Had a meltdown tonight........hurt by my bridal party

Hi Ladies, tonigt im upset, seriously upset, been crying for 2 hours. Let me explain. I am the kind of bride who doesnt ask much of my bridesmaids, just Buy your dress.

if you couldnt come to the engagement pary its ok. If you coudnt come to the bridal shower, i understand. If you couldnt come when every other girl came to try on dresses, its ok ill make time to go with u whenever is easiest for you. If youre busy with your own lives,dont worry i dont need much help with planning, when u have time thatd be great! i wanted everyone in one bmdress, but it was tooexpensive so i wentwith a more affordable one. Some girls thought my color choice would look really bad on them cuz of their weight or skin tone, so i changed my colors so theyd be comfortable. THey didnt like the thin sash, so I paid an extra 300 dollars for the thick sashes for each girl, leaving them to only pay an extra 10 added to their alteration bill!! i bought them DOJ so they wouldnt have to. I alsobought them each a set of pearls and made them a tote bag filled with everyting they would need the weekend of the wedding, so they wouldnt have to worry about them! I told them to wear any shoes they want sothey dont have tospend extra money. When some asked if tey could take off the DOJ, or said they dont wear earrings that rntgold, i said ok just please wear them for photos then change them afer ceremony! when asked if they could change out of the dress half way throug the nigt i said ok, when theydidnt want to pay toget theirhair or makeup done i said ok, when i asked for help putting invitations together i was told they wre busy, i said it was fine......i havent gtten any help from thm except for the one girl who lives in Jersey and my sister. At the bridal shower only karen (from jersey) and my sister helped with anything, 3 bms missed it. 1 missed my engagement party as well. no one calls to see how im doing if i need anything, and when i call them they dont answer and dont call back for lik a week. I knowthey r busy, but they said yes to being bridesmaids.

So all this has been on my mind, then my sister tells me today that the bridal party, my so called best friends, are giving her a really hard time wit the bachelorette party. it was supposed to beat one place, but was too expensive so she changed it. she planned it back in october so the grls could save up. Everyone told her they would go.

this week she received calls from each of thegirls, that they cant go or tht she has tochange it to only one night. The only 3 able to go right now is my sister,karen, and my cousin (who is paying to put herself through college but put the money away and askedher mother toohelp her!) . These are the others:

One girl: my own big sister in my sorority, didnt come to my engagement party cuz she had a bachelorette party for somone she hated in college but has become friends with now. she didnt come to my bridal shower cuz she had a law test monday (it was sunday-she ws in the city the shower on long island). now cant come more than one night? but can go to someone she hated for 4 years bachelorette party?!

my little sister (sorotiy), one of my best frieds, whose been telling me sinceday one she would go, now has a boyfriend and all of a sudden cant go?! she just got home from france, a random trip she decided on with friends, and cant go away for 2 nights with me? if she told her parents she wanted to go theyd send her!

my so called best friend since lik6th grade, goes to mohegan sun with her boyfriend once a month, but cant afford to go away withus now?!


should i keep going? i have 9 girls all together. its getting me more upset and annoyed thinking about it!!! i didnt ask for much, i even said make it at home i dont care!!! then i said cancel it all together. but why is it that when i ask for one thing, its a major problem?! I would do anything for these girls!!!! ANYTHING, but from what i have learned tonight, they wont for me.

you may think im being spoiled and selfish, but im not. my sister said, come up with another idea even less expensive here at home, we can do that, but none of them came up with any ideas for her!!!

Theres something i learned tonight, that one of u girls mentioned when i first joined LIW, that u learn whoyour true real friends are during the time u r planning ur weddng.

thanks for listening ladies ........ if u have any advice for me, i could use it. i feel very hurt and alone rght now. when i tried to talk to FH about it he says'Scr ew them'. thats not a response that helps at all.