Had a fight with Mom, need your opinion

Well it wasn't really a fight, more like a disagreement. Ok, a little out in left field, but before the Holidays, I received Holiday return address labels from my insurance company. They were so cute with wreaths, gingerbread men, etc. so since I didn't have any left from last year and I thought writing it out wouldn't look so good and after asking a friend if it would be too weird for me to use them (since I am not married YET), I decided to use them. So tonight, my mother mentioned to me that she talked to my aunt and she said that she got my Christmas card and that the return address had my soon to be last name on it (i.e. The Smith Family). So my mom is like is that true (I guess she didn't notice hers), and I said yes why? She practically through a huge fit over it, she said that it was very weird, that she didn't understand it. She said 'I know that you have been together for almost seven years, you live together, if you are doing that then why bother having this big wedding? What is the point?' I told her that she was over-reacting and reading into it too much and that even though we have been together for years and we live together there is still a lot to look forward to. Anyway, it didn't end well and I feel so uncomfortable now. Was I wrong, should I not have sent them out like that?

Sorry that this was so long, but I had to vent and I was so confused and frustrated after that conversation. This all probably sounds ridiculous.

I know this was really long, but nobody is responding and it is making me think that I was wrong, was I?

Don't let this get to you; I can see how excited you were to use your soon to be new last name on your return address label but I know that had I done something like that, my mom would have freaked out, too. Maybe sometimes mom's crave more tradition - in any case, this will blow over soon and I don't think that you did anything wrong.

hey..

I dont think it is a huge deal but maybe your mom just wasnt ready for that just yet. Mothers are starnge creatures and you never know when i will hit them that their 'baby' is really growing up and getting married.

My mom was crying packing up the christmas ornaments because she put mine in a separate box. I didnt know this and got home from work and she stared a huge fight with me. I was so upset but then my dad told me what happened and I sorta felt bad.

I would just try and talk to her and see if there is another reason she is upset.

I don't thinl you did anything wrong. You have so much to look forward to, dont let anyone make you fell otherwise. I'm sure your mother will calm down, just let this disagreement die down.

I also live with my FH, but I am still excited about my wedding and even though after the wedding we will be right back in the same place - it is still a huge step to be a mrs.

I think your mother over-reacted BIG TIME. Just my opinion. I would have freaked out on my mom if she got mad over that because seriously.. Your engaged to be married.. you are going to change your name eventually anyway. AND you live togehter What is the big deal? Its an address label. I can see if you still lived at home. Very strange.

honestly to me thats really silly of your mom to over-react like that

maybe she was just feeling how final it is that you will be a married woman and it freaked her out and she took it out on you

i hate it when i hear that people talk about something i did or am doing behind my back...families are catty that way

just let her get over it. it wont matter once you are married so try not to sweat it

TOTALLY NOT a big deal. Its a frigging return address label- you didnt go and change your birth certificate for petes sake. Maybe your mom is stressing over the wedding etc and little things are beginning to piss her off.
Let her know that you love her and dont want to spend time being angry at each other and its something that you may have used (although i personally dont think so) poor judgement on.

I think your mom got a little too upset over nothing. They're just return labels and she didn't even notice them herself. I wouldn't worry about it.

However, me myself, i wouldn't have used them. I had address labels made up from online and i had them... Ali & Steve Sheades. I thought if i put my full name and his full name, it would have either been cut off or too long. I've used them for over a year like that and no one says anything, nor cares.

You could do what i do, just don't send them to your mom or anyone in your family. Use them for cards you send to friends or for paying the bills.