profit so it's cheaper. She told me she pays $2 a meeting. The name is called TOPS (Taking Off Pounds Safely) i think the website is www.tops.org.



Okay, just eat right, work out, and think positive. Think about how you will look when you're walking down the aisle in your BEAUTIFUL dress. Do you live with your FH or have roommates? If so ask them to help you. Don't keep snacks in the house. RIP UP your order out menus. If you don't have it in your house you can't eat it. DRINK LOTS of WAter. Make it a personal challenge. Try to drink at least 1/2 your body weight in water. Ex. If you are 180 pounds, drink at least 90 ounces of water a day.Everyday you do it, reward yourself with something. Whether it's an extra hour of sleep on the weekends, or a 10 min massage from FH (hey, get him involved too). Maybe you and your FH can workout together. In terms of the $$ situation, are there things you can cut back on? Maybe less expensive centerpieces or the package for your reception hall (if this is an option). Keep saving as much as you can. Hey shutting off your home phone will give you and FH more quality time together.... Do ya'll eat out alot? Do you buy a cup of coffee each day? I don't buy any lunch anymore, rather I brown bag it to be save $. There's many ways that you can save $$, yes it calls for sacrifices. Like FH and I decided that we are no longer going out to the movies (except when Meet the Parents 2 comes out). This is a big thing because FH is an avid movie goer. Rather we are making a list of movies that we want to see and renting it instead. Saves $$$ and we get to snuggle up looking at the movies.



I really agree that you should share your stresses with the Pre-Cana group or your pastor. It always help to get other people advice. I have faith in you. You CAN and you WILL do it.

Take a deep breath...when I get stressed like that I take a walk..whethter its 10 minutes or an hour, it really helps me focus on things..I just breath..I love it. Sorry your going through all this stuff

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Posted by gtsgirl

Take a deep breath...when I get stressed like that I take a walk..whethter its 10 minutes or an hour, it really helps me focus on things..I just breath..I love it. Sorry your going through all this stuff

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Ok..I said to myself....OH , a walk..and it sounded so good, then I thought, oh lord, I'd have to get dressed and what if it made my headache worse, and then what if its hot out...HELP..Im crazy!

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Posted by Aga

maybe you have a friend that can take walks with you?

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Oh goodness, FRIENDS? I have no friends...lol...they have been MIA since I announced the engagement...OK...I think Im complaining WAY too much...I need to take a shower sometime today..

Thanks guys for being there to listen! LOVE YAS!

Feel Better Donna!!!

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Posted by dm24angel

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Posted by ckgmwedding


Share your stressors with the precana group- it actually might help and you'll see that others will be in the same boat. Just remember you are doing the best you can!
As for going to the gym, getting yourself there is the hardest part. Remind youself that you will feel better after its over and just force yourself through the door. Try taking a new class at the gym that you never tried before(like yoga!!!!!) and that may get you started.
That is my motivational speech- I hope it helped!!!

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it helped!
Sharing with pre-cana doesnt seem though to help..they all seem rich, I swear, Im not making that up and FH's cousin is there with us and he doesnt want the family to know what a tight ship we are in...oh did I mention its a different topic every night and tonights 'sexuality'..oh fun fun fun

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It sounds like you have a group with different 'goals', ie they have lots of bucks! So lets drop that idea. I think the sex topic night is supposed to be fun- my parents used to do precana and this was a big hit. But my parents are cool so...

Okay weve talked about this before and you know I am in the same boat. This stinks but this is my 'plan'.

We got ourselves in way too deep with the wedding and its too late to cancel now as you said because we'd lose thousands. My mom is going to charge our honeymoon and rings for us and then we are going to take the money we receive as gifts and pay her back. Stinks, but its reality for us. What do you think of something like that for the 2 of you?

As for the weight thing, you know I understand. I have the eating right thing down but I just cant seem to excersise either. In that respect I cant help much. You said you did SBD though. How come you stopped? Maybe you shouldnt listen to me but ever since I started dieting I say to myself, whatever you eat in private you wear in public. I think of the concept of 'public' as my wedding. Although I have a long way to go, this is whats getting me through right now.

Lots of luck and hugs to you!!!!

whatever you eat in private you wear in public.

AWESOME quote! I maybe that will inspire me to eat better.

You can do it!

Thanks all and HBRADIO your thoughts helped a lot...with borrowing money, my mom has lent us $5000 already which we are paying back with money from the wedding and we know that we will need to do the same thing and borrow from others.
I think I feel a little better. I'm going to seriously stop talking about it and LOOK for a p/t job..Im not in school for the next 2 semesters because I couldnt afford it, might as well stop being lazy...plus I think the more busy I become, the less I will eat.
Sometimes I need these things DRILLED into my head ( purpose of my thread) so I really do thank you all!!!